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Is there any way to help ensure that you won't be disappointed on Mother's Day by your partner? Psychologist Dr. Michelle Golland says that you have to speak up! "I think it is important for moms to share with their husbands what they would enjoy for Mothers Day," she says. "If you want a day off or breakfast in bed, say so. I told my husband what I would enjoy to do, and I of course will reciprocate for him on Father's Day. For some reason, we WISH our partners were mind readers. But guess what? They aren't! So share with them what really matters this year to you."
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law1204
Yanno...sometimes I really hate women and the stupid shit they pull in relationships, which gives a bad name to the rest of us low-maintenance women. In my relationship, not only are there NO expectations around stupid commercial holidays or any other made-up holiday or anniversary, but I like to take control of my OWN life. "Honey, I decided to make reservations for dinner at XXX restaurant since etc etc." "Hey hun, look at this cute ring I bought myself, isn't it cool??"
Why can't women have a say in their own lives and take charge? If you want something, buy it, don't wait for some guy to give it to you. If you want a specific food, go get it. If you like a certain restaurant, make reservations there. If the mayun doesn't want to go, fuck him and invite a girlfriend. This is not hard, people! Stop treating men like they are your personal Genie slave that you rubbed out of a bottle, there to kiss your ass and lick your toes on demand and shower you with gifts, compliments, and trips. Self esteem is a way better thing to have than a coerced dinner plan from a guy who did it because it was expected.
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Yeah hubby and I don't do the commercial holiday thing either. For my birthday recently we went out for sushi and for his birthday on Saturday I'm making him his favorite breakfast in bed. And that's the extent of it. For Valentines day we have this ridiculous tradition of not making reservations anywhere then driving around all night looking for somewhere with tables. Last Valentines day we ended up dressed to the nines at 10 at night eating gyros in a local diner. We do it because it's fun and light hearted and doesn't put too much pressure to have 'the perfect date' every Valentines day.
As for mother's day and father's day, I think it should be up to the couple to decide. If you're married to somebody and this particular day is very important to that person (and come on, if you're married to somebody it's your job to know what days are important to them) then I think it's logical to make a big fuss over it. Maybe not spend a great deal of money but just let the person you're supposed to love know that they're really important to you in whatever way you can. How difficult is that, honestly?
What I personally dislike is women that expect bloody diamonds (I hate diamonds anyway but that's a different rant) / long stemmed roses / other expensive trinkets for everything.
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Yeah hubby and I don't do the commercial holiday thing either. For my birthday recently we went out for sushi and for his birthday on Saturday I'm making him his favorite breakfast in bed. And that's the extent of it. For Valentines day we have this ridiculous tradition of not making reservations anywhere then driving around all night looking for somewhere with tables. Last Valentines day we ended up dressed to the nines at 10 at night eating gyros in a local diner. We do it because it's fun and light hearted and doesn't put too much pressure to have 'the perfect date' every Valentines day.
As for mother's day and father's day, I think it should be up to the couple to decide. If you're married to somebody and this particular day is very important to that person (and come on, if you're married to somebody it's your job to know what days are important to them) then I think it's logical to make a big fuss over it. Maybe not spend a great deal of money but just let the person you're supposed to love know that they're really important to you in whatever way you can. How difficult is that, honestly?
What I personally dislike is women that expect bloody diamonds (I hate diamonds anyway but that's a different rant) / long stemmed roses / other expensive trinkets for everything.
I agree with this! That's how I feel about it too in that it's a "couple thing" and really should be about what is important to the individual and mutually agreed upon. Yeah, these bitches who expect a gift at every turn of event like this new expected blingfest when they shit a loaf has gotten way out of hand. I TOO hate diamonds and roses! I don't "get" the popularity of diamonds especially over colorful stones like rubies, sapphires, or emeralds! Roses make me think of a funeral parlor and while they are pretty flowers, they just stink like an old lady's purse!
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Yeah hubby and I don't do the commercial holiday thing either. For my birthday recently we went out for sushi and for his birthday on Saturday I'm making him his favorite breakfast in bed. And that's the extent of it. For Valentines day we have this ridiculous tradition of not making reservations anywhere then driving around all night looking for somewhere with tables. Last Valentines day we ended up dressed to the nines at 10 at night eating gyros in a local diner. We do it because it's fun and light hearted and doesn't put too much pressure to have 'the perfect date' every Valentines day.
As for mother's day and father's day, I think it should be up to the couple to decide. If you're married to somebody and this particular day is very important to that person (and come on, if you're married to somebody it's your job to know what days are important to them) then I think it's logical to make a big fuss over it. Maybe not spend a great deal of money but just let the person you're supposed to love know that they're really important to you in whatever way you can. How difficult is that, honestly?
What I personally dislike is women that expect bloody diamonds (I hate diamonds anyway but that's a different rant) / long stemmed roses / other expensive trinkets for everything.
I agree with this! That's how I feel about it too in that it's a "couple thing" and really should be about what is important to the individual and mutually agreed upon. Yeah, these bitches who expect a gift at every turn of event like this new expected blingfest when they shit a loaf has gotten way out of hand. I TOO hate diamonds and roses! I don't "get" the popularity of diamonds especially over colorful stones like rubies, sapphires, or emeralds! Roses make me think of a funeral parlor and while they are pretty flowers, they just stink like an old lady's purse!
