Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices January 22, 2021 |
The Moo with the abusive Dud wrote this, which I'm pasting here because they often remove it later:
"I know the behavior will escalate but he's my only 'support system'*"
What the fuck kind of support system does she have with him now? He's gone all the time and makes her do everything with the kids, and is a rage-aholic when he's around.
But based on what she wrote (excuses) ITA she will likely stay put and breed with him some more.
Jeebus! Three kids in three years!
And this:
Yeah, because he's never there and has anger problems....I'm sure he's a great faaaaaaather.
She's really saying this because she's weak.
I get the feeling if she divorces him and he has to spend time with his kids, he will be long gone anyway. The kids are a means of control.
These women are always uneducated and without resources. I bet she thought he was decisive, strong and sexy when they were dating, when he was really an abusive control freak.
Women like this short-circuit their normal sense of danger. And then they drag a bunch of kids into the situation.
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I'm 2 months postpartum with our third child and partner wants another one in 3 years; he talks about it almost twice a week. I'm at the end of my rope. I have a tolerate/hate relationship with my 3 year old twins and my new baby. She has colic and screams 5 hours a day. My partner travels frequently for work and is often gone on weekends and says I complain too much. My parents live in another state. I know I'm slipping into a mighty depression and I cant help but regret this baby. When I told my partner I didn't want any more children he literally punched a hole in the wall of our apartment. I'm not naive in that I understand this behavior will most likely escalate but I have no support system outside of my partner. This is just the short version of it but I'm at my wits end and seemingly out of options.
Thanks for listening to my rant.
"I know the behavior will escalate but he's my only 'support system'*"
What the fuck kind of support system does she have with him now? He's gone all the time and makes her do everything with the kids, and is a rage-aholic when he's around.
But based on what she wrote (excuses) ITA she will likely stay put and breed with him some more.
Jeebus! Three kids in three years!
And this:
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He has offered to help me hire a part-time babysitter for all 3 kids, but insists that I pay for it instead of him (i only have a savings account. I'm a SAHM and don't have income).
There are other red flags as well. He is pressuring me to start taking 1 or 2 college classes right now so I can get a head start (did I mention I'm uneducated?) on my schooling, but I'm already so slammed that it would just exacerbate my fragile emotional state. He says if I can't do at least 1 class with 3 kids then I'm not managing my time correctly.
I know I need to leave. It saddens me because I will have to rip my children away from their father.:/
Yeah, because he's never there and has anger problems....I'm sure he's a great faaaaaaather.
She's really saying this because she's weak.I get the feeling if she divorces him and he has to spend time with his kids, he will be long gone anyway. The kids are a means of control.
These women are always uneducated and without resources. I bet she thought he was decisive, strong and sexy when they were dating, when he was really an abusive control freak.
Women like this short-circuit their normal sense of danger. And then they drag a bunch of kids into the situation.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices January 25, 2021 |
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freya
Mental dry heaving...you are a poet with words Cambion. You could author your own Urban Dictionary!
Haha, glad to be of service! I'm here all week.
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LoveToLurk
He wasn’t shopping at the homeless shelter, but I would bet dollars to donuts he WAS shopping for some brainless, spineless woman who would let him be his domineering self. Men like that loathe women with confidence and the ability to think for themselves, because they know that said women will have no problem telling them to F off.
There's definitely no shortage of women like that and most of them will gladly marry and breed with these assholes without a second thought because there was probably no first thought to begin with. And these women all say they have absolutely nothing - no family, no friends, no money, no vehicle, no license, no skills, no education, not a good goddamn thing, so they have absolutely no means to escape when they inevitably learn the guy they married is a gigantic horse's ass. I don't know what they expect with rock-bottom standards.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices January 28, 2021 |
Moo doesn't like the culture of "mom shaming". Well, if you don't want people to fucking get on your case about how you raise your damn kids, then don't share it online! But as we all know, that's impossible because Moos feel obligated to share every little fart and hiccup their kids make on every social platform. You make that shit public and you're pretty much laying yourself out to be flayed no matter what you do or don't do. Moo feelings have nothing to do with any of it - the fact of the matter is people will always be critical of anything you do no matter what it is, and sometimes Moos just plain do dumb shit. If it gets to them so much, maybe it's because they know the big mean "shamers" are right, at least to an extent. But it's much easier to cry shame and discrimination than it is to take criticism and fix your shit.
