Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 10, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,136 |
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Last week, he ate an entire box of Oreos. I wanted some and couldn’t find them so I asked and that’s when he told me he and toddler ate them all. I know my toddler didn’t eat more than 6. I didn’t even have one. I confronted him, he said a half assed sorry.
3 days ago, I found out he ate all the grapes I bought for toddler. Today, I found out he ate (nearly) an entire box of corndogs. I made 5 out of the box when I bought them last week, 2 for me, 2 for him and one for toddler. Today, I went to make toddler one and they’re all gone. There were 11 left.
I confronted him and pretty much went off. He basically acted like I wasn’t even talking. Didnt apologize or say he’d replace it. I asked “If there are 11 corndogs and you eat 3, there are 8 left. The next time you go to make corndogs, you see there’s still 8 left. You eat 3 more and there’s 5 left. You see where I’m going? Why would you think it’s okay to eat every single one knowing nobody else has eaten any?” He didn’t respond.
This happens all the time and I’m sick of it. Everyday, I find something else has been eaten completely.
No regard to anyone else. No consideration. Not even a simple “hey, who did you buy this for/will this be okay?”
If I want some of what I buy, I’ll have to eat it immediately so that I can at least enjoy a bit of it before it gets inhaled. Even if I’m not hungry. I grew up with 3 brothers and food used to disappear all the time. Food I bought for or made for myself would get eaten by someone else. It’s incredibly selfish and now I’m living with this man who does the same thing.
The food I buy for toddler (like frozen blueberry waffles, breakfast burritos, French toast bites, yogurt), my husband doesn’t like so he won’t eat. But if he liked those things, he’d eat them all despite them being for toddler.
I do the grocery shopping, so I told him I’m done buying him food. He can go to the store and buy his own. I also told him I’m done cooking for him, that he needs to cook for himself and clean up after himself, that I will throw away anything that is not where it belongs, that toddler is the only one allowed to be messy. Then I sent him a text with all those things, dated it, and wrote my name.
I will become a monstrous bitch. I’m fucking sick of this asshole.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 10, 2020 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,787 |
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I also love how the preferred suggestion on that sub for dealing with uninvolved Duhs is to ditch the kids with them for an entire day while Moo goes out and does stuff. It's supposed to teach them a lesson about how much work Moo does dealing with their brats in the hopes of forcing them to do more of their share of the brat minding. On paper that sounds great, but I think all it's going to do is show them how much brat care truly sucks balls and they'll go out of their way to avoid it even more.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 10, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,136 |
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 10, 2020 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,265 |
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I keep saying it. When I’m changing double nappies and my toddler is shouting POOP YUCKTCH MUMMYYYYY and the newborn is screaming. I keep saying it and I’ll say it again. I don’t even fucking LIKE kids man. I was solidly child free and suddenly I’ve got two turds following me around. You can’t reason with them they’re literally the devil incarnate.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 10, 2020 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,787 |
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https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/k9vqau/i_hate_my_child/
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I'm so overwhelmed. I really hate her at the moment. She threw all her lunch on the floor. I hate my life
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 10, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,136 |
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This is so naive. I can see a brand new moo thinking this.
The few times womben do this it never works out as they want (just like their marriages and brats). The duh sits around and zones the brats out, doesn't do any housework and may manage to feed the brats whatever he can find (hand them a box of cereal or chips or if he is feeling particularly ambitious-order a pizza). He likely passes out. Moo comes home, the house is in disarray, the kids are covered with food, if there is a dog it is likely going nuts and the duh is passed out. The duhs who do this have one standard: feed the brats anything edible at least once a day. If she wakes him up to make sure he learned his lesson it isn't going to register to him.
Moos deserve days where they can ditch the kids with the duhs for the day. They shouldn't have to be up to their eyeballs in frustration before they ditch for a day because the misery should be shared by both responsible parties in the first place. Moos and duhs both need time away from the brats. The issue is when moos expect to come home to a miracle or for the duhs to have an epiphany.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 10, 2020 | Registered: 4 years ago Posts: 202 |
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I'm so overwhelmed. I really hate her at the moment. She threw all her lunch on the floor. I hate my life
Take brat outside for every meal. Tell brat if it insists on acting like an animal it will be treated like one. If brat throws food on the ground tell brat the meal is done. Go inside. Continue until this nonsense stops. Problem solved.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 11, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,136 |
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It didn't take me long to regret having a baby. Like many, I really underestimated the magnitude of what I was getting into, and didn't realise I would lose all my freedom and my identity to the rest of the world would basically become "[daughter]'s mom". I also didn't realise that my partner wasn't as committed as he promised he would be when it came to being an equal parent. I soon realised he expected me to carry the majority of the mental load of parenthood, and it was horrible. I was the one expected to make the majority of the sacrifices.
