"....We're going to Utah for a nice long visit..... And I'm a little worried. Constance (3.2) still asks to nurse sometimes, you know, right in front of everyone. She's very clear too.
I don't want to deal with the looks and questions. I don't mind at all that she's still nursing, but I don't want to hear about it from anyone else
~I've complained about living in Korea, but at least here I'm just the crazy lady who still nurses her 3 year old... that's how everyone got to know me. In Utah are all my friends and family who knew me before I had a child and well, they're gonna say something. (which I probably deserve since I was full of advice before I had a child )
Any advice on how to help your child stop asking in public, without making the child feel that nursing is wrong?
or
What to say when they say " You're still nursing?"
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"Hmmmmm. Well, the only thought I have is to try the 'whispering game'. My lo's always loved it from about 2 yrs to about 4 yrs old. If there was anything I found embarassing in public (i.e. I have to POOP, Mommy!) I'd have them cup their little hands and whisper in my ear at home as well as while we were out. They thought it was funny and loved the fact that all they had to do was wave their hand at me and cup their hands over their mouths and they had instant mommy attention all to themselves. Maybe that would work if you started it at home before your trip?"
I have no advice, but I'm getting into this category also. DS is pretty good about not asking in public, but sometimes he forgets. (We're STILL trying to get the DO NOT LIFT MY SHIRT! manners down. Luckily, I catch him before he dives in. )
"We are going to a family reunion in July, and I'm also worried about what my family might say. They have really, REALLY big mouths and tend to confuse "teasing" with "love" .... and I just don't feel like dealing with that!....." I am fine with it right now.....but the way DS is going, he would nurse forever. And I'm just not sure how I feel about that. Granted, I never thought I'd be comfortable nursing a 3 year-old.....but sometimes I really feel like my limit might be approaching...."
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"I would try the whispering trick or introducing a code word, and I would also just try to steel yourself to what your family thinks. I decided that "Pass the bean dip" is the best option unless someone is really genuinely curious about why we still nurse. I don't announce that we are still nursing, but I am honest about it if it comes up in conversation. (Like, how do you get her to sleep? Or, When did you stop nursing her? When I answer those questions, there's usually an "Oh" and then the subject changes which is fine by me.)"
"Whisper", "use code words", and "PASS THE BEAN DIP"?. Obviously they are aware that the general public thinks that they are insane, or worse. Instead of hiding it, WHY DON'T THEY JUST STOP??????????