Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 21, 2020 | Registered: 4 years ago Posts: 202 |
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 21, 2020 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 1,998 |
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Second Moo
Posting here because another sub’s users are just asking why I didn’t abort my daughter.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 21, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,122 |
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 21, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,122 |
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My child has a lot of sensory issues, and issues with interpersonal situations. We don't have an official diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder, but the school psychologist has said that is the approach he is taking.
He's started first grade at a new school this year, after being removed for not being responsive to/respectful of the rules/other people at the only real daycare in the area, and he's on thin ice with the extended child care people at his new school.
Friday, he got his third disciplinary write up that I had to sign for running from the teachers/hitting them when they tried to coax him back into the classroom at the after-school care area of school. I had to leave work early to pick him up.
It's like when reality doesn't match up with his mental expectations, he can't handle it and goes full-on reactionary, lashing out and not being responsive to words/talking it out.
I'm supposed to get a call from the school office and find out if he can go back or not. Friday is his IEP meeting, to discuss the results of his evaluations. I just want to facilitate my child's health, happiness, and success, and I feel like I'm failing. I'm stressed every day that he's at school, worried about whether he's able to learn or if he's just as stressed.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 22, 2020 | Registered: 4 years ago Posts: 202 |
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Cambion
Why is she not spanking her brat daughter every time she whines, cries and acts like a little bitch? If the little shit stain is going to shriek for 15 straight minutes, then give her something to truly shriek about.
God, Moos are fucking useless.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 22, 2020 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,445 |
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Friday, he got his third disciplinary write up that I had to sign for running from the teachers/hitting them when they tried to coax him back into the classroom at the after-school care area of school. I had to leave work early to pick him up.
I'm supposed to get a call from the school office and find out if he can go back or not.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 22, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,122 |
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 23, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,122 |
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It's not that he doesn't know how to do it, it's not that he is incapable in anyway... He knows how to do it, he knows what to do & is more than capable of completing the assignments.
He's fucking lazy, expects me, or someone else, to basically tell him, sentence by sentence, what to write. I will give him multiple ideas, tell him he needs to use his imagination, but I will not do the work for him.
What ensues is a complete and total mental breakdown. He screams, sobs, breaks shit, and sometimes will even go as far as attempting to suffocate himself by wrapping a blanket around his head.
Today... Today it got to me. I locked myself in the bathroom and cried.
Fuck "Distance Learning." Some kids NEED that in-person classroom environment in order to thrive.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 24, 2020 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 1,998 |
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 24, 2020 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,445 |
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Cambion
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sometimes will even go as far as attempting to suffocate himself by wrapping a blanket around his head.
I have a cousin who threw massive tantrums when she didn't get her way. She would beat her head against the floor until her mother gave in, which of course never took very long because "my precious baby will hurt herself!" In a rare fit of decent parenting, my aunt asked the pediatrician about it and he gave her the best advice ever: "Let her do it! She won't hurt herself. She's just doing it because it's working."
And then my aunt went home and continued to give in every. Single. Time.
My cousin is now one of the most worthless breeders you'd ever care to meet. She's also a poster child for the Dunning-Kruger effect. I mean, why put out effort to be or achieve more when everything's handed to you?
These moos aren't doing their brats any favors by letting their hellspawn extort them like this.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 24, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,122 |
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 25, 2020 | Registered: 4 years ago Posts: 202 |
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I’m 30 years old and very much feel physically, emotionally, and financially ready to start trying to have a baby—understanding that it could take several years to happen. My husband says he’s about 70 percent on board. His hesitation is about the way our lifestyle will change with children. He is a good person at a heart, super kind, and wonderful with children. Up until recently I thought having kids with him would be amazing. But the more I’ve examined our lives and started planning for the realities of having a baby together—the more I realize that my husband is truly incompetent and unfit to be a parent.
The bulk of our household management falls to me: grocery shopping, caring for our dog, cooking, planning trips, dealing with our apartment management, and all our bills and finances. He simply cannot do these things. When I ask him to make dinner, he makes mushy pasta with no vegetables. When I ask him to go to the grocery store, he gets overwhelmed and leaves the store with half the list. When I ask him to plan our wake up and leave time for a trip, we invariably miss our flight. And when I have an early meeting, I’ll come home midafternoon to find that the dog hasn’t been out at all yet.
