Re: I openly hate my son, but its all worth it! August 11, 2015 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 256 |
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Cambion
Creative types seem to especially have a lack of a desire to reproduce, which makes sense. The very core of creativity is freedom, which you have absolutely none of after having kids. Some are specifically childfree while I think others simply don't find the time to get around to dating, fucking and breeding.
Re: I openly hate my son, but its all worth it! August 12, 2015 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,603 |
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evilchildlessbitch
Yes, I'm married but I don't feel attacked.
I never really thought I would be married or in a long term relationship and I was fine with that. I won't dispute that having my husband in my life makes it better but I have never been unhappy not being in a relationship.
I am an introvert who lived alone for my entire adult life until I married at 33. I never longed for somebody to be in a relationship or "complete me." I guess most people are extroverts who feel lonely without a partner and that is fine for them. What isn't fine is settling and then whining about it or breeding and then complaining they never wanted it.
I believe people should live their lives on their own terms. They can compromise what they wish and decline where they wish.
What I can't deal with is people who compromise and then blame others. If a person really doesn't want kids or step-dad they will decline those relationships. My general observation has been that people who aren't happy alone aren't happy as part of a couple. They expect their partner to miraculously make them feel happy and better about themselves. This is an unfair burden. I firmly believe people should be happy with themselves alone before attempting to be happy in a marriage and/or parenthood.
Re: I openly hate my son, but its all worth it! August 12, 2015 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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aes sedai
I'm a right-brain, out-there, unapologetic writer and artist. I only date men who are creative types. All of them have been either openly childfree or couldn't give two fucks about the whole kid question.
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mrs. chinaski
I am definitely CF by choice for many, many reasons.
I am not creative at all. You know, these posts are like
the height of my creativity :-))))
I am introverted, my mother was narcissistic and my father
was abusive.Maybe there is a clue.
I also believe in living life on my own terms.
I am at least always trying.
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mrs. chinaski
Interesting...
I also never wanted to breed.
I've always wished to have a great partner
and an interesting, harmonious life with him.
"me &you, just us 2"
Chyldren were never in any of my phantasies.
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Re: I openly hate my son, but its all worth it! August 12, 2015 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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mrs.Chinaski
On the TCFL board is a thread "more CF-ers who aren't CF".
The consensus was that "a lot of women pretend to be genuinely CF
when they have not met someone willing to breed with them yet."
-> this applies to you Techie, too. They faked it, met you and then decided
that you are the right one and wanted a baybeh.
You didn't and that was the end of the relationship.
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Re: I openly hate my son, but its all worth it! August 12, 2015 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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Techie
I am far from being an artist, but I never had any desire to breed. Zero. But, that may explain why I had very hard time finding someone who was true CF - I am not artistic. I am a techie. They say opposites attract, but reality is that people must have something in common.
Re: I openly hate my son, but its all worth it! August 12, 2015 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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Techie
There is probably 5 CF men for each CF woman. With so many choices, why would she bother?
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Peace
Techie, who says techies aren't creative? Just because you don't sing, dance, play musical instruments, paint, draw, etc...doesn't make you non-creative. Think of your work, our job, and the things yo do as a techie. You have to be creative to solve problems on the spot for customers. Designing new software requires creativity.
You're still creative. You're just using non-traditional tools to do it.
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Techie
Presto, I grew up in a relatively low income, large city area. Men wanted sex, women wanted baybees. Those 2 would part ways as soon as both got what they wanted.
Religion did not exist and because most of us were raised by single mothers, all we would hear was that all men were complete douche bags and how men made women have baybees. I learned that I am not going to be such man. Once I became an adult, women would then bitch that I would not give them baybees - WTF?
Presto, I know our backgrounds are different, but allow me to tell you, people are fucked up everywhere. They always find something to bitch about. My conclusion is that breeding just sucks.