Re: has anyone else lost a marriage over reproduction? January 21, 2009 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 4,117 |
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Cambion
Adding on to what Feh said, what if you don't get the coveted boy and girl children on the first two tries? You get pushed to keep popping out kids until you get that missing gender. It is no fucking coincidence when you see a family where the five oldest kids are girls, the youngest is a boy and the parents decide only after Boy is born that they will stop spawning. Or vice versa with girls. The folk who do end up with a boy and a girl usually call it quits...unless they have a "miracle", which they just have to keep. Then when they have an uneven ratio of boys to girls, they need to try some more to even things out. You just can't have two girls and a boy - that's screwy!
And I also never understood why people lament and bitch and whine about how haaaaaarrrrrd it is to be a Moomie or a Duhddy and then go and have more kids. If it was hard with the first one, it's going to be twice as hard with two of the little bastards, so why do that to yourself?
And yikes, Kim...your ex sounds like quite a trip. Glad you got the hell away from that one.
Re: has anyone else lost a marriage over reproduction? January 21, 2009 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 4,117 |
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Cambion, that hits close to home. My fucktard biological parents had SEVEN girls before having their precious baby boy.
And they put the last girl, me, into an orphanage, so that they could afford to keep trying.
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Re: has anyone else lost a marriage over reproduction? January 21, 2009 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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Cambion
Adding on to what Feh said, what if you don't get the coveted boy and girl children on the first two tries? You get pushed to keep popping out kids until you get that missing gender. It is no fucking coincidence when you see a family where the five oldest kids are girls, the youngest is a boy and the parents decide only after Boy is born that they will stop spawning. Or vice versa with girls. The folk who do end up with a boy and a girl usually call it quits...unless they have a "miracle", which they just have to keep. Then when they have an uneven ratio of boys to girls, they need to try some more to even things out. You just can't have two girls and a boy - that's screwy!
And I also never understood why people lament and bitch and whine about how haaaaaarrrrrd it is to be a Moomie or a Duhddy and then go and have more kids. If it was hard with the first one, it's going to be twice as hard with two of the little bastards, so why do that to yourself?
And yikes, Kim...your ex sounds like quite a trip. Glad you got the hell away from that one.
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Re: has anyone else lost a marriage over reproduction? January 24, 2009 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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FreeAndHappy
What I am sure about is that someone else, like my ex-husband, is not going to control or pressure me into having a child that I do not want. I hope that even though I am not 100% CF, I can be accepted here, because there is no where else that I know of that will accept a woman who was divorced (partly) for refusing to reproduce on demand.
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Re: has anyone else lost a marriage over reproduction? January 25, 2009 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 497 |
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walflower
I should add... that experience taught me that the kid topic must be brought up as soon as it becomes clear that a relationship may be blossoming. Better to get clear what each person wants BEFORE there is any real investment in emotions.