Pressure for grandchildren

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angrybitch

At the beginning of the year, SIL cornered me in the kitchen and told me her kids were disappointed that they wouldnt have a cousin to play with and i should have at least one. :hs

This women isnt exactly a shining beacon for motherhood, so i was stunned when she had the nerve to say that.

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angrybitch

At the beginning of the year, SIL cornered me in the kitchen and told me her kids were disappointed that they wouldnt have a cousin to play with and i should have at least one. :hs

This women isnt exactly a shining beacon for motherhood, so i was stunned when she had the nerve to say that.

Christ! Sounds like we share the same SIL, mine did exactly the same thing. Her exact words were "Now that your niece is here, do you think you could tone down your hate of children because she would love a little cousin to play with!" I nearly lamped her, especially when she is forever dumping her child on anyone who'll have it and swans off on holiday with my brother. No word of a lie she is on her third holiday this year while the child stays with my Sister in Law's mother (who in turn is a massive breeder herself and shat out 4 kids) and she is always in the pub. She smoked and drank for the whole of her pignasty and then has the bare faced cheek to take the piss out of me when I was in hospital with kidney stones saying that I'd brought on myself due to the fact I like a G&T now and then.

I find it pretty immature that she has to resort to petty comments, and it's sad that someone who is only 24 is so set on following the life script to the letter while berating anyone who is in the slightest way different.

Funnily enough I don't get any shit about producing grandparents from either my parents or my grandparents but I always get in the neck from my brother and his breederific wife. Both of which I hasten to add are younger than me. I'm happy being the crazy dog lady...

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satansbitch
Get you inlaws each a reborn doll for their next birthdays.

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Dear Leave: You have to be more assertive and less nice to these amazingly rude, intrusive people. Tell them, "We're sorry if you are disappointed, but the topic of pregnancy is not under discussion. Scott and I will decide when or if to start a family have children. If you persist in bringing up the subject, we will be forced to leave." Then ignore all angry comments in response and leave if you need to.

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angrybitch
i tell ya, it drives me up the wall!! My own mother who had a bad case of baby rabies a while back, kept telling me children where wonderful and i'd feel differently once i had my own.
My response?

"are you going to look after it for the next 18 + years and look after it when i have to go to work, feed it, get up with it in the night? No? then why the fuck would i have something that i didnt want to begin with and get no help with? Its a very big risk to say you'll love it when its here. No i fucking wont.
I'll hate it and despise it forever. If you want a baby so much, have one yourself and leave my utereus alone!"

The bingos stopped from her for a bit until my 15 year old sister asked me why i hate children and she wanted a niece.
Heads rolled that night people, heads rolled.

After his sister came out with that bullshit, i told FI who took 6 weeks to talk to her ,( for some reason he sees his fuck of a sister as some bloody martyr) said she was only joking and i shouldnt take things so seriously.
Needless to say, i still feel a bit raw and i called FI a "fucking baby who wont stand up to his family who have his balls hidden in their fridge" he got socks thrown at him as well. I love him to bits, but there are point where i would happily thump him for stupid comments. He never really gets bingo's or not on the level that i get them, so he doesnt get how frustrating it is.
When i first met him,he literally would drop everything for the fabled sister and her brats, but i think thats a tale for another day...........

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Dear Leave: You have to be more assertive and less nice to these amazingly rude, intrusive people. Tell them, "We're sorry if you are disappointed, but the topic of pregnancy is not under discussion. Scott and I will decide when or if to start a family have children. If you persist in bringing up the subject, we will be forced to leave." Then ignore all angry comments in response and leave if you need to.

Annie's response needs a little editing.

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tausa
I've not had the grandchildren thing as my parents are both dead, but my eldest brother did inform me when I was about 28: "It'd be great if the kids had a cousin to play with at xmas. You are long past the shame of teen pregnancy, so it wouldn't matter."

Why thank you. How very odd of you. I let him know that it was quite an imposition to as me to raise a child for 18 years (and on my own as I was and still am single) just so his children could have someone to bicker with on xmas day. Also pointed out that the law as it stood at that time would not allow lesbians to adopt or access IVF, so what a shame, no can do.

Since then, my sister has adopted two children from the foster system and my half brother has had three kids, so brother's four kids have ample enough cousins and this auntie can opt out of that race.

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tausa
I've not had the grandchildren thing as my parents are both dead, but my eldest brother did inform me when I was about 28: "It'd be great if the kids had a cousin to play with at xmas. You are long past the shame of teen pregnancy, so it wouldn't matter."

Why thank you. How very odd of you. I let him know that it was quite an imposition to as me to raise a child for 18 years (and on my own as I was and still am single) just so his children could have someone to bicker with on xmas day. Also pointed out that the law as it stood at that time would not allow lesbians to adopt or access IVF, so what a shame, no can do.

Since then, my sister has adopted two children from the foster system and my half brother has had three kids, so brother's four kids have ample enough cousins and this auntie can opt out of that race.

See, I think one of the reasons they're pushing for relative spawning is that this way, they'll get free familial babysitting services since they'd have you wrangled into taking care of the snot-buckets too, both theirs and yours. This way, they can have 'couple time' and can push their spawn off on you anytime they want because, well, fambleeee should take care of each other. I mean, what else are you there for but to be a doormat for your siblings. s

I told my parunts that I'm not having them; my sibling get's to take care of that duty and their happy to oblige for some reason. All the more power to them.

No one should have to do anything. If they want to be grandmoos and grandduhs, they have siblings who treat their body like a pignasty factory. If not, they can always be creepy and go out on Sundays to see all the sproglings that populate famblee restaurants. There's plenty out there, and the moos all love the babystalking attention. It's a win-win for both grandparunts and moomoo/duhd. Problem solved. Stay the fuck away from us with the guilt-trip shit.
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thom_c
Ok dudes, ever had this one?

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