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Cambion
A big part of me doesn't see why I have to be the authoritative one because I am neither a teacher nor a librarian.
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Cambion
I mean, they'd probably laugh in my face if I seriously told them to give me more money, but just sayin'.
Re: How to deal with child-centric job when you hate kids September 02, 2015 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,788 |
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myrna minkoff
cambion, i'm sorry. jeebus, since when did libraries become daycare centers? are these kids just dumped there by their moos or by their teachers?
I have to deal with kids sometimes in my job and I find that being authoritative works. also, the fewer options you give them the better. actually, this is true of my adult patients as well.
I also think you should stay with the job as long as you can stand it but look around elsewhere. good luck!
Re: How to deal with child-centric job when you hate kids September 02, 2015 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,788 |
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Presto
I would be packing a change of clothes along in my "lunch bag" and changing the second you can.
If this means at the school where your coworkers might notice, play it up for sympathy! "Verbal abuse if I don't wear what mommy wants, but hey this job will get me away from her, yay!" Almost guaranteed to result in free shit and word about roommate situations will get back to you ASAP.
Be comfortable.
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Presto
I would be packing a change of clothes along in my "lunch bag" and changing the second you can.
If this means at the school where your coworkers might notice, play it up for sympathy! "Verbal abuse if I don't wear what mommy wants, but hey this job will get me away from her, yay!" Almost guaranteed to result in free shit and word about roommate situations will get back to you ASAP.
Be comfortable.
Child of 2 teachers not agreeing with what you say here. My parents would have smiled at the person and then snickered when they left. They both taught from the age of 22. A person nearing 30 complaining that their mommy made them wear xyz would have garnered no sympathy. They lived on their own and dressed themselves. That is part of adulthood and not something to be sympathetic about.
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Re: How to deal with child-centric job when you hate kids September 05, 2015 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,735 |
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evilchildlessbitch
She can tell you what to wear because you live with her and she meets all your basic needs.
She can deny you transportation because she pays for it.
I keep saying this but your only option is to move out.
Being self sufficient is the one and only way you can break this cycle. A huge part of that is keeping a job, either this one or another.
I don't know what else to say when you say you can't do any of the many ideas, on many threads people have given you for becoming independent. You also give many reasons for not keeping or getting fired from this job.
I truly don't know what to say. Your mother will probably not change. You seem unwilling to do anything to make a change for yourself. If you want to stay stuck in this cycle that is your choice.
Re: How to deal with child-centric job when you hate kids September 05, 2015 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,735 |
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Cambion
I can say that Friday was my best day at my job so far because I didn't have to interact with anybody. It was an in-service day and I was told I had to be there, which made no sense because no other aide was there and I wasn't supposed to go to the meetings with the teachers. WTF. So I just clocked in and did stuff in the library like shelving and sorting materials because there's always something to do in there. Being by myself and not having to deal with kids was bliss. Just a few hours of quietly taking care of books without interruption. I might get in trouble for being there, but hey, I'm just doing what I was told. It's not my problem if the staff can't get their shit straight.
I also wasn't told I had to watch the kids in the cafeteria on certain days and didn't find out until after lunch had ended. I have a phone right beside my head - they couldn't call me and say, "Hey get down here?" Or walk over and tell me? I can see the cafeteria from the library for gods' sake. People gotta tell me this shit; I'm not a fucking mind reader.
The librarian also insists on putting due date slips in the books, which I don't get because the kids have scheduled library days AND everything is kept track of digitally. All their teachers have to do is say, "If you have library books at home, bring them back tomorrow." In order to make sure all the kids get their shit checked out, slips have to be pre-stamped every single day, meaning that some slips get stamped every day and will get thrown out when they get full without ever having been in a book. Plus some of the stamps are shitty and you can't even read the damn date anyway. Seems like a waste of paper.
It's horse shit that a single assistant is expected to do all this. I had to have the teaching assistant put due date pockets and slips in all the books a few days ago because I couldn't check in everyone's books, check out their new ones AND put slips in them. The classes are so big that you do need two people in there to make sure everything gets done, and even then it's a struggle. And of course the kids are supposed to scan their own materials, which only a couple know how to properly do, so checkout takes forever when they do it, so I just check their books out on my own and if they say they want to do it (because they know they can), I let them. About half the time, they need me to do it for them anyway.
I also noticed none of the kids know the difference between "check in" and "check out." But since it takes pretty much the entire library period just for the kids to bring in their books, get new ones, check new books out and have slips/pockets stuck in each book, I don't think I even need to worry about lessons. There's no time for lessons.
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JoJo
I've noticed an increasing trend of devaluing work and expecting employees to work for free. We need unions in this country more than ever.
Re: How to deal with child-centric job when you hate kids September 10, 2015 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,735 |
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Cambion
Good news! Now I'm being told I have to work off the clock! y
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