I'm glad being CF is becoming more acceptable among young adults. Some of it is becz careful analyzation of the real world, but if you read platforms where the age range is skewed toward the younger, there seems to be a leaning to where they are 'just babies' (in their mid-30s) themselves and dont feel ready for this or that or anything.
So this feeling is going beyond the debt they have and the economy. I would hate, and I know we on the CF board were rightly offended to be called immature for not wanting kids, but this literally is what they are saying online w/ a string-ful of comments nodding their heads in agreement. As we discussed while this generation was growing up, and now 'grown-up", they dont seem to be ready for anything emotionally, including *wanting* to move out of their parents homes(even before economy), *wanting* their adult job (or any job for that matter), and sticking to it even when they dont like it...til they get a new one, many dont really date, dont have long term relationships, dont have friends (the loneliest generation), some barely have sex, dont buy cars or want to drive, they dont 'want material things' but do spend on phones/gaming systems and tech like it is a new altar, tag along on all their parents vacations, it goes on and on. Like we said when it was happening, their parents were making it too ez on them, helicoptering them, keeping them very very safe!!!!, giving them 0 chores, no after school or summer jobs, and supporting every bad choice they made. No boundaries, no consequences, no follow thru. Now they are not ready for the term they invented "adulting".
I felt adult enough in HS, definitely in college while salivating at the idea of getting my own apt, biding my time to get my real job after college and start my life w/ my then BF, now Husband. While living w/ my parents, I paid for my own clothes, toiletries, ate out a lot bcz I was never home w/ FT school and PT to almost FT work. If I didnt do something right around the house or school, I heard about it!!! I lived like a semi-adult, but I didnt have rent to pay. Otherwise, I was on my own. I felt CF since I was around 9, seeing dreadful moohood for what it was came along much later and just sealed the deal for me.
I'm all for not living by a LifeScript, but they are not doing much of anything, and doing it all while living off of their parents who are well into their 60s and maybe 70s. It's fucking ridic.
They literally dont want the responsibility of nothing and they themselves believe themselves to be too young/immature to do anything even they are well into their late 20-early 30s. As some of these comments noted, my pals are not getting what the paid for by raising these kids, becuz who the hell thought they would still be 'helping' and supporting them as they inched toward 70! I'm almost shocked when a childed pal's kid does move out and everything is going smoothly. Ya hear so much of the opposite. So, I do admire a true new CF if they are independent and living like an adult on their own. But if they are CF bcz they are dreading moohoo just bcz it is part of Adulthood and what they really dread is being grown-up at 35, I dont have that much respect for that if you know what I mean.