Being a housewife shouldn't = baby maker.

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mazey
I'm in my late 30s, in the beginning of our relationship my husband didn't understand anxiety and panic attacks. I was taking medication and in therapy at the time we met, but over the years he grew to understand my condition. He's a professional musician, he's outgoing and he's a natural speaker and is good with people, we're totally opposite in that regard. We've been together over 10 years now and there have been times in our relationship when he didn't have a job and I was the breadwinner or times when we both worked and I had more work than he did, so it all balances out. We look out for each other. When I was in my 20s I functioned much better in society and was able to socialize a bit and work but a long course of events set me back. I think I will probably have to start taking anti-anxiety meds again soon. I haven't taken any for about 3 or 4 years now. I don't feel like a prisoner in my own house, I feel like a prisoner of my own mind sometimes, lol.

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toomanybrats


I am also a gamer! Mass Effect, Dead Space, Fallout 3, BioShock, Half-Life 2

I LOVE RE5! I also thoroughly enjoy Deus Ex: Human Revolution.

HA! I love your comeback to that dummy. It clearly states "No way in hell!" It's amazing how breeder-brains just don't get it.

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starlady

How long have you been married? We're going on 35 years here.

Yes, once you get past the chyld baring years... it does get easier. My hyst at 40 sealed the deal in most eyes. (as written in another post... my father was a nut and apparently didn't know how reproduction worked. Maybe it's why I was adopted...lol)

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kidlesskim
The less people know about your life or why you don't have a "regular" job, the better off you'll be. People will always be judgmental if you don't fit their preconceived mold so telling them you have a disability, unless you are in a wheel chair, will only invite unwanted commentary because "invisible disabilities" aren't acceptable to the vast majority. If it's a mutual choice between married people that one doesn't have a traditional "job", they will assume something other than what it is and make uninvited commentary on THAT too, as you have already experienced. If they ask what you "do" you can always ask them why they want to know and you will get an interesting array of responses which makes it easier for YOU to counter or evade. While you are waiting on their response is also a good time for you to think of a response too since so many of them seem to enjoy catching people off guard with their intrusive line of questioning.

It's really NONE of anyone's business what you do or don't do, including if you have a job. "Why would you want to know", or "Why do you ask?" puts them on the defensive and less likely to dole out unsolicited advice, at least that's been my experience. A common response is, "I don't know, I was just curious" to which a good comeback is simply,"Oh, okay" and then change the subject with a question like, "What does YOUR wife do?" or, "I do a lot of things, which one would you like to know about?" If you say it with the right tone and follow it up with a question it should cut their nosy ass off at the knees.

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blackpearl
"You'll never get a job here, you'd better start having baybeees at least you get money for it"eyes2

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bell_flower
The guy in your unit sounds like kind of guy who can't stand to see an unencumbered female--wants all of them knocked up and knocked down a peg or two.

What works for you is your business. As long as you aren't asking him to support you, it's NOHB.

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blackpearl
"You'll never get a job here, you'd better start having baybeees at least you get money for it"eyes2

/: Gah. I want to punch them for you D: They are one of the things wrong with the USA. I mean I love my country but I do not love most of the people in it.

On a sidenote: If you're an immigrant where are you from? I don;t think I've seen you say...I probably missed it lol.

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blackpearl


I'm not living in USA, but in Scandinavia, moved few years ago from Romania. Majority of immigrant women here are exactly how i said above and no wonder i'm put into the same category. Most of locals who are friends with my DH's family or DH are expecting me to pop out a parasite any moment, everytime they meet there is always the question: is she knocked up yet? It seems that my efforts to get my MA and a job do not count.

Perhaps. I couldn't tell if he was a misogynistic asshole or just a programmed breeder drone. He acted like he had never encountered anyone that didn't want kids and couldn't understand what we were saying at all.

To be honest i can't make the difference. The specimens i met had both these characteristics...male breeders are most of the times misogynistic assholes and otherway round.

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blondie
I've been bingoed just for working from home. People like to talk about their jobs so it's very common to be asked what you do. Whatever the answer is should satisfy the asker but it doesn't and there lies the problem. If you can't deal with the answer, don't ask the question.

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le_recepteur
I find it awesome that you're enjoying your life while still being financially stable. Personally, it's not the life for me, but my life isn't your life. :3 Of course, only breeders would automatically correlate housewife to SAHM.

However, I wouldn't exactly call it a "job". A way of living, yes. However, comparing it to a job is no better than those moo's who call themselves nurses and cooks.

*I saw the word "job" in the OP, so if you retracted that statement, then see it as obsolete.

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bluevelvet
Here is how I got sterilized. I complained INCESSANTLY to a woman gyn about my horrible, painful, messy periods (which was true) and got that thing where they burn out your uterine tissue. I LOVE IT. No more periods.

It works, people! What are they going to do, have a guard live with you and check your tampons?

It was also almost painless.

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blondie
I've been bingoed just for working from home. People like to talk about their jobs so it's very common to be asked what you do. Whatever the answer is should satisfy the asker but it doesn't and there lies the problem. If you can't deal with the answer, don't ask the question.

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mr. neptune
Quills, my sister had the procedure. It is called a uterine ablation. Ask your OB/GYN about it, although you might get "bingoed".

As for the working from home, do you find that a lot of military families are into Amway? (aka Scamway)? If so, they will Never shut up about their business!

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le_recepteur
I find it awesome that you're enjoying your life while still being financially stable. Personally, it's not the life for me, but my life isn't your life. :3 Of course, only breeders would automatically correlate housewife to SAHM.

However, I wouldn't exactly call it a "job". A way of living, yes. However, comparing it to a job is no better than those moo's who call themselves nurses and cooks.

*I saw the word "job" in the OP, so if you retracted that statement, then see it as obsolete.

job
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AGREED!! Exactly what I do. It IS a job. Not a job I go to that brings home a paycheck, but it's a job where I have responsibility for things that must be done. Some may think it's 'cushy' but it can be hard and time consuming. I get tired and I get sore from housework, cooking, yard work and running errands. Done right... it ain't no walk in the park.
anything a person is expected or obliged to do; duty; responsibility:.

I was using this definition of the word. But you can pretend I didn't say "job" if that floats your boat. I'm still performing a service for another human being that in turn keeps a roof over my head.