Purplehearts
Re: WHY does it always have to be a "miscarriage"??? ( Another hysterical miscarriage-period story from a moomie wannabe forum) August 02, 2011 |
Re: WHY does it always have to be a "miscarriage"??? ( Another hysterical miscarriage-period story from a moomie wannabe forum) August 02, 2011 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 12,447 |
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Purplehearts
Haha, i love this forum. I've been wanting to say what you said there for so long but people are so bloody precious about miscarriage and seem to encourage women to be hysterical about it. Even if it WAS a miscarriage, so bloody what?! Women have them all the time they're a normal part of nature and 30 years ago you wouldn't have even known you were pregnant. How can you grieve for a ball of cells? This might sound heartless but i lost an actual real live baby who I'd taken home and looked after to cot death and yes it wasn't nice but i dealt with it and i didn't make any thing like as much fuss as these mad cows make about losing a two week old pregnancies. GET OVER IT AND GET OVER YOURSELF FOR FUCKS SAKE.
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myrna minkoff
she felt a 'flutter in her belly?" no, she didn't - at that stage the zygote is barely pea-sized. another brain-washed idiot just wanting attention, which i think is the main reason most women get pregnant anyway.
purple hearts
Re: WHY does it always have to be a "miscarriage"??? ( Another hysterical miscarriage-period story from a moomie wannabe forum) August 02, 2011 |
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purple hearts
sorry but that's not fair. Firstly i don't have children. I had a son who died but now I'm choosing to be cf so I'm not a 'moo'. Second, i don't think there is any hierarchies when it comes to grieving nor do i think someone should only be 'allowed' to mourn for a certain length of time. However I don't consider early miscarriage to be a bereavement. It's not even comparable. The loss women experience is the loss of their dream of a baby not the loss of an actual baby. When it comes to actual real bereavements, of course i don't think like that. Although you're right that some women do it's been my experience that lots of them are so eager to have their over reaction to a normal biological process validated, that far from thinking in a hierarchical way they actually treat the loss of a zygot as being the same as a bereavement.
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Re: WHY does it always have to be a "miscarriage"??? ( Another hysterical miscarriage-period story from a moomie wannabe forum) August 02, 2011 |
Re: WHY does it always have to be a "miscarriage"??? ( Another hysterical miscarriage-period story from a moomie wannabe forum) August 03, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,304 |
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Purple hearts
Fair point. Guess I was getting pissed off with being told 'i know JUST how you feel' by women who were pregnant for a week. I felt like having a rant but you are right, this is not the most appropriate place. It's just as you say a lot of people would be angered by my views and i wanted to vent them somewhere that nobody would be offended by them. I'm still not sure I proved your point- maybe i do see later miscarriages as worse than early ones. But i don't think any of them come into the category of kid loss. When it comes to actual bereavement i don't think one type is any better or worse than another. As you say- it's entirely an individual thing. Maybe I'm being unfair but I do get wound up when women turn themselves into martyrs or victims based on minor things like in the post quoted above. I'm not a regular here and don't plan on becoming one but just because i used to be a mother it doesn't mean i don't get sick of the utter ridiculousness and hysteria that the parenting boards are filled with. And i admit to getting a certain guilty pleasure out of seeing the taboos that prevent anyone from highlighting this ridiculousness broken. Just thought I'd explain why I'm here because, yes it probably does look a bit weird.
Miss_Hannigan_NLI
Re: WHY does it always have to be a "miscarriage"??? ( Another hysterical miscarriage-period story from a moomie wannabe forum) August 03, 2011 |
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Purplehearts
Haha, i love this forum. I've been wanting to say what you said there for so long but people are so bloody precious about miscarriage and seem to encourage women to be hysterical about it. Even if it WAS a miscarriage, so bloody what?! Women have them all the time they're a normal part of nature and 30 years ago you wouldn't have even known you were pregnant. How can you grieve for a ball of cells? This might sound heartless but i lost an actual real live baby who I'd taken home and looked after to cot death and yes it wasn't nice but i dealt with it and i didn't make any thing like as much fuss as these mad cows make about losing a two week old pregnancies. GET OVER IT AND GET OVER YOURSELF FOR FUCKS SAKE.
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Re: WHY does it always have to be a "miscarriage"??? ( Another hysterical miscarriage-period story from a moomie wannabe forum) August 03, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 7,149 |
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clematis
I'm really sick and tired of the doctor acting like he really knows my body more than I do - I felt pg before - sore breasts, bloating, I must also be very sensitive because I could feel in my belly a change a flutter before, now - nothing.
Erm, TMI alert: I have those symptoms, minus the imagined belly-flutter, every month.
Yeah, those sound like perfectly normal PRE-MENSTRUAL symptoms to me. And the fluttery stomach? Totally explained away by the fact that she THOUGHT she was pregnant, and was consciously (or sub-consciously) looking to feel something move in her tummy.
God, these women are beyond pathetic. It might actually be funny if it wasn't so sickening.
Re: WHY does it always have to be a "miscarriage"??? ( Another hysterical miscarriage-period story from a moomie wannabe forum) August 03, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 7,149 |
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Feh
...have unprotected sex several times, possibly over several months without getting pregnant.
Sometimes, it even takes years. As in, three years. That's right, wannamoos... THREE. YEARS.