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'married people HAVE to HAVE kids. do you know what's children role in a family? children strengthen up the bond between married people! children make married couple stay together, they stick the family together! that's why married people need to have kids!'
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My surprise-bingo friend came round on Sunday, and seems to have had a complete change of heart about this issue. I explained about how it's really insulting to be bingo'd, and she agreed that it was out of order!
My fears of having to extinguish the frienship seem to be laid to rest for now.
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My surprise-bingo friend came round on Sunday, and seems to have had a complete change of heart about this issue. I explained about how it's really insulting to be bingo'd, and she agreed that it was out of order!
My fears of having to extinguish the frienship seem to be laid to rest for now.
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This isn't a bingo story per se, but it is related to my bingoing friend (happysammy's post just reminded me).
So, I've been talking a lot about my bingoing friend and how I'm sick as hell I am of her thickheadedness about the whole thing. That, and frustrations with cliquey co-workers inspired me to write a song one night. I also recorded it. The song references being 'told to breed' near the beginning. :nerd
My friend and my DF are also pretty close and they hung out together one night last week while I was at work. He played her the song and she loved it. She got me to send it to her and apparently, she listens to it often. I'm hoping the repitition slowly drills it into her brain.
Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread October 26, 2011 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 661 |
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Some anti-choice wingnut on Facebook told me I "look very maternal" and to "never say never". First of all, WTF does she mean by "look maternal?" I have 13 piercings, five tattoos, unnaturally red hair, and my 38F tits are NOT drooping and exploding with milk. (Hahaha.) I don't look maternal in the least (and I like it that way). Never say never? Too late. Been saying it since I was 13. And I got Essure in August. And if the HSG in November says my tubes aren't blocked, I'm getting a tubal ligation. Because I AM NEVER HAVING KIDS.
Then again, anti-choicers are fetophiles. So it makes sense she'd say this to me.
I also get bingoed all the time by people I work with who say that "you may hate kids now, but it's different when they're your own" and "you'd be so cute pregnant" (nothing is cute about pregnancy to me) and "being a mother is the greatest thing a woman can do with her life."
I AM MORE THAN MY UTERUS AND OVARIES, THANKS.
And my favorite . . . "Who will take care of you when you are old?"
It's great that you pinched a damn loaf so you'd have someone to take care of you. Chances are they're gonna stick your retarded ass in a nursing home and carry on with their lives. You won't get a visit or a phone call. Because you're a fucking MOOCUNT.
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Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread October 31, 2011 |
Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread October 31, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 7,761 |
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I'm 36 and just celebrated my 2nd anniversary. 1st marriage. I get bingoed all the time. And to add insult to injury I get the "biological clock" stuff. I'm going to a funeral this week that will be jam packed with extended family. I'm looking so forward to deflecting all the bingo that will be flung in my direction.
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I'm 36 and just celebrated my 2nd anniversary. 1st marriage. I get bingoed all the time. And to add insult to injury I get the "biological clock" stuff. I'm going to a funeral this week that will be jam packed with extended family. I'm looking so forward to deflecting all the bingo that will be flung in my direction.
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Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread November 01, 2011 |
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entheogen
Whoa there blundy.
It's not my reasoning. Just my observations.
Breeders get married, have kids, not necessarily in that order. You already have the marriage thing in common with them which might make it easier for them to assume you intend to join them in breeding as well...
Never mind I guess... Excuse me for interrupting.
I'll be on my way.
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Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread November 01, 2011 |
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A real relationship shouldn't require sanctioning by the state, religion or even family. If it is strong enough, it will persist all on its own.
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entheogen
That's not quite what I meant to say.
Many people see getting married as a step in the life script with breeding as the obvious following.
I didn't make it so.
Still marriage, as an institution, a relationship requisite, is indeed a crock of shit.
But maybe you can present some sound reasons for it.
Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread November 02, 2011 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 803 |
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entheogen
That's not quite what I meant to say.
Many people see getting married as a step in the life script with breeding as the obvious following.
I didn't make it so.
Still marriage, as an institution, a relationship requisite, is indeed a crock of shit.
But maybe you can present some sound reasons for it.
I take it you are marriagefree? So am I, partly, anyway.
I also think that marriage is an outdated institution, and not one that's necessary to validate a relationship.
However, that doesn't mean that all people marry just to be legally bound to someone, to make breaking up a nightmare involving paperwork and lawyers. There are actually material benefits to marriage.
My BF and I are of the same opinion on marriage, neither of us sees it as necessary or an end-goal. Neither of us are fans of the life-script. However, as we are in a long-term, committed relationship and plan on being together for the long haul anyway, I might consider marriage (someday, not anytime soon) for benefits like medical insurance, hospital visitation, and other rights and privileges.
However one looks at marriage though, it is still an arrangement between two people and it is still out of line and unacceptable for anyone to assume that there will be a third, fourth, fifth, (and so on) person involved.
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entheogen
That's not quite what I meant to say.
Many people see getting married as a step in the life script with breeding as the obvious following.
I didn't make it so.
Still marriage, as an institution, a relationship requisite, is indeed a crock of shit.
But maybe you can present some sound reasons for it.
I take it you are marriagefree? So am I, partly, anyway.
I also think that marriage is an outdated institution, and not one that's necessary to validate a relationship.
However, that doesn't mean that all people marry just to be legally bound to someone, to make breaking up a nightmare involving paperwork and lawyers. There are actually material benefits to marriage.
My BF and I are of the same opinion on marriage, neither of us sees it as necessary or an end-goal. Neither of us are fans of the life-script. However, as we are in a long-term, committed relationship and plan on being together for the long haul anyway, I might consider marriage (someday, not anytime soon) for benefits like medical insurance, hospital visitation, and other rights and privileges.
However one looks at marriage though, it is still an arrangement between two people and it is still out of line and unacceptable for anyone to assume that there will be a third, fourth, fifth, (and so on) person involved.
I was about to write something similar. Thank you. wink
Here's my take on it:
I'm not too keen on marriage, but my boyfriend has very little family left, and his mother is not in good health. What I can see happening is that his asshole uncle will be the last survivor in his family, and would pull the plug on him or something. If we were married, I could make that decision. Before anyone says to make a living will, those can be contested from what I understand. Marriage seems to be the only "foolproof" way of being granted certain rights and privileges.
And since healthcare in this country still sucks, getting married might be the only way for one of us to get health insurance. Right now, I pay out of pocket and have to scrape pennies together to do anything fun. We did talk and decide that if one of us gets a job that provides healthcare for spouses, we might as well get married.