To make it worse, my daughter was a colic baby who screamed the house down whenever she was awake. I slept so little during her first 2 years that there were moments I was scared I would die from sleep deprivation, and no one ever wanted to babysit her because she was such a screamer. She was also a difficult toddler. it felt like everyone around me was having magical Kodak moments while I was trapped in a proverbial prison. A lot of people confessed to me that it is normal to regret the baby at first, and assured me that it would get better. It was always "don't worry, she will soon sleep through the night, you'll be able to leave her with the grandparents".
Well.
My child is now 6, has severe ADHD and is a fucking nightmare child. I have that kid. I have the 6 year old who still bites, the 6 year old who ignores you when you tell her not to do something, the 6 year old fucking obsessed with attention, the obnoxious 6 year old. I love her in that way I am biologically programmed to love her because she came out of my vagina, but I don't like her at all. I would go as far to say that i genuinely can't stand her and if there was some way that I could snap my fingers and make her not exist, I'd do it. I don't like her and my regret about ever having her just grows by the day. She has ripped my marriage to pieces, because raising her has been so stressful. We are spending so much money taking her to specialists to try and get a solution because she doesn't respond to medication and there is always a big out of pocket fee. I had to ruin my career because she got kicked out of two day care centres because she was so difficult, and the school she is in right now doesn't want her back. She's been asked to leave numerous extra curricular activities because she can't fucking follow directions and refrain from biting other kids and being a little shit.
There is no reward in parenting her at all, just suffering and misery. I can't do any of the nice things I always wanted to do with my child. All the things I envisioned doing with a child can't be done without her ruining them with her behaviour. i can't take her anywhere because she still has meltdowns like a toddler and I am embarrassed being "that mom who can't control her child". I find it hard to make mom friends because everyone judges me because my kid is such a little shit. No one can bring themelves to force their kid to play with my little shit of a kid.
A few weeks ago, I got a facebook memories showing how happy we were at her gender reveal. My husband and I haven't been happy since she was born. I truly regret having her. If I had any idea it would be like this, I would have aborted the pregnancy. I don't like her at all. I wish I could control+z her out of existence. I don't want her anymore, but I'm stuck with her. I made my bed and I have to lie in it and it's hell. I'm living in hell. At least when she was a baby, no one thought I was a crap mom because it was acceptable. Now I'm just the useless mom who can't control her brat. I resent her so much. Shit sucks.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 11, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,136 |
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My 4 year old son is being an asshole. He listens to NOTHING I say ever, he just does what he wants and acts surprised when he gets in trouble. I take him out for christmas shopping and this little shit touches everything in the fucking store after I repeatedly tell him to stop, he runs in front of people with big heavy trolleys full of stuff and he doesn't care. Literally no spatial awareness. He pulled my skirt up in front of all these people and they all saw my white pasty asscheeks. Of course I lost my patience and got flustered but that gets me looked at and people start whispering and giving me dirty looks. Like seriously? Fuck off.
He has acted this way for months. He doesn't listen until I'm yelling and then its just a cycle of bad feelings. How am I supposed to teach him or help him make good decisions if he 1. Doesn't listen when I try to talk to him or 2. Doesn't fucking care? I'm 33 weeks pregnant, have an 18 month old as well and then this little hellion is running around like a crack head. Is it me? It feels like it. Nothing I do works. I'd have better luck headbutting a wall than trying to tell him why he can't do something or why he's in trouble. What am I supposed to do?
