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Cassia, I get the feeling that anyone who receives a gift from you would have to appreciate it, unless they were a complete ass. You sound extremely generous.
Like you, I don't like to give gifts on demand. I prefer to give friends gifts when I know of something they'd appreciate but don't expect. With my parents I get them something when I have a great idea. Other years, if I have the money, I make donations to charity for them. When I don't have money I don't give them anything.
I've found that since I started earning my own money thoughtfulness and time matter so much more than things I could purchase for myself. Last year the best gift I got was a homemade card.
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If Ted and Lisa have long been the non-parents at child-centric family events, then their choice might be a coping mechanism for them, not a slap to your kids -- especially if they want to be parents but keep hitting obstacles.
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learnernotlurker
Guaranteed bingo to older CFs: "Charity begins at home!" Every breeder in the world is sure s/he's invented that piece of brilliance.
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mrs. chinaski
I've never understood why related people think they are
somehow entitled to your assets only "because you are family".
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mrs. chinaski
I've never understood why related people think they are
somehow entitled to your assets only "because you are family".
The only explanation I can come up with, is that they're assholes with a huge mentality of entitlement.
Also, please keep in mind, that your kindness and gift giving will never be reciprocated. Ever.
What I've noticed about breeders is that they often don't even attend each other's events. They expect and DEPEND on CF people to attend and fork over money or gifts. They're not too strict on whether other breeders are also forking over cash. And that's another reason why I'm slowly opting out of these events. The gifts are expected, not appreciated, and they will never be reciprocated anyway.
Breeders view you as a human ATM, filled with not only oodles of money, but unlimited time too. They view each other as comrades, of sorts. Like they're on the same team.
Sorry folks, I'm done with it. These events are wealth-extraction schemes and I've drawn my line in the sand. I know in time everyone here will as well.
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mrs. chinaski
@ Studio54:
"The gifts are expected, not appreciated, and they will never be reciprocated anyway."
--> That's true too. As you are a guy you probably don't know the series Sex and the City
as well as I do :-) There is one episode "Women's right to shoes". Carrie's expensive shoes
(Manolos) get stolen at the baby shower and the host Kyra doesn't want to pay compensation for it.
Then Carrie starts counting how much money she already spent to celebrate Kyra's life choices
- gifts for engagement, wedding, 1st baby shower, 2nd baby shower...
In the end, Carrie sends an invitation to Kyra that she is going to marry herself and that the registry
is with Manol* B*ahnik :-)))
Wenn it comes to breeders, I think about this SATC episode a lot.
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hana
This pretty much sums up breeders. My famblee treated me like a meat based ATM and free on call bratsitter the moment the Golden Parasite was conceived. The relative I speak to is my grandmother. The only time I receive invitations from breeders is for give giving occasions for their sprogs. Then they moo and low that I'm being selfish for declining and not inviting their demon spawn to a cocktail party I'm hosting. Pretty much socialize with older people with offspring my age so far none have become grandbreeders.
Post surgery I keep getting the you can't take it with you bingo, so I talked with an attorney and have my estate settled. I explicitly cut off the Golden Cow and her cunt dropping, they get nothing from me if Takeo dies first. Stuff gets donated to different organizations, and money goes to Planned Parenthood and the no kill animal shelter.
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StudioFiftyFour
Here's the harsh truth: No matter how much you give to a breeder, it's never enough. They are very adept at putting on a show for the holidays, birthdays, religious occasions, etc. etc. etc. But they will never invite you to their home for a lunch, dinner, or ANY simplistic gathering in which you would not be expected to bring a gift.
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StudioFiftyFour
Good, I'm glad to hear that you've drawn your line in the sand, too.
Social norms take a long time to establish but I believe it will be CF folks like you who will slowly re-write the etiquette "book," so to speak.
I applaud you for planning ahead and getting your will in place. An ironclad will prevents the usual breeder bonanza following a death in the family. Nice job!
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hana
Took a long time to draw the line, but I'm happier and healthier for doing it. Downside of being dead is not being able to see the look on the Golden Cow's and/or Golden Parasite's face when they learn they're not getting shit from me.