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Career-oriented people almost never make good parents because they either feel they are above the cunt work involved in child care or because they care more about their jobs than about their kids. But people with well-paying jobs can usually afford to pay other people to raise their kids for them. Even then, it begs the question: if you obviously don't have time for kids or won't care about them at all because work is your main/sole priority, why even have them? If grandparents want to help out with their grandkids, then that's fine... the key words being "want" and "help." Not "forced to" and "raise." Your mother probably feels an obligation to be there for this kid when its parents don't want to be, but she already raised her kids. While I'm sure she loves her grandchild very much, it's not her child to raise.
The poor kid is going to be pulled in so many directions, probably developing an emotional connection to its caregivers instead of its parents because the caregivers are the ones who show the kid affection and raise it. Not to mention the parents undoing any progress made by its caregivers via neglect.
At this point, I would say it would be in everyone's best interests if your brother and ister-in-law surrendered the child to someone who will actually give a shit about it. If your mom is such a martyr, maybe she could adopt her grandkid. Since she's doing a vast majority of raising the kid to begin with, would it be that much of a difference? Does your SIL pay her for her time and effort? I'm assuming she doesn't because family are obligatory charity babysitters, as far as breeders are concerned.
I will never get career people who have kids. It's perfectly fine to be "married" to your job if that makes you happy. People who are so engulfed in their work often make significant contributions to their fields. Such people having kids is almost never a good idea because a child will not become a main priority to a career man or woman - it will just become an extra burden and will be treated as such. That's not fair to the kid.