Waah! My adult kids are all moving away! They're so ungrateful! September 11, 2018 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 344 |
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"DEAR JANE: I had four children for a reason - so I'd always have a big family around me in my old age. But all four of them have now announced that they are moving miles away. The twins (23) are relocating to Dubai for work. My daughter (20) is going to London to be a nanny and my youngest son (19) is off to Scotland to be with his girlfriend.
I’m absolutely devastated, plus angry and bitter too. What a bunch of ungrateful lumps. I’ve worked so hard for all of them and this is how they repay me. From November 5 I’m going to be rattling around in a four-bedroom house all on my own. None of them are coming home for Christmas – and the twins say they do not even know when they will be in the UK again.
All around me my friends and neighbours are helping out with grandchildren and organising their children’s upcoming marriages and I feel like such a loser. I’m single and lonely and before me is a lifetime of disappointment and solitude. I don’t want to be that tragic woman who sits waiting for her kids to call home.
What really gets me is that everything has been done behind my back. My twins applied for their promotions in secret and only told me about their new careers once the contracts were signed, sealed and delivered. Same with the youngest two – I was only let in on their big plans once they were firmly in place.
I can see my closest friends looking on me with pity. The smug so-and-so’s are privately saying: “My kids would never do anything like that to me. What kind of mother must she be?” I can honestly say that I always put them first and my own interests second – and this is how I’m repaid. Is there any point in me carrying on?
JANE SAYS: Things may seem bleak, but you have to believe that your life will pick up again soon.
Try to think of your children’s departure as a job well done as, clearly, you’ve raised four confident, young adults who now feel ready to burst upon the world at large and make their mark. You love them so you must set them free. Of course your life is worth living because a new chapter is upon you. If rattling around in a big house (that needs cleaning and maintaining) starts to bring you down, then arrange to move.
Be proactive, set yourself targets and be ambitious. Basically, you can do anything and be anything you want to be. No-one wants to sit by the phone waiting for a call that never comes, so leave it them to track YOU down. Of course you feel demoralised and lost, but you cannot feel bitter or angry because life is too short for that kind of negativity.
You say you’re lonely, so is looking for love now a priority? Stop looking over your shoulder at friends and neighbours and be grateful there is nothing to hold you back. You’ve got your life all to yourself. Surely that’s got to be a good thing going forward? Remember The Samaritans (116 123) if you ever get desperate.
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My twins applied for their promotions in secret and only told me about their new careers once the contracts were signed, sealed and delivered.
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I can honestly say that I always put them first and my own interests second – and this is how I’m repaid. Is there any point in me carrying on?
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Let's just hope this cow doesn't become a foster parent
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Let's just hope this cow doesn't become a foster parent
Pretty sure foster parents have to go through counselling or some kind of psychological examination and background check; at least, I hope so - ain't no way a kid would get placed with this lunatic. Any kid that wasn't already messed up would be royally screwed from living with this bint.
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Let's just hope this cow doesn't become a foster parent
Pretty sure foster parents have to go through counselling or some kind of psychological examination and background check; at least, I hope so - ain't no way a kid would get placed with this lunatic. Any kid that wasn't already messed up would be royally screwed from living with this bint.