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danity
Abusers always want kids. It's a great way to control people.
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danity
Abusers always want kids. It's a great way to control people.
Say it a little louder for those in the back. All the frou-frou Kodak commercial reasons people give for having kids mask the real reason: they want a person they can manipulate, control, and mold into what they want. Hence why nobody wants to adopt older children. Other people got to them first and it would be more difficult to change their opinions and personalities.
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danity
I hear ya. I hear they play "games" at these things. Jesus I am dreading it!!
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mr. neptune
Maybe it is a woman thing I don't understand but what happens if you don't go to a "shower"?
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The best thing is to cut narcissists out completely. Barring that, don't engage her. If she speaks to you, keep your replies to "yes," "no," "I don't know," and "I don't want to discuss that." Then leave as soon as possible. Get something to eat or drink, play with any pets that are present in the house, walk around the house, anything. Narcissists hate it when people don't pay attention to them - they think everyone else thinks of them as highly as they think of themselves.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. My niece is a narcissist, and they really are the worst people. I understand that you want to go to smooth things over with your brother and SIL. After you build the bridge, I advise you to cut out the narcissist in your life.
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danity
Excellent practical stuff there Freya. Appreciate it.
It's good to have a number of "get-out" tactics ready to use. Definitely helps me stay calm around her.
This is a woman who will have a long stay at shady pines in future.
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danity
Another incident happened recently on father's day.
Was having a lovely day, everyone was getting along and I decided to make choux pastry for dessert (profiteroles)
My Nmother is a qualified home economics teacher with a degree in it. (This is relevant)
I merely bake for pleasure the odd time.
I make the pastry and she keeps telling me I'm so "brave" to be attempting choux pastry as it's so easy to get it wrong. I ignore her .
I put the pastry in the oven and tell her under no circumstances to open the oven door as it causes the pastry to fall flat.
She knows this already. Pastry was turning out perfectly and I was really happy with how it was going.
With 2 minutes to go I had my back turned and what does she do?? You guessed.
Opens the oven door. Pastry falls flat and I get mad.
I tell her she did that on purpose.
Cue fake "tears" and "I would never do that to you"
"You would" I reply She's done worse in the past.
She throws herself a pity party and complains I'm so nasty to her.
So I'm the bad guy and she gets the attention she so badly craved on father's day ( a day celebrating someone other than her)
I could never invite her to a wedding of mine and you can see why this baby shower is putting me on edge!!