Or, you know, don't have any damn kids and no one will criticize your parenting! And I'm totally 100% sure none of these heifers have EVER talked shit about their Moo peers.
Love this comment:
So I guess it's somehow not the parents' fault that the kids they completely voluntarily chose to create do child things that make their lives miserable. I'm dying to know whose fault it is for the existence of these pesky brats if it's not the fault of the parents. Man, it must be some kind of nice to be able to bitch about how terrible it is having kids and then bitch when people remind you that you chose that life.
Another great comment:
Uhh no, that's not the same thing, asshole. Most people actually need to have jobs and sometimes the only jobs they can get are shitty ones and they have every right to complain about a relatively involuntary choice. Exactly nobody needs to have kids. And honestly, who gives a flying fuck if we were all kids once? Just because I used to be something in the past doesn't mean I have to be tolerant of it in the present.
Don't share your whole fucking life with the world if you don't want the whole fucking world shoving their opinions down your throat. As an added bonus, there are some sour grapes as garnish on this shit platter as she mentions how much better fathers have it because if they so much as look in their kids' general direction, they're heaped with praise.
Personally, I haven't seen this so-called mom shaming culture anywhere but on childfree sites and it's always pretty deserved shame. Moos get their udders kissed and their asses patted in every regard and I'd wager a lot of the shaming they experience comes from other Moos because a lot of breeder women do not mature out of the high school mindset and bully others for anything.
A final note on the coffee thing since it seems to be a common issue: why don't they just let their kids try some black coffee? I guarantee it will make the kids not want it anymore. It sure turned me off to it when my aunt let me drink her coffee once when I was about nine and I didn't drink it again until I was maybe 17 when I discovered you could put cream and sugar into coffee.
God these women are bigger babies than the brats they crapped out.
Bold part below for emphasis. It should be part of parenthood 101 that once you become a parent, you do not get to enjoy things anymore because your children WILL ruin everything. Your body, your things, your vacations, your sick days, your bathroom visits, your morning coffee, your vehicle, your job, your sex life, your marriage, your paycheck, your hobbies and everything in between. Stuff that you never thought could be ruined is stuff a child will figure out how to ruin.
https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/l64mlj/moms_are_people_too/
Also this comment where Moo complains about her MIL:
Uhh, yeah, she kinda did force her to become a grandma by reproducing with the MIL's son. Does she not know how this whole biology thing works?
Or, you know, don't have any damn kids and no one will criticize your parenting! And I'm totally 100% sure none of these heifers have EVER talked shit about their Moo peers.
Love this comment:
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There's no way to win if you are a mom. If you have any feelings at all that aren't "Omigoshmykidsareamazingallthetimemylifeisgreat!" then you hear "why did you have kids in the first place?" or "it was your choice..."
So I guess it's somehow not the parents' fault that the kids they completely voluntarily chose to create do child things that make their lives miserable. I'm dying to know whose fault it is for the existence of these pesky brats if it's not the fault of the parents. Man, it must be some kind of nice to be able to bitch about how terrible it is having kids and then bitch when people remind you that you chose that life.
Another great comment:
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Or the ones who say "you chose to have kids" anytime you dare complain about anything. By that reasoning you can't moan about your job but you can bet everyone does that! Does everyone who hates kids forget that we were all kids once?
Uhh no, that's not the same thing, asshole. Most people actually need to have jobs and sometimes the only jobs they can get are shitty ones and they have every right to complain about a relatively involuntary choice. Exactly nobody needs to have kids. And honestly, who gives a flying fuck if we were all kids once? Just because I used to be something in the past doesn't mean I have to be tolerant of it in the present.
