This this this.... parenthood as the giant lie February 28, 2021 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 3,846 |
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I wonder what it is about us CF people that look at high cost all around as in kids, and there are no unicorns in our thoughts, but parents heads and even wanna be parent's head are full of unicorn glitter
Re: This this this.... parenthood as the giant lie March 01, 2021 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,982 |
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Don't get me wrong. I love my children dearly, and can't imagine my life without them. But let's face the facts: Study after study has shown that parents, compared to adults without kids, experience lower emotional well-being -- fewer positive feelings and more negative ones -- and have unhappier marriages and suffer more from depression. Yet many of these same parents continue to insist that their children are an essential source of happiness -- indeed that a life without children is a life unfulfilled.
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They suspect that the belief in parental happiness is a psychological defense -- a fiction we imagine to make all the hard stuff acceptable. In other words, we parents have collectively created the myth of parental joy because otherwise we would have a hard time justifying the huge investment that kids require.
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All this makes sense from a historical perspective, the scientists point out: In an earlier time, kids actually had economic value; they worked on farms or brought home paychecks, and they didn't cost that much. Not coincidentally, emotional relationships between parents and children were less affectionate back then -- and childhood was much less sentimentalized. Paradoxically, as the value of children has diminished, and the costs have escalated, the belief that parenthood is emotionally rewarding has gained currency. In that sense, the myth of parental joy is a modern psychological phenomenon.
Re: This this this.... parenthood as the giant lie March 03, 2021 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 3,846 |
Re: This this this.... parenthood as the giant lie March 03, 2021 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,204 |
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the desperate need for constant breeding/growth is what drives this parenthood shit as well. tell the lie often enough they;ll believe it. this proves a statement I've made now and again that, as birth control became more available and reliant the shrill shill (say that 5 times fast) of babysell grew exponentially. Ranging from your 50's sitcoms on an unattainable famblee to todays constant hook ups and breeding. Usually some gaga barf of a resolution,.Quote
noble cow goes off to become a single mootard. If the shows actually revealed the real outcome of these situations, the despair, the hardships, they would probably lose viewers
Re: This this this.... parenthood as the giant lie March 03, 2021 | Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 652 |
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Re: This this this.... parenthood as the giant lie March 07, 2021 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,982 |
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We all know how crappy that feels, right? So let's imagine having a brat with someone in that situation. Being tied to that person makes things 1,000 times shittier not better.