Sooo glad I'm not the only freak who hates diamonds and roses. My husband thought it was weird of me when I told him to never EVER get me diamonds or roses so I had to explain. Diamonds are just overpriced lumps of carbon, I vastly prefer sapphires (my birth stone). And flowers... I just don't like at all because they die. I'd rather enjoy the flowers planted in the ground around my house. My husband still insists on getting me blue orchids randomly every once in a while. I don't bitch because it's a nice gesture and they -are- pretty... I just hate when they shrivel up and have to be thrown out. It's a waste.
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That's the same reason that although I DO love certain flowers like daisies and orchids, I'd rather see them ALIVE and not cut and stuffed into a vase to die! That, and my cats will eat them and shit and vomit stems and petals all over the house. Relating to the topic about the man not giving anything for moo day, I think it's WORSE when a spouse knows that you don't like something (like roses or diamonds) YET, that's exactly what they give you anyway. That proves to me that they don't listen OR they don't care, or perhaps a combination of both. That, or they are being passive aggressive about it because what do you say to someone who hands you flowers and diamonds without sounding like an absolute bitch! If you complain about it, you come off as sounding rude, mean, or selfish, EVEN THOUGH you have told them repeatedly that you do not like whatever it is over the years.
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Biderman says that he plans to step it up for his own wife even more this Mother's Day. "The ironic thing about running Ashley Madison is that I -- maybe more than any guy on the planet -- am so aware of what transpires when you neglect your partner," he says. "As a husband and father, I personally look forward to Mother's Day as an incredible opportunity to celebrate our family dynamic, my wife's dedication and our interpersonal relationship. I intend to make my wife smile from the moment she wakes up -- hopefully a bit later than usual -- to the moment she goes to bed ... with me!"
But even if your guy comes up short, Dr. Golland warns moms to think before they cheat. "Cheating on your spouse will only further complicate a challenging situation -- and add more carnage to your marital problems," she says. "The damage created by an affair is very difficult to repair. That is not to say that repair after infidelity is impossible, but to rebuild the trust after such a traumatic event is hard. Statistics show that many marriages do not survive this level of betrayal."
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Biderman says that he plans to step it up for his own wife even more this Mother's Day. "The ironic thing about running Ashley Madison is that I -- maybe more than any guy on the planet -- am so aware of what transpires when you neglect your partner," he says. "As a husband and father, I personally look forward to Mother's Day as an incredible opportunity to celebrate our family dynamic, my wife's dedication and our interpersonal relationship. I intend to make my wife smile from the moment she wakes up -- hopefully a bit later than usual -- to the moment she goes to bed ... with me!"
But even if your guy comes up short, Dr. Golland warns moms to think before they cheat. "Cheating on your spouse will only further complicate a challenging situation -- and add more carnage to your marital problems," she says. "The damage created by an affair is very difficult to repair. That is not to say that repair after infidelity is impossible, but to rebuild the trust after such a traumatic event is hard. Statistics show that many marriages do not survive this level of betrayal."
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Marriage is an unnatural human institution, and it is failing and failing quickly. Statistics demonstrate this.
Adding children+internet access+Ashleymadison.com+A pussy-whipped man+A talking head psychotherapist only serves to illustrate this particular example as being even more dysfunctional than the institution itself.
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I'm starting to think that your just a lame guy who can't get laid. You've told us 45435345,34543534,45435435 times that you are against coupledom. Stop repeating yourself and enough already. We got it the first time.
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"Marriage is an unnatural human institution, and it is failing and failing quickly. Statistics demonstrate this."
Marriage is only a piece of paper, a contract. Contracts are created and dissolved all the time. Just because two people dissolve a business contract between the two of them, that does not mean there was failure, only that two people don't want each other to be the recipients of each other's assets anymore.
Two people can for all intents and purposes live together as if they are married without asking for official recognition, but if they do and later decide to reverse that decision, it's not a failure, just a change.
To call a breakup a failure is to deny that humans can grow or learn anything from the people in their lives. A breakup is not a failure, just a change. I'm divorced, I am happy that I am divorced, but I am not sorry I got married and don't consider it a mistake, on the contrary I am where I am because of it and have become a far better person. My ex and I may not be suited to each other personally speaking anymore, but that doesn't mean we wasted our time or that either one of us is bad because of it.
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"Marriage is an unnatural human institution, and it is failing and failing quickly. Statistics demonstrate this."
Marriage is only a piece of paper, a contract. Contracts are created and dissolved all the time. Just because two people dissolve a business contract between the two of them, that does not mean there was failure, only that two people don't want each other to be the recipients of each other's assets anymore.
Two people can for all intents and purposes live together as if they are married without asking for official recognition, but if they do and later decide to reverse that decision, it's not a failure, just a change.
To call a breakup a failure is to deny that humans can grow or learn anything from the people in their lives. A breakup is not a failure, just a change. I'm divorced, I am happy that I am divorced, but I am not sorry I got married and don't consider it a mistake, on the contrary I am where I am because of it and have become a far better person. My ex and I may not be suited to each other personally speaking anymore, but that doesn't mean we wasted our time or that either one of us is bad because of it.
You don't become a better person by getting divorced or getting married. Personal ethics, honesty, and treating people with respect and charity define your character.
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