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Modern breeders vs parents of the past July 30, 2015 |
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mrs. chinaski
That's an interesting topic.
I think that the main issue is that chyldren were
a part of life in the past, today they
are the centre of life.
I don't know what and why it changed.
I also think that people used to be smarter
in the past. Now, we have the first generation
of Idiocracy as parunts.
I know breeders who have one chyld and act as if
they had 10.
I know breeders you cannot talk to because any kind
of conversation leads to chyyyyyld.
I know breeders who openly despise me for being CF.
I know breeders who think I don't deserve any money
because I am CF.
I think I've already seen it all.
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JohnDrake
I think it goes along with the rise of narcissism in our society. With more people being narcissistic, more parents will be too. There have been discussions of narcissistic parents in other threads and it used to be those kind were few and far between, now they are commonplace. Narcissistic parents don't think the kid is an individual, they think the kid is an extension of themselves and exists primarily to meet the needs of the parents and the kid's needs don't matter. The kid has to be in loads of activities and have tons of trophies, awards, etc., so the parents can brag and be proud. Who cares if the kid just wants to be a kid?
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starbelly
Breeders these days want to micromanage their kyds' schedules. They have them in soccer practice, followed by piano lessons, followed by tai-kwon-do, followed by helping with dinner, followed by homework... The kids have no free time, which leads to the entitlement we see in the younger generation. They have been scheduled and catered to like fucking pop stars with somebody managing their every minute.
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mrs. chinaski
I think that the main issue is that chyldren were
a part of life in the past, today they
are the centre of life.
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starbelly
Breeders these days want to micromanage their kyds' schedules. They have them in soccer practice, followed by piano lessons, followed by tai-kwon-do, followed by helping with dinner, followed by homework... The kids have no free time, which leads to the entitlement we see in the younger generation. They have been scheduled and catered to like fucking pop stars with somebody managing their every minute.
I know guys today who have shoulders, hips, and knees who are completely shot in their early 40s as a result of playing all of these organized sports for so many years. And they didn't even play them to the degree that today's kids are playing them. One co-worker has a kid who loves baseball, so he plays on the town team, travel team, fall ball team, and indoor offseason workout team.
What is the point of spending so much time and money on these organized sports? Unless the kid is going to be a professional athlete, why waste so many resources on these pointless activities? (And remember, 99.999% of them won't be professional athletes.)
When I go into work on Monday, I find myself speechless when I hear that parents are spending literally all of their free hours on weekends watching a bunch of 8 year olds play soccer. That sounds like torture for the parents, and for the kids, too. I see no good reason for this.
Re: Modern breeders vs parents of the past July 31, 2015 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 197 |
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jarednovio
My grandmother had 9 children.
She loved reading books, playing the piano, making flower compositions, singing, playing cards with friend. And she kept doing those things despite 8 children.
She never once in her life has said something like "being a mother is so hard" or "they should make me a statue" or "my children are perfect" or "I don't have time". She never once thought that she had to abandon her friends and interest and 100% obsess about being a mother, buying useless things to their children and make every conversation 100% about their kids and their perfection.
Then what's so wrong with today breeders if even after just 1 ONE child they feel entitled to: abandon their friends, claim to have no free time, making children the only topic of their conversation, showing millions of children pictures to everyone, whine about how expensive having a child is because of all the spongebob/frozen/child-safery mafia/disney channel cable stuff you HAVE to buy, expect everyone to play with their children for hours as if they were paid babysitters, change completely attitude/beliefs/interests because of the child.
My grandmother herself said "people try too hard today and them make a lot of mistakes as parents, they shoud avoid having children".
And again this shows to me that it's not something about breeders that makes them obnoxious and boring but about todays breeders and their pretensious culture, to the point that even the grandmothers criticize all the fuss they make about parenting.
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jarednovio
My grandmother had 9 children.
She loved reading books, playing the piano, making flower compositions, singing, playing cards with friend. And she kept doing those things despite 8 children.
She never once in her life has said something like "being a mother is so hard" or "they should make me a statue" or "my children are perfect" or "I don't have time". She never once thought that she had to abandon her friends and interest and 100% obsess about being a mother, buying useless things to their children and make every conversation 100% about their kids and their perfection.
Then what's so wrong with today breeders if even after just 1 ONE child they feel entitled to: abandon their friends, claim to have no free time, making children the only topic of their conversation, showing millions of children pictures to everyone, whine about how expensive having a child is because of all the spongebob/frozen/child-safery mafia/disney channel cable stuff you HAVE to buy, expect everyone to play with their children for hours as if they were paid babysitters, change completely attitude/beliefs/interests because of the child.
My grandmother herself said "people try too hard today and them make a lot of mistakes as parents, they shoud avoid having children".
And again this shows to me that it's not something about breeders that makes them obnoxious and boring but about todays breeders and their pretensious culture, to the point that even the grandmothers criticize all the fuss they make about parenting.
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JohnDrake
I think it goes along with the rise of narcissism in our society. With more people being narcissistic, more parents will be too. There have been discussions of narcissistic parents in other threads and it used to be those kind were few and far between, now they are commonplace. Narcissistic parents don't think the kid is an individual, they think the kid is an extension of themselves and exists primarily to meet the needs of the parents and the kid's needs don't matter. The kid has to be in loads of activities and have tons of trophies, awards, etc., so the parents can brag and be proud. Who cares if the kid just wants to be a kid?