"Science says having a kid is one of the crappiest things that can happen to you" June 13, 2019 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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The researchers set out to understand the difference between the number of children people want, and the number they end up having. German people in particular say they want an average of two kids, and then only have one and a half. This statistic suggests that a huge number of people who want kids think better of it after they have that first one. Why would that be?
The study blames a "drop in well-being surrounding first birth," also known as "unhappiness."
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The drop in the reported happiness of new parents is beyond the level you might expect from sleepless nights, and dealing with poopy diapers. In fact, somewhat alarmingly, the unhappiness didn't set in until the first and second year after the birth. And when it did, it was some major misery.
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Re: "Science says having a kid is one of the crappiest things that can happen to you" June 16, 2019 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,976 |
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The drop in the reported happiness of new parents is beyond the level you might expect from sleepless nights, and dealing with poopy diapers. In fact, somewhat alarmingly, the unhappiness didn't set in until the first and second year after the birth. And when it did, it was some major misery.
Re: "Science says having a kid is one of the crappiest things that can happen to you" June 16, 2019 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,199 |
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The honesty is so refreshing. We can always hope a fence sitter will read this and opt out of Lifescript hell.
Re: "Science says having a kid is one of the crappiest things that can happen to you" June 19, 2019 | Registered: 5 years ago Posts: 106 |
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Cambion
And all this caring is absolutely not worth it. Compare to tending to the needs of, say, a sick sibling or spouse. That's someone you (most likely) genuinely love. You've known them for a long time, you've developed an emotional attachment and there is some sort of affection there that can make even the hardest work worth it because you love them. Now imagine that same level of commitment to someone you don't really know who is a complete asshole, doesn't give a fuck about you, and you're not paid to deal with them and you can't get away from them. That's what it's like raising a kid. It's not a labor of love, it's a labor of necessity. You have this fuckin' kid, now you gotta deal with it even though you want to drown it in the toilet.
All for a couple of cute Kodak moments. It's like busting your ass seven days a week at a horrible underpaying job with an asshole boss so you can have one day off every five years and you spend that whole day off being anxious about having to go back to the grind for five more years. Nope, not fuckin' worth it. Yet I'm sure plenty of people were offended by this study that tells us precisely what we already knew.
And sure, the breeders will never accept it. It's like the hobo smashing the mirror because it shows how filthy and disgusting he is.Quote
kittehpeoples
And they will resist the results of this study just as they do the previous ones...breeders can not accept this particular truth.
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