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mumofsixbirds
I am so sorry you are going through this, blackpearl. I wish there was some advice I could give you that wouldn't involve you cutting your moo off for awhile. She is grandloaf-rabid and it doesn't sound like she's going to change her mind anytime soon. It doesn't sound like she has your best interest at heart, and if I were you, I'd just start distancing myself slowly.
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If your in the mood to prank her, get some American Redneck or British Chav type clothes.
Dress it up thick and then go visit. Tell her you're practicing to be a welfare mother and this is how they dress. speak in the appropriate uneducated speech patterns. Go hog wild (so to speak).
See if she gets the joke.
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I don't think you have to cut off your mother, but you may have to change the way you talk to her and what you tell her. I have had to do this and some people I know have done it. It is really the only way other than cutting them off, to get peace from controlling family members.
I had to learn to not confide, ask for advice, or really look for support from my mother because she was critical of everything and did not care to listen to my side or understand my concerns. So I told her less and less of the Big stuff, and the conversations became more light and casual. If she started in on some topic that is off limits, I would say I'm all set with that, change the subject or find a reason to leave or hang up the phone with some excuse. These are the boundaries you set, but it starts with leaving the person out of your deeper personal life, your problems. It may feel like a loss, but there is no winning with controlling mothers unless you set those boundaries and keep them up.
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blondie
I don't think you have to cut off your mother, but you may have to change the way you talk to her and what you tell her. I have had to do this and some people I know have done it. It is really the only way other than cutting them off, to get peace from controlling family members.
I had to learn to not confide, ask for advice, or really look for support from my mother because she was critical of everything and did not care to listen to my side or understand my concerns. So I told her less and less of the Big stuff, and the conversations became more light and casual. If she started in on some topic that is off limits, I would say I'm all set with that, change the subject or find a reason to leave or hang up the phone with some excuse. These are the boundaries you set, but it starts with leaving the person out of your deeper personal life, your problems. It may feel like a loss, but there is no winning with controlling mothers unless you set those boundaries and keep them up.
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