Mombie mad because siblings refuse to take care of brother August 18, 2022 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 585 |
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I have three children, my boys Jay (20) and Jack (11). And my daughter Jen (18). Jack is on the autism spectrum, has severe ADHD, and has many other issues. We've known for a while now that Jack will never be self-sufficient. He needs constant care, and while he's been getting better, the doctors say he will probably never be able to be left alone for long periods of time.
Despite this, Jack is the sweetest boy you will ever meet. He's not violent at all and just needs help is all. Well, we've made sure that both of our neurotypical kids know that one day they are going to need to start taking care of Jack when the time comes when I and their dad cannot. Jen has always been neutral, but Jay has always been incredibly obstinate and rude about it. I've put it down to being young and having his life ahead of him but the year he went to college he made it very clear to me that he will not be taking care of Jake in any way and since then I've been arguing about it with him.
Well, right now Jay is home for a few weeks and things have been too good and should have been a sign to come. Friday night, Jay and Jen said they wanted to talk to me and their dad about something serious. Jay started off by saying that he's stepping in because Jen is too afraid to talk on her own to me about this. He said, very rudely, that neither of them will ever be taking care of Jake. He told me that they were not raised to be "caretakers" and that "it's absurd to expect their children to figure out this future issue for them."
I and Jay got into an incredibly heated shouting match. I truly believe this kind of mindset is selfish and evil. Jake is their brother, their flesh and blood, and he did not ask to need to be taken care of. For them to just abandon him like this is absurd. I'm not telling them to put their lives on hold and be his caretaker, only that when the time comes that we can't take care of him they will need to.
We got nowhere and my husband stepped in and took Jay out of the house, I had hoped to have a discussion about his actions but I know now that was not the case. Jay has not spoken a word to me since. Jen has been completely cold to me as well. When I brought the subject up last night to figure out her real opinions she just said "are you going to yell at me like you do Jay?: and that was the end of it.
Jay leaves tonight and I am still livid. I asked my husband this morning when he plans to actually get involved and he told me to "cool my fucking jets." He asked why I insist on ruining my relationship with our adult children and told me that Friday night Jay told him he's going no contact with me because all I do is yell at him.
I regret how I handled this now. But, at the same time, Jay is acting like a complete brat and I have a feeling he turned Jen against me and Jake as well.
Re: Mombie mad because siblings refuse to take care of brother August 18, 2022 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,713 |
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If you dig deep enough, the Auto Mod always copies the post text into the comments for exactly that reason:
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Evilcunt
For them to just abandon him like this is absurd. I'm not telling them to put their lives on hold and be his caretaker, only that when the time comes that we can't take care of him they will need to.
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I regret how I handled this now. But, at the same time, Jay is acting like a complete brat and I have a feeling he turned Jen against me and Jake as well.
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son
Jay started off by saying that he's stepping in because Jen is too afraid to talk on her own to me about this. He said, very rudely, that neither of them will ever be taking care of Jake. He told me that they were not raised to be "caretakers" and that "it's absurd to expect their children to figure out this future issue for them."
Re: Mombie mad because siblings refuse to take care of brother August 19, 2022 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,976 |
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I'm not telling them to put their lives on hold and be his caretaker, only that when the time comes that we can't take care of him they will need to.
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I agree. find a group home you stupid brood sow. and I'll bet she's lying through her teeth about tardleigh being a sweet boy.
Re: Mombie mad because siblings refuse to take care of brother August 20, 2022 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 3,576 |
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I agree. find a group home you stupid brood sow. and I'll bet she's lying through her teeth about tardleigh being a sweet boy. total selfish oblivious sow
most of the comments are excoriating this mootard. and I'll bet, like another commenter, those children have been forced to kow tow to tardleigh all their lives. they had no childhood because mootard foisted the defecto onto them. 'take tard...play with tard...tard doesn't unndeeerstaaand...you know he's a taaaaard so you have to take his shit...' dollars to donuts
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I agree. find a group home you stupid brood sow. and I'll bet she's lying through her teeth about tardleigh being a sweet boy.
I had similar thoughts. I thought it was telling that right after she wrote he was sweet, she wrote "he's not violent at all." It's like saying, "I'm a nice guy, and I never beat my wife." Lack of violence should be a given.
Plus, the boy is only 11 years old--plenty of time to grow into the hulking, violent autard that unfortunately seems to be the norm today because they are raised with no boundaries whatsoever.