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ShimmyMuse
Where are all these "friends," who cajole the preggers into keeping it, after she keeps it? What happens to them that they cannot babysit, get to know the sprog's friends, and volunteer at school? I'll bet that once they give the shower(s), they drop her like a You're Not Special So Grow Up book at Barnes and Noble.
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JoJo
I suspect that these friends consisted of Grandmoo and maybe a couple of fundie friends of hers. Hey lady, you're the one who wanted your daughter to have the grandbrat so I think it's poetic justice that you get stuck with it.
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Miss_Hannigan
Translation: "I resent what I needed to do. I'll pray for death before granddaughter spawns a bastard as well, and the cycle continues like Russian matryoshka dolls."
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It seems today 20somethings aren't as mature as they were in the old days. Why is that?
Donna Four Elelven
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It seems today 20somethings aren't as mature as they were in the old days. Why is that?
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Re: Refreshing: Grandmoo regrets daughter not giving her baby up for adoption December 28, 2010 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,437 |
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And what kind of spineless adult lets her friends talk her into doing something as harmful as having a baby when she's clearly not even ready to take care of herself?
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Miss_Hannigan NLI
Found this nugget from another loser moo site - Brenda's boyfriend's mom is abortion's biggest cheerleader:
My name is Brenda and I am 13 weeks pregnant for the first time ever in my 33 years of existence. I am looking very much forward to having my baby, however I am also scared out of my wits. The boyfriend I had for over four years, the father of this baby has me extremely worried. Mainly it is his Mother who has me ever so scared, but since he can not break away from his Mother, I am living in an awful lot of fear right now. Below I will share with you the email she sent me 2 months ago....
Dear Brenda,
I understand after speaking with Derek, that you are inclined to keep this pregnancy. If that's the case, there's a number of legal and medical issues I want you to be aware of.
First, I think it's wise that we all attend the Counseling sessions offered at Planned Parenthood. Tell Derek to make an appointment convenient for you. You need to fully understand the medical, legal and welfare issues.
Medically, there is only a short time left before abortion is no longer an option, so I recommend that since you have smoked and drank prior to knowing you were pregnant, an amniocentesis should be done before it's too late to make sure there are no major neurological, spinal cord or heart problems associated with smoking. Also, failing to take prenatal vitamins especially Folic acid is very detrimental to an embryos development such as spina bifida. Look up the statistics regarding Autism on your own, but the numbers are staggering.
Do you have medical insurance to cover both yourself and the delivery, doctor's fees and hospital's fees? If you plan to go on welfare, WIC, Food Stamps, Medicaid etc., then child custody is going to become a real problem and you'll need to retain an attorney as soon as possible to set down paternity testing, custody arrangements & child support. Average Family Court attorneys request a $2000 downpayment then between $200 - $500/per hr. not including Court costs, Psychologists for both the parents & child. run about $150 an hour. The child in a case like this is generally represented by it's own separate attorney which also has to be paid for.
If the child is born premature, are you prepared to take time off from work to care for it without losing your job. What if it needs open heart surgery or has a cleft pallet and insurance doesn't cover it. Do you have an emergency savings fund available? Will you be continuing your education while working and caring for a baby?
Even if there are no major problems, do you know what the cost of Day Care is (min. $200/wk) so you can continue to work?Have you priced doctor's visits, vaccinations & shots, diapers and formula as well as clothes and all the accessories?
What I don't understand is how you don't realize just how devastating this will be to all three of you, (unless it's twins) then the 4 of you. If you accept Welfare, (WIC, Food Stamps, ADC, Medicaid etc.), the economy is in shambles, so the Welfare attorneys will be forced to sue Derek for child support wether you want them to or not. Since Derek has no job and no hope of getting one until he clears his domestic violence record, what will happen is this. He'll be sued, and since he has no assets, he will have to declare bankruptcy. That means that for the next 10 years, he will not be able to apply for a car loan or school loan and he won't even be able to rent an apartment because it will be on his credit report. If after a period of time he still can't pay because of no job, he'll end up in jail.
Family wise, by being selfish and keeping the baby, you and Derek will have no hope of a future together. As much as he loves kids, he's going to resent you for putting him in an unwinnable situation and making things worse than they are now with no hope of improvement. He's trying to find ways to finish school as quickly as possible and can be out of school with a good paying, stable career in 2 years. Having a child now will dash all hopes of a normal family life, you two will end up hating each other and fighting for the next 19 years. That's a great situation to expose an innocent child to when it wasn't their fault.
Derek says you are worried about not having anymore children because of abortion. That's just wrong. Back in the 1930's -1950's they used to cut into the uterus and that's what caused infertility. Now all they do is put a small sponge in the cervix which starts a menstrual period and it's no different than a miscarriage. You'll be in much worse shape if they do a C-Section. There they do cut open the uterus which can cause scarring and infertility. You know as a diabetic, you're at higher risk for C-Section as well as other medical conditions. You know the babies of diabetics are generally much larger than non-diabetics because of the blood sugar. You know all about eclampsia and pre-eclampsia with the possibility of strokes due to hypertension. And, you know that things like placentia praevea and abruptio placenta still kills mothers in childbirth.
Both of you need to finish your education and complete your counseling before taking on this responsibility. A child needs two parents and a stable home environment, not a life on welfare, with immature parents who need counseling themselves. Going back and forth to Court is going to make them feel ashamed and inadequate because of the life style it's been provided. Derek said you'd asked for money to help your OB-Gyn bills, but as you know, he doesn't have a job so you'll have to ask me unless your parents are going to pay for it.
Just think about the facts, if you're asking for money now, you're certainly not financially able to pay for the big ticket items and any emergencies when they come along, so who suffers, the innocent child. Wait two years until you've both finished school and can start to take care of yourselves then start a family who will be proud of you instead of hating each other because you're living in poverty. Children are very sensitive. Don't start from a bad situation that's only going to deteriorate. Give yourself all the possible advantages. Parents are supposed to want their children to be better off than they were, not worse.
Also think about what happens if you and Derek do break up. How willing do you think another man is going to be to get involved with you if you already have another man's child. There are very few good men out there. Don't blow it because of immaturity and selfishness. Age is not issue. My mother never had me until she was 37 and she had my brother & sister at 45 & 48 and she was very frail and sickly. Rochester is 68% Catholic and one of the main bases for the anti-abortion protests. Remember, they murdered Dr. Slepian thru his kitchen window? Make sure you hear the facts from the Pro-Choice medical professionals, and attend the Planned Parenthood session. They know better than anyone what you're up against.
Let me know when we can go together to Planned Parenthood.
Debbie
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It seems today 20somethings aren't as mature as they were in the old days. Why is that?
Donna Four Elelven
Part of it is purely economic...when there are so few jobs that half a generation literally cannot afford to move out of their parent's basements, you are going to get delayed mental growth.
Re: Refreshing: Grandmoo regrets daughter not giving her baby up for adoption January 04, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,042 |
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just a grand moo who thinks she's exempt from the site rules