Don't share your whole fucking life with the world if you don't want the whole fucking world shoving their opinions down your throat. As an added bonus, there are some sour grapes as garnish on this shit platter as she mentions how much better fathers have it because if they so much as look in their kids' general direction, they're heaped with praise.
Personally, I haven't seen this so-called mom shaming culture anywhere but on childfree sites and it's always pretty deserved shame. Moos get their udders kissed and their asses patted in every regard and I'd wager a lot of the shaming they experience comes from other Moos because a lot of breeder women do not mature out of the high school mindset and bully others for anything.
A final note on the coffee thing since it seems to be a common issue: why don't they just let their kids try some black coffee? I guarantee it will make the kids not want it anymore. It sure turned me off to it when my aunt let me drink her coffee once when I was about nine and I didn't drink it again until I was maybe 17 when I discovered you could put cream and sugar into coffee.
God these women are bigger babies than the brats they crapped out.
Bold part below for emphasis. It should be part of parenthood 101 that once you become a parent, you do not get to enjoy things anymore because your children WILL ruin everything. Your body, your things, your vacations, your sick days, your bathroom visits, your morning coffee, your vehicle, your job, your sex life, your marriage, your paycheck, your hobbies and everything in between. Stuff that you never thought could be ruined is stuff a child will figure out how to ruin.
https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/l64mlj/moms_are_people_too/
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I hate this internet culture of shaming mothers. You see a video of a mom trying to enjoy something, say...she just made some brownies and wanted to take a picture for the gram, and when she goes to grab her phone, her kiddos go in and put their damn hands in it, so she gets sad... and she posts that picture with "Well, I guess I can't enjoy anything.... and it goes viral as people shame her for expecting that her kids should be normal humans and not put their hands in the brownies.
We have feelings too and sometimes our kids just ruin everything. We're not saying it's their fault. We just feel sad that these beautiful brownies we made are completely ruined with finger marks.
Or a door cam video of a mom who is trying to get her kids in the car goes viral. Mom looks dressed up ready for possibly date night, she could be taking kiddos to the babysitter and one of the kids decides to squeeze the living hell out of their juice box, getting apple and eve all over mom, and mom just puts kid down on the ground and goes inside all defeated and people are like, "well she shouldn't have given the kid a juice box. If she had a brain she'd have expected her nice blouse to be ruined." Or "don't feel bad, you asked for this when you had kids."
Like...wtf is wrong with people? We have feelings too. Sometimes we get ready to have a nice cup of coffee to ourselves but then our kid is all like "mama! Hold me!." And while you're cuddling your little one, they keep trying to take your cup, or put their fingers in the steaming liquid, so you're forced to drink it at a weird angle while your kid screams in your ear because you won't let them have the magical mommy drink. And you just feel so sad ...so you go online and complain but people just make you feel like shit.
Buuuuuuuuuut if dad was in these situations? "Aw that's so sweet you made brownies! Sorry the kiddos ruined it." "Lmao why can't mom out her in her carseat?!?" "Awww I'm sorry you can't drink your coffee without your baby screaming to have it. Just give him to mom!"
Ugh fuck the internet and people who shame us moms for fucking feeling. Mom guilt is a thing and people who do shit like this aren't helping.
I'm just grateful for subs like this and I love you all. The mods on this sub are pretty awesome people too for making sure the rules are followed. No shaming, don't be a jerk, love and support....I couldn't be more thankful for people like y'all.
Also this comment where Moo complains about her MIL:
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she hits me with the, "nobody forced you to be a mom, you chose this for yourself!" Well listen you cunt, nobody forced you to be a grandma, feel free to fuck all the way off and not step foot in my house again.
Uhh, yeah, she kinda did force her to become a grandma by reproducing with the MIL's son. Does she not know how this whole biology thing works?
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