Isn't finding a babysitter the PARENTS' responsibility? May 30, 2018 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,364 |
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Dear Amy: A family member is getting married. The bride and groom decided that they do not want children at the wedding or reception. However, they have made no provisions to provide babysitting for the several out-of-town relatives who have young children.
They have also not even offered to help those out-of-town relatives locate a babysitter. Consequently, those relatives have chosen to stay home and not attend the wedding.
Any suggestions on how this should have been handled?
-- Concerned Aunt
Dear Aunt: An obvious solution would have been for out-of-town family members to bring along their own competent babysitters, who could watch the kids at the hotel while the adults were at the wedding and reception.
If all the parents shared the expense, it would keep the cost down.
Re: Isn't finding a babysitter the PARENTS' responsibility? May 30, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 2,308 |
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kittehpeoples
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Dear Amy: A family member is getting married. The bride and groom decided that they do not want children at the wedding or reception. However, they have made no provisions to provide babysitting for the several out-of-town relatives who have young children.
They have also not even offered to help those out-of-town relatives locate a babysitter. Consequently, those relatives have chosen to stay home and not attend the wedding.
Any suggestions on how this should have been handled?
-- Concerned Aunt
Dear Aunt: An obvious solution would have been for out-of-town family members to bring along their own competent babysitters, who could watch the kids at the hotel while the adults were at the wedding and reception.
If all the parents shared the expense, it would keep the cost down.
My favorite entitlement signals: "They have also not even offered to help those out-of-town relatives locate a babysitter" (if they don't want kids there, and they're getting married, maybe they don't have kids and wouldn't even know a babysitter; and in any case, why the hell should they, who are undoubtedly concerned with other matters, find anyone else a fucking babysitter?) and "Any suggestions on how this should have been handled?" suggesting that this was NOT the way to handle it. Fuck her. Fuck her and anybody else who thinks their kids should be somebody else's problem.
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freya
It used to be the default that parents had the ability to find a babysitter whenever the occasion rose: parties with alcohol, overnight trips, weddings, funerals, bar nights, etc. Somewhere the gene must have mutated because it seems only the rare mutated parents are the ones who now possess this ability.
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yurble
There also seems to have been this shift in society infantalizing children. When I was younger, you could start being a babysitter at 15, and from about 11 you could be left alone for an evening. Whereas now, kids that are 12 need babysitters, which I presume means that babysitters must now be 23 and have a bachelor's in childhood development....and they still have to be willing to work for the kind of money that would inspire a young teenager. Or, better yet, do it for free because it takes a village, you know!
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yurble
There also seems to have been this shift in society infantalizing children. When I was younger, you could start being a babysitter at 15, and from about 11 you could be left alone for an evening. Whereas now, kids that are 12 need babysitters, which I presume means that babysitters must now be 23 and have a bachelor's in childhood development....and they still have to be willing to work for the kind of money that would inspire a young teenager. Or, better yet, do it for free because it takes a village, you know!
Re: Isn't finding a babysitter the PARENTS' responsibility? May 31, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,712 |
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mumofsixbirds
It is NOT the job of the bride and groom to arrange babysitting services for their families and friends. Weddings are stressful enough, with a lot of expenses that are incurred. It is the responsibility of the breeders to find babysitters.
I had a CF wedding, and anyone with kids were responsible for finding care for their kids. I was busy enough without worrying about what my guests were going to do about their own responsibilities.
Breeders are becoming more entitled by the second. It seems that this entitlement is starting to break down, especially when a breeder-friendly advice columnist tells them how it really is.