"I want another baby but it would stall my career" October 08, 2019 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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Mariella's advice would suit a woman who works in a job that is the same every day, where someone else can easily fill in for her maternity leave.
The letter-writer does not have such a job - she works on projects and worries that a pregnancy in the next year will disrupt a promised project. This is reasonable, and in fact, it shows that she is a good project manager.
I'm actually livid at Mariella's advice - instead of pointing out that the husband is worringly dismissive of her concerns about the timing of a pregnancy, Mariella thinks that the letter writer should just go on ahead and have a baby in the middle of a project, disrupting the work as well as her own career, because me-me-me is a sensible attitude to both work and motherhood.
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and I want a trip around the world, and I want a sailboat and a sports car... It is time that we weigh the costs and trade-offs of having children in the same way we weigh the affordability and trade-offs of other things we may aspire to. Wanting a 3rd child is akin to wanting a sports car, very expensive and not great for the environment.
Re: "I want another baby but it would stall my career" October 08, 2019 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,199 |
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I don’t know what sex your first child is, but once you have a daughter it’s hard to take anything on the chin that spells unfairness for her future. You have every right to run this new project, no responsibility to inform your boss that you are thinking of having another baby and every reason to forge ahead with energy and enthusiasm on both fronts.
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A BBC boss told my agent 15 years ago when my daughter was born that my “breastfeeding schedule was inconvenient” and stopped using me.
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Re: "I want another baby but it would stall my career" October 20, 2019 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 3,576 |
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In this response to a letter, Mariella considers it sexist that a project schedule can't accommodate a pregnancy. In her rambling response she manages to be outraged that someone didn't want to accommodate her breastfeeding schedule when she was a freelancer.
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Mariella's advice would suit a woman who works in a job that is the same every day, where someone else can easily fill in for her maternity leave.
The letter-writer does not have such a job - she works on projects and worries that a pregnancy in the next year will disrupt a promised project. This is reasonable, and in fact, it shows that she is a good project manager.
I'm actually livid at Mariella's advice - instead of pointing out that the husband is worringly dismissive of her concerns about the timing of a pregnancy, Mariella thinks that the letter writer should just go on ahead and have a baby in the middle of a project, disrupting the work as well as her own career, because me-me-me is a sensible attitude to both work and motherhood.Quote
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and I want a trip around the world, and I want a sailboat and a sports car... It is time that we weigh the costs and trade-offs of having children in the same way we weigh the affordability and trade-offs of other things we may aspire to. Wanting a 3rd child is akin to wanting a sports car, very expensive and not great for the environment.
Re: "I want another baby but it would stall my career" October 29, 2019 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 2,301 |
Re: "I want another baby but it would stall my career" October 29, 2019 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 3,576 |
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MerlynHerne
This doesn't sound as if she's at all positive about getting pregnant at this stage of her career--and with good reason. Her husband is a jerk for not being supportive of her career goals. And just what the bloody hell does Harvey Weinstein to do with this situation?
However, knowing that she already has one sprog, makes me less sympathetic. She needs to make up her mind as to what she wants. More children? Then stay home? A career? Then she needs to realize that she will have to postpone having more children if her career is more important to her.
Re: "I want another baby but it would stall my career" October 29, 2019 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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craftyzits
No, this silly twat needed to make the decision between work and career BEFORE she had the first twat. The decision-making days are over, if I was her employer, I'd ditch her when she had one bun in the oven.
Re: "I want another baby but it would stall my career" October 29, 2019 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 3,576 |
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craftyzits
No, this silly twat needed to make the decision between work and career BEFORE she had the first twat. The decision-making days are over, if I was her employer, I'd ditch her when she had one bun in the oven.
Good way to get sued, and to lose, big time. Besides, I don't see any reason people can't work when pregnant, or when they have children. What shouldn't be allowed is using either as an excuse to slack off.
Re: "I want another baby but it would stall my career" November 05, 2019 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,712 |
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Good way to get sued, and to lose, big time. Besides, I don't see any reason people can't work when pregnant, or when they have children. What shouldn't be allowed is using either as an excuse to slack off.
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