All of that would be … sort of fine (at least commonplace in the culture we live in). But he’s also very sensitive to even very gentle criticism and he is easily stressed. Looking for parking sets him on edge. A website that doesn’t load results in cursing and aggressive sighing. He’s never cruel to me, but when I push back against his behavior and ask him to be more mindful of his temperament, he shuts down for days at a time. I don’t know what to do. I really do love him and the life we have together, but I know it only works if I’m willing to give at least 70 percent at all times, because he’s bringing no more than 30 percent to the table. I’m not a perfectionist, and I’m fine with some things falling through the cracks. But I can’t help thinking that bringing a child into our home would be overwhelming and frustrating for him. Can you help me figure out where to begin dealing with this?
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 27, 2020 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 3,988 |
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 28, 2020 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,257 |
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No, she’ll delude herself into thinking that he’ll magically grow up and become a responsible adult overnight because she’s convinced he’ll love that baby when it arrives.
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All of that would be … sort of fine (at least commonplace in the culture we live in). But he’s also very sensitive to even very gentle criticism and he is easily stressed. Looking for parking sets him on edge. A website that doesn’t load results in cursing and aggressive sighing. He’s never cruel to me, but when I push back against his behavior and ask him to be more mindful of his temperament, he shuts down for days at a time. I don’t know what to do. I really do love him and the life we have together, but I know it only works if I’m willing to give at least 70 percent at all times, because he’s bringing no more than 30 percent to the table.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 28, 2020 | Registered: 4 years ago Posts: 202 |
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices September 30, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,122 |
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Whackaloon
Everyone knows you don't touch mom's coffee cup. But when I went to get coffee this morning, my mug was missing. But no one has it. I (F41) live with my husband (M48) and two of my four sons - "Sean" (M16) and "Ryan" (M20). I've been married 21 years, living in a house filled with varying levels of testosterone. I long ago gave up the notion that I can have anything nice.
Except my coffee mug.
It's my ONE FUCKING THING. I wake up, knowing my mug is waiting for me, waiting for that first cup of bitter, wonderful go-go juice.
But this morning it was missing. So I screamed at everyone, woke everyone up. Because fuck them.
Still no cup.
It's my one thing. Why can't I have ONE THING THAT'S JUST MINE.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices October 02, 2020 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 3,947 |
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices October 02, 2020 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 1,998 |
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices October 05, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,122 |
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices October 12, 2020 | Registered: 14 years ago Posts: 7,781 |
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Cambion
That's not a "hack," that's just using your fucking head. Also, this "hack" may not work if Moo is a shite cook and ramen and microwaved baked potatoes taste good in comparison to whatever slop she churns out (like the tater tot casserole mentioned here before).
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices October 12, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,122 |
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices October 14, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,122 |
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Ya'll I'm about to lose my mind fighting with my 9 year old over her bedtime (and nearly everything else) lately. Tell me is 10pm not a more than reasonable bedtime for a kid her age on a school night!? Her friend was over just now and left around 10:15, and right after her friend left, my daughter immediately started to go to watch YouTube videos. I told her nope, it's already past your bedtime, and she started bawling over how she didn't get to watch anything today (she did earlier but chose to play with friends outside mostly). I explained that when you spend most of the day with your friends that you don't just get extra time to watch tv. Bedtime still happens at the same time and she chose to play with friends instead of watching tv and I didn't make her do that. But no I'm the wicked witch of the West and I should just let her stay up allll night so that she can get mad at me in the morning when I wake her up for school. I know I sound salty and I love my daughter but my God I didn't think they started acting like teenagers at fucking 9 with the amount of attitude she gives me, telling me no when I tell her to do something. Then still acts like a toddler with the bawling and crying. It's the worst of both worlds. I don't live with her father anymore so have nobody to vent to or to back me up at the moment so tbh I really could use some reassurance that I'm not being horrible and unfair to her. I never acted like that with my mom at that age so am I doing something wrong or what!?
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices October 15, 2020 | Registered: 4 years ago Posts: 202 |