boyfriend on the fence

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SlumSlut

I can barely deal with stress in my life in the first place. Even if my clock did start to tick, or whatever is supposed to happen, I look around and can't figure out the first thing to do to re-arrange my life. So many sharp things in the house. Too much clutter already. I can barely go to work and come home and eat and sleep and take care of the cats and do all the other mundane every-day things such as errands and visiting my grandfather in the nursing home AS IT IS ALREADY, and I'm supposed to have the time to add a KID to all that? A kid I don't even WANT, but some chemicals in my bloodstream are telling me i GOTTA have? What if I snorted some ecstasy and decided I just GOTTA have a kid? Would that be a good idea, or not?

Neither can they!(deal with the stress) The difference between those of us childfree who are stressed to the limits and the moo-cunts who are stressed to their limits is that we admit it and don't purposely try to make matters worse! To shit a loaf in the middle of chaos leads to postpartum depression, moo substance abuse, child neglect and abuse, as well as locked in hot car syndrome, bath tub drownings, and other "accidents". They are too selfish to think ahead to what's best for their potential loaf of shit and prefer instead to focus on THEMSELVES and all of the temporary attention and festivities like over fed cattle to the slaughter. Like the cows don't question all of the food and attention before they are shot between the eyes or have their throats slit, neither do the moos as they cascade their fat asses around various baybee showers and parties.

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SlumSlut
Don't you notice how you hear of people whose lives are going downhill (like, they have some kids already, lost their job(s), drive a shitty car that will cost more than its blue-book value to fix so it can get an inspection sticker, can barely pay their rent or mortgage, are already receiving help from friends and family such as food and clothing), and then they show up one day and are all rosey-smiley "We're having another baby soon!"

I just wish the pavement would open up and swallow those people.

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SlumSlut
Don't you notice how you hear of people whose lives are going downhill (like, they have some kids already, lost their job(s), drive a shitty car that will cost more than its blue-book value to fix so it can get an inspection sticker, can barely pay their rent or mortgage, are already receiving help from friends and family such as food and clothing), and then they show up one day and are all rosey-smiley "We're having another baby soon!"

I just wish the pavement would open up and swallow those people.

And some people are meant to be poor. Fuck 'em.

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SlumSlut
What if I snorted some ecstasy and decided I just GOTTA have a kid? Would that be a good idea, or not?

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SlumSlut
Don't you notice how you hear of people whose lives are going downhill (like, they have some kids already, lost their job(s), drive a shitty car that will cost more than its blue-book value to fix so it can get an inspection sticker, can barely pay their rent or mortgage, are already receiving help from friends and family such as food and clothing), and then they show up one day and are all rosey-smiley "We're having another baby soon!"

I just wish the pavement would open up and swallow those people.

And some people are meant to be poor. Fuck 'em.

One can be poor without creating another human being to add to all of us.

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SlumSlut

If fence-sitters exist, this guy is one. I don't believe that fence-sitters exist. I'm a bit like that guy telecat, who doesn't believe that PNB's exist, in that respect. CF people just DO NOT WANT KIDS. They aren't people who are infertile and trying to make the best of it (hi, you know who you are! yes, i'm referring to YOU!), they aren't environmentalists... I think there is a difference between "child-free by nature" and "childfree by choice". Anyone who has to sit and weigh the pro's and con's of having a kid, really WANTS it and may or may not be able to talk themselves out of it. The TRULY (yes I'm elitist - if you don't like it) "natural" child-free are completely TURNED-OFF by ANYTHING having to do with childbirth and/or child-rearing (I do not consider careers such as teaching or pediatric medicine to be surrogate-parental models, but there may people people who disagree and that's ok. I am sure there are some teachers or doctors who do feel that their career is a substitute to fill some kind of void in their lives), and don't need ANY convincing, rationalizing, or validation from strangers on the internet to know that there is no fork in this road.

So basically, I agree with bellflower's theory of "KEEP THE PUSSY COMING". I will go out on a limb and suggest that not only is your boyfriend a wanna-breed, but he's thinking "She's a woman. She'll change her mind when she's in her 30's and her biological clock goes off. If not, hey, I'll still be young enough to find someone else and I'll probably be making more money than I am now, so I'll just find another girlfriend - most normal women out there do want kids", etc.

Ah, I love it when you can say judgmental things on a forum and not get in trouble for it.

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telecat

Wow, pigs are flying, we agree. Bellflower is totally on the mark, too. I walked away from TWO marriages on the issue. My first had to courtesy to wait only a year to drop the bomb, my second waited *17 years.*
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Wow, pigs are flying, we agree. Bellflower is totally on the mark, too. I walked away from TWO marriages on the issue. My first had to courtesy to wait only a year to drop the bomb, my second waited *17 years.*
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Holy crap! The same lady when we hung out at the Silverton? :goggle

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Wow, pigs are flying, we agree. Bellflower is totally on the mark, too. I walked away from TWO marriages on the issue. My first had to courtesy to wait only a year to drop the bomb, my second waited *17 years.*
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Holy crap! The same lady when we hung out at the Silverton? :goggle

No I'm still with her...it was the previous two. J and I are NOT married. We're sinners and we like it that way.

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If YOU want Essure, you should do it. It's YOUR body and YOUR future, not his, and he basically has no say in it.

If he dumps you because you got it done, count yourself lucky, because you dodged a bullet.

(My .02)

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Neopatra02
If YOU want Essure, you should do it. It's YOUR body and YOUR future, not his, and he basically has no say in it.

If he dumps you because you got it done, count yourself lucky, because you dodged a bullet.

(My .02)

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bell_flower
Ever find an old thread and wonder what happened to the OP? It's been 2.5 years and I wonder what happened here.

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bell_flower
Ever find an old thread and wonder what happened to the OP? It's been 2.5 years and I wonder what happened here.

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bell_flower
Ever find an old thread and wonder what happened to the OP? It's been 2.5 years and I wonder what happened here.

He's bred, hopefully she got her Essure. I wonder what happened to ShimmyMuse - hasn't been here in a year. 6 months for Reaperess, too.

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Ever find an old thread and wonder what happened to the OP? It's been 2.5 years and I wonder what happened here.

He's bred, hopefully she got her Essure. I wonder what happened to ShimmyMuse - hasn't been here in a year. 6 months for Reaperess, too.

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bell_flower
Ever find an old thread and wonder what happened to the OP? It's been 2.5 years and I wonder what happened here.

He's bred, hopefully she got her Essure. I wonder what happened to ShimmyMuse - hasn't been here in a year. 6 months for Reaperess, too.

Didn't ShimmyMuse do an official flounce-out because she was upset with an interaction with another member?