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You can't feel desire and arousal if you don't have the time, energy, or privacy for it. But not letting your spouse touch you at all, ever, is not the solution -- not if you want to keep your connection with him. "The longer you go without intimacy with your partner, the harder it becomes for you to find each other again," says Rezaee.
Re: Moos always saying no to sex July 29, 2017 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 5,635 |
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randomcfchick
Right you are, thom.
They just want to remove that aspect of themselves, and the thing is that will also remove that aspect of their marriage. That's not healthy. Yes, no one is obligated to "put out" just because their partner's feeling randy, no one should be a sulky bitchy a-hole just because your partner's not in the mood...but you can't just expect your husband to paste on a smile and enjoy involuntary celibacy.
And when combined with the loss of identity that many women seem to allow to happen to themselves once they become parents...well, that's the end of the relationship. No sex, no real connection or identity together as partners and lovers...why stay?
I guess moms like these keep you in business, ladybug2203.
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randomcfchick
Hit the nail on the head, ladybug2203. Or should I say nails: madonna/whore complex (from both genders), people who have no business making a monogamous commitment, and general toxicity toward female sexuality.All of those issues together create a cluster-fuck that often pits both halves of a hetero couple against each other, and it keeps our culture fucked up. It also keeps counselors, divorce lawyers, and escorts in business, though.
Oh, and if you throw in any sort of control issues on either side, the sexual cluster-fuck is magnified tenfold. People who want to police or micromanage their partner's sexuality (such as "I don't want to have sex, but if you dare visit Rosy Palm then you're sick and wrong") or who expect their partner to accept endless unilateral celibacy with a smile and no end in sight...yeah, it's messed up.
All of the above is said with the same caveat that no one's expected to put out on command, and that dry spells happen, etc. No one's a machine, but communication and effort are golden.
Re: Moos always saying no to sex August 01, 2017 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 5,635 |
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randomcfchick
Hit the nail on the head, ladybug2203. Or should I say nails: madonna/whore complex (from both genders), people who have no business making a monogamous commitment, and general toxicity toward female sexuality.All of those issues together create a cluster-fuck that often pits both halves of a hetero couple against each other, and it keeps our culture fucked up. It also keeps counselors, divorce lawyers, and escorts in business, though.
Oh, and if you throw in any sort of control issues on either side, the sexual cluster-fuck is magnified tenfold. People who want to police or micromanage their partner's sexuality (such as "I don't want to have sex, but if you dare visit Rosy Palm then you're sick and wrong") or who expect their partner to accept endless unilateral celibacy with a smile and no end in sight...yeah, it's messed up.
All of the above is said with the same caveat that no one's expected to put out on command, and that dry spells happen, etc. No one's a machine, but communication and effort are golden.
We've discussed on this board how Moos get shafted with the bulk of the cunt work. If Duhs would do some cuntwork, he may get some.
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awesominatrix
I can somewhat relate in the sense that I also avoid intimacy when I've had way more social contact than I can handle. It's not that I don't want it or that I'm no longer attracted to my partner, I just find that it overstimulates me and makes me extremely anxious. If I had my personal space constantly invaded (especially by a kid), I would never want to be touched again either.
This is reason #23483098909 why I'm childfree.
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