Friend divorced woman who has kids April 17, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,725 |
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freya
Wondering why on earth people who don't want kids (can't call them childfree and can't call them childless by circumstance) chose to be in situations that are very likely to make them miserable when they could just date around or date others without kids? Is it a clueless/masochistic dilemma?
Re: Friend divorced woman who has kids April 18, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,725 |
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freya
Wondering why on earth people who don't want kids (can't call them childfree and can't call them childless by circumstance) chose to be in situations that are very likely to make them miserable when they could just date around or date others without kids? Is it a clueless/masochistic dilemma?
I think after reaching a certain age, people assume it is their only choice, since most of the people in their age range have bred. I'd rather consider a broader age range or be single, but I expect some people feel a sense of desperation.
As for why people who are younger do it, I suppose for the same reasons people have kids in the first place: an unrealistic sense of what it is going to be like. They fall for the ready-made family idea.
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freya
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freya
Wondering why on earth people who don't want kids (can't call them childfree and can't call them childless by circumstance) chose to be in situations that are very likely to make them miserable when they could just date around or date others without kids? Is it a clueless/masochistic dilemma?
I think after reaching a certain age, people assume it is their only choice, since most of the people in their age range have bred. I'd rather consider a broader age range or be single, but I expect some people feel a sense of desperation.
As for why people who are younger do it, I suppose for the same reasons people have kids in the first place: an unrealistic sense of what it is going to be like. They fall for the ready-made family idea.
Maybe this combined with a new significant other and the hormones makes this an irresistible combination for many. I'm with you yurble, stay single or consider a broader age range.
Re: Friend divorced woman who has kids April 20, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,440 |
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cassia
Whenever I was interested in dating, I had to do a tremendous amount of filtering through dads and wanna-bes to get down to about one in a hundred and then further filter to get to correct age range, non-smoking, atheist, etc.
It was a needle in a haystack..
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I think the only decent way to take on a stepfamily would be to have a prenup before the marriage and have separate finances throughout the marriage. The childed parent should be solely responsible for paying the children's expenses (activities, clothing, etc) that fall outside family expenses (mortgage, etc) That would actually benefit the unchilded partner who would have a financial partner on the big stuff but no responsibility for kid expenses.