CJ, I read Kathleen Parker's smug article. She has always acted as if abortion is so tragic and "sexually fast women" bad despite having those three sons. As if those Almighty Penis Offspring have never had sex regardless of one or two of them being teens or past teen years. Who the hell are these boys getting it on with? Of course, Parker would view that as "boys doing what boys do".
Back to the topic...
Abortion and sterilization in Ms. Parker's mind is selfish while breeding is selfless. I am reading Nickie Defago's book
Childfree and Loving it!. It says a lot how women are the worst when it comes to attacking
other women for avoiding and escaping those babies.
Breeding is very narcissistic as the author states. Most parents did not have those babies to "better" society but for their own needs: to pass on the family name, appease religion, just because they wanted one or to feel loved, etc. A mother does not get involved in her child's education because she wants to help ALL children. She does it because HER child attends that school. A father will ref a soccer team or Little League because his child plays on the team rather than to be charitable enough to be there for the
other children. He would not do this work if his OWN child had no interest in playing on the team. Parents only get freaked if a sexual predator moves to THEIR neighbourhood. They do not care if the creep moves onto someone
ELSE'S neighbourhood despite how many kids live there.
Kathleen Parker needs to look at herself and ask WHY she had her kids. I think she is a divorced mom. Don't quote me on that. I believe I read it years back. The lady did not birth those three babies because she felt those boys would somehow make this world a better place. The lady does not write about the wonderful things those sons are doing for humanity!
I feel more secure as a person by not breeding. I have married the wrong person more than once. I was able to get out of those marriages despite staying in the last one far too long because I do NOT have those children to worry about. There was no financial insecurity when I left this last husband but just the opposite. The divorce was final on 11/14 and I got the papers to change my name back. I am free of this person. If I had bred, I would still be anchored to an ex regardless of the marital contract being legally broken. I never needed to feel I must replicate myself to be a complete person. I do not have the arrogance of how my family line is so "great" that I need to pass on the lineage. Snaring men has never been my goal so I did not have to resort to pregnancy to make any of them marry me. I also do not believe in the Judeo-Christian god or that holy book so the commandments to breed more believers to up church numbers mean nothing to me.
Having the first tubal at age 23 was the most responsible thing I have done as a young adult other than always work for what I want. I knew from childhood how motherhood was not my path so I wanted to be pro-active. When the first tubal failed, I immediately aborted because I do not follow the herd and just give birth because someone said my tubal failing was a "sign from above (aka God-duh)". A year and four months later, I got the second tubal because I always feared another "+" pregnancy test and what would happen if abortion was outlawed. Also, I wanted a more sure method than b/c pills and over-the-counter methods.
Having the second tubal made me far more secure. I am almost 44. I do NOT regret being a childfree-by-choice woman and aborting. I did not do it for "the planet" but for myself. I applaud anyone who can make a decision for their lives regardless of societal fall out. However, I do worry about the enviro-CF'ers. I knew of some people who said they would not breed due to the "environment" only to have a baby claiming they would be different. I just hope none of those women do boo-hoo :bawl and lament over how they really want those babies later on...
'Nuff said out of me for a few minuutes...:sw