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Sorceress
1. Security concerns associated with having a public persona, and children not being able to choose to accept risks
What kind of BS language is this? Why not just say if you put your kid's pic & info up, it's fodder for pedophiles. Plain and simple.
2. Children have a right to choose how they will present themselves to the world when they are old enough to have an online identity
Um, no they don't. They're children. They don't have any rights beyond what their parent(s) give them. Contrary to popular belief, the petulant desires of the chyyylldrennn do NOT run this world.
3. Children need to be comfortable with not sharing everything online "And I believe that would be more difficult if they'd already spent all their young lives as the stars of their parents' Facebook feeds."
Srsly, what does this really mean? It's more bullshit language. This person has spent too much time in touchy-feeling psych classes or counseling.
4. Concern over negative comments* others may make about the children, and how this will affect them
So if someone says your kid is ugly in the pic that YOU posted on YOUR facebook page, you're going to tell the kid so that he/she can feel bad about it. How is the kid going to know otherwise? Jesus fucking christ.
The bottom line is, pedophiles troll the internet looking for kids, even if it's for pics of kids in bathing suits to jack off to. If that's not enough of a reason to keep your kid's pic off the internet, then you are hopeless. Having to couch your "reasons" in psychobabble newage bullshit-speak is ludicrous.
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Even dumber than posting pics of their kids online are people who post information about the great vacation that they are about to take! I've seen more than a few friends update with exact dates of when they are leaving to go to some faraway destination. I've posted about my great vacation, as well, AFTER I've safely returned home! It seems so common sense to me that you wouldn't want it out there that you were going to be gone, far away, for a WEEK! But idiots post it all the time.
Re: "Why I won't post pictures of my children online" June 05, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,440 |
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Sorceress
1. Security concerns associated with having a public persona, and children not being able to choose to accept risks
What kind of BS language is this? Why not just say if you put your kid's pic & info up, it's fodder for pedophiles. Plain and simple.
2. Children have a right to choose how they will present themselves to the world when they are old enough to have an online identity
Um, no they don't. They're children. They don't have any rights beyond what their parent(s) give them. Contrary to popular belief, the petulant desires of the chyyylldrennn do NOT run this world.
3. Children need to be comfortable with not sharing everything online "And I believe that would be more difficult if they'd already spent all their young lives as the stars of their parents' Facebook feeds."
Srsly, what does this really mean? It's more bullshit language. This person has spent too much time in touchy-feeling psych classes or counseling.
4. Concern over negative comments* others may make about the children, and how this will affect them
So if someone says your kid is ugly in the pic that YOU posted on YOUR facebook page, you're going to tell the kid so that he/she can feel bad about it. How is the kid going to know otherwise? Jesus fucking christ.
The bottom line is, pedophiles troll the internet looking for kids, even if it's for pics of kids in bathing suits to jack off to. If that's not enough of a reason to keep your kid's pic off the internet, then you are hopeless. Having to couch your "reasons" in psychobabble newage bullshit-speak is ludicrous.
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Sorceress
1. Security concerns associated with having a public persona, and children not being able to choose to accept risks
What kind of BS language is this? Why not just say if you put your kid's pic & info up, it's fodder for pedophiles. Plain and simple.
2. Children have a right to choose how they will present themselves to the world when they are old enough to have an online identity
Um, no they don't. They're children. They don't have any rights beyond what their parent(s) give them. Contrary to popular belief, the petulant desires of the chyyylldrennn do NOT run this world.
3. Children need to be comfortable with not sharing everything online "And I believe that would be more difficult if they'd already spent all their young lives as the stars of their parents' Facebook feeds."
Srsly, what does this really mean? It's more bullshit language. This person has spent too much time in touchy-feeling psych classes or counseling.
4. Concern over negative comments* others may make about the children, and how this will affect them
So if someone says your kid is ugly in the pic that YOU posted on YOUR facebook page, you're going to tell the kid so that he/she can feel bad about it. How is the kid going to know otherwise? Jesus fucking christ.
The bottom line is, pedophiles troll the internet looking for kids, even if it's for pics of kids in bathing suits to jack off to. If that's not enough of a reason to keep your kid's pic off the internet, then you are hopeless. Having to couch your "reasons" in psychobabble newage bullshit-speak is ludicrous.
Those were my summaries of what she said. She used a couple of paragraphs on each reason, so I summed it up for people who didn't want to read the article. I'll try to clarify what she meant on those points:
The first one had more rational grounds than a fear of pedophiles. She gets hate mail and death threats, and has been stalked. She doesn't want to expose her family to these people.
The second argument was that she felt that her children--when they are older--should have the opportunity to decide what makes up their online identities. That way her 20-year-old daughter won't be stuck with having the top hit for her name be a photo of her, age 5, sitting on the potty, as posted by moo 15 years before. (Note: Society does grant children some rights, such as the right not to be murdered or abused by their parents. I would argue that privacy is another right every person should have, regardless of age.)
The third is as zatoth said: she wants her children to learn to think before they act, and be aware that material which is posted online takes on a life of its own, so you should think before you post something, instead of making your entire life public. She thinks that it would be harder to teach this lesson if she, as the parent, posted every tidbit about her daughters' lives online.
With the fourth, I think her concern is about the children finding this material. I'm sure she wouldn't tell them, but it's not that hard for them to encounter it, if it exists.
Personally, I thought they were good arguments, but I'm also of the opinion that privacy is important (and that part of the parent's role involves protecting a child's privacy rather than attention-whoring via the child), and that over-sharing is a modern plague.