Just needed to get it out.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 12, 2020 | Registered: 14 years ago Posts: 12,457 |
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 14, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,136 |
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AITA Moo
I was livid kept yelling at him for being neglectful and reckless and literally forgetting about his own kids over a game.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 14, 2020 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,787 |
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Dealing with Duhs who inhale all the food, and Moos discuss having to scarf it immediately just to have some or buying things/flavors they know their man-babies don't like to ensure it doesn't get horfed. Plenty of people suggesting Duh has an eating disorder. Yeah no, last I checked, being a selfish fucking pig isn't an eating disorder. Some even suggest hiding food or putting locks on the cupboards/pantry. An adult should not have to literally keep food under lock and key to prevent another adult from eating it.
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Don't they make diapers now that can be worn for 12 straight hours? Maybe Moo ought to invest in those because she sure can't rely on Duh to put the loaf in a clean shitrag. Or maybe she ought to teach the older kid to do it because, again, numero uno in Daddy's life is obviously video games. And of course Duh's Moo is taking his side, saying Moo gave him too much to handle. Moo married a momma's boy, he's never gonna change.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 15, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,136 |
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I'm heartbroken. On top of this - I'm having some extreme resentment towards my daughter, and I hate myself for it.
My daughter has pretty much been extremely difficult from birth. Colic from day 1. I'm talking non-stop crying. Ear piercing shrieks. Day in an day out. Now that she's a toddler - she is still a demon. She is "that kid". She talks back, has so many tantrums, gets kicked out of daycare..... all that stuff. My husband has some pretty bad sensory issues with noise.... so yeah.
She's not diagnosed with anything..... the doctors always seem to agree - she just has an extremely difficult personality, and that's just how she is. "Strong willed" gets used a lot. I hate that term.
Well, my husband and I always planned on have 2 or 3 kids. We've discussed kid number two a few times and my husband flat out will not have another kid. He said if we could guarantee an easy child, he would be down. But if we had another kid like our daughter..... our marriage would not survive. Today I pushed him on it and he broke down in tears and said how sad he is that we can't have the family we pictured but there's just no way he could risk two difficult kids. .
After this talk, I know he is for real and is never going to change his mind.
It's really hard for me not to resent our daughter. My husband was SO PSYCHED to have a kid. He would not shut up about all the daddy-daughter stuff they were gonna do. That got shut down so quickly. We can't really even take her anywhere public without some meltdown. The whole experience has really turned my husband off of kids. Don't get me wrong - he is a great father, but this is not how we pictured it.
I am sad =(
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 18, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,136 |
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It's a weird title but hear me out. Seeing him be a stand up guy, communicating effectively, picking up slack from the people he works with, working HARD for little pay and just being an all around good guy makes me so angry because why can't his family ever get that guy? It's like he's a totally different person and I hate it. I'm jealous and petty. I want the side of him other people are getting. I hate to see that he's capable of so much and giving so little at home.
And I also hate him working from home because we were excited about it as he could be more involved (his exact words). He hardly leaves his computer to pee. The other day toddler was right next to him on the floor with paper and glue and I announced I was going to make lunch. Not once in the 15 minutes I was gone has he glanced in toddlers direction because she managed to glue a lot of her toys to the paper. Guess who had to clean all that before eating her lunch as we didn't want the glue to harden up? Yeah. So great that you're involved. Loving it.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 18, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,136 |
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Cause all he has to do is tell everyone the story of how he didn’t sleep overnight for 12hrs when I went into labor (from 12am, went to hospital at 3 am gave birth at 12pm) and suddenly he’s a hero and worshipped.
“Yeah, I didn’t even have a bed! I just sat in the chair next to her overnight. I got so hungry in the morning and had to hurry my ass up to Jack in the Box for some breakfast, I was so scared I’d miss the birth if I left! And I was so tired I was afraid I’d crash the car!”
Cue everyone calling him amazing, strong, it must have been so hard and saying HE went though so much that night.
But everyone forgets I, the mom, ALSO didn’t get to sleep those 12 hours plus the two days in the hospital after that cause I was up 24/7 with the baby, while also going though the pain of labor and childbirth, getting stitches afterwards, and fucking starving not being allowed to eat while my husband got to eat Jack in the Box.
Lmao but nope, HE was the strong one.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 18, 2020 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,787 |
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Moo is bawwwing because she hates seeing how useful and helpful her husband is while he works (from home) while he's a useless sack domestically. She is jealous that his job gets the "better" husband when the family "deserves" the better husband.