Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? December 24, 2022 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 3,457 |
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how dare they moo
Dear Newsweek, My parents, and my partner's parents, rarely ever babysit our children. I believe by doing this they are denying themselves a good relationship with the children, but also denying us a much-needed break to work on our own relationship, and not be so focused around our children 100 percent of the time.
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how dare they moo
My parents, who lived downstairs, decided it was more fun to drink and have parties than help us with our children while I was struggling with cancer. At one point, my partner went round to their house and begged them to help and they laughed at him.
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how dare they moo
If I mention that my partner and I are going away just the two of us, my mother very quickly states that she will not be babysitting. My partner's parents own properties in three different states and spend most of their time in Florida, away from their only grandkids.
They're just not making an effort, and my partner and I are left stressing over the relationship with them, not having time for each other, and grandparents that only care about seeing their grandkids on video calls or at the holidays. I think lots of grandparents have this mentality of "I already raised mine," but that's not how a lot of us parents feel. We all share the same blood so why don't some grandparents care about spending time with their grandchildren or contributing to the humans they will become?
........... How do I make sure my children do not grow up to be those kinds of grandparents but still have healthy boundaries?
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? December 24, 2022 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 2,240 |
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? December 27, 2022 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 9,593 |
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How do I make sure my children do not grow up to be those kinds of grandparents but still have healthy boundaries?
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? December 27, 2022 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 12,343 |
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Cambion
I can only imagine that if the grandparents weren't willing to mind the brats when the author was sick with cancer, maybe there is a reason for it that the author conveniently left out so they could paint themselves as a poor victim.
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? December 28, 2022 | Registered: 14 years ago Posts: 3,697 |
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? December 28, 2022 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 3,457 |
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twocents
in a way this has moved on and into stupid ass 'famblee' shit. although who does one hire to watch brats for a weekend anyway?? at least I don't have to deal with this idiocy anyway
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? December 28, 2022 | Registered: 14 years ago Posts: 1,918 |
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kittehpeoples
Refusing to help your own child when they have cancer is pretty cold, but that alone tells me that these geniuses had plenty of warning that their parents weren't interested in them or their children. It shouldn't come as a shock that Grams and Gramps don't want to help them raise their kids; they shouldn't have counted on it (or had children at all, if their relationship is rocky enough that they need time away from the kids to "work on it").
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? December 29, 2022 | Registered: 14 years ago Posts: 3,697 |
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? December 29, 2022 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 3,373 |
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twocents
in a way I still think having a child at a commercial center for a couple of days would make me uneasy...but that is just me. again, thankfully I don't have to deal with it.
I really don't go anywhere hardly anymore...I'm something of a homebody.
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? December 30, 2022 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 9,593 |
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LoveToLurk
Either the moo and her husband really did burn that bridge to the point where Grams and Gramps truly do not care, or Grams and Gramps really are that evil and narcissistic, in which case I question why Moo and Duh are so desperate to expose their kids to that type of person.
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? January 01, 2023 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 3,457 |
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Cambion
Also, if the grandparents who lived downstairs drank and partied all the time, would they really want people who are drunk and possibly high to watch their kids? Or are they the kinds of parents who don't care how safe their kids are with someone, just as long as the kids aren't in their parents' hair?
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? January 02, 2023 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 3,373 |
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freya
If the grandparents were bratsitting all the time I bet this part about drinking/partying would have been omitted from the whining. It sure sounds like sour grapes to me. But it does give the grandparents an excuse as bratsitting while impaired is a legitimate thing to avoid.
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? January 03, 2023 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 3,457 |
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freya
If the grandparents were bratsitting all the time I bet this part about drinking/partying would have been omitted from the whining. It sure sounds like sour grapes to me. But it does give the grandparents an excuse as bratsitting while impaired is a legitimate thing to avoid.
I suspect the parents are sloshed quite often too.
Re: Our parunts refuse to bratsit, what should I do? January 04, 2023 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,367 |
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