Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread October 20, 2013 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 866 |
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I got bingoed by the mom of a friend of mine who passed away about 5 years ago. I developed a friendship with his mom after he passed, and I really thought she was accepting of my being CF based on previous conversations, but today she lobbed every bingo my way that she could while we were having a conversation about something else and the subject kind of forayed into my being CF. I just changed the subject because I didn't want to risk getting really bitchy in response. It really angered me and hurt my feelings based on previous interactions with her where she was quite accepting and even said I "stand taller than most." It's odd that all these bingoes just came out of nowhere. How does it affect her in any way, in any case? :headbrick
I am sorry that this happened to you. But, it just goes to show everyone that you cannot trust breeders. They dragged people here in spite of the fact that there are so many kids already here without parents. How much sense does that make? They are narcissistic and stupid. The only reason breeders have kids is to have a free CNA in their senior years or because of peer pressure. No matter how sane a breeder seems, don't trust them or they will turn on you.
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Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread October 21, 2013 |
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Well I got bingoed again today by my new psychologist , I'm seeing her for issues related to having a shitty and abusive childhood.
Any way on my notes it apparently says patient does not want any children and is looking into sterilisation.
She looks at me asked about it, I tell her yes I want no kids blah blah, she then says "if I were you I'd be keeping all my options open" wtf ....I lost my temper with her and snapped "I do not want them for a variety of reasons and already know were I stand on this issue I am not here to discuss changing my mind.
She then pulled the whole it must be because of my shitty childhood is the reason for not wanting them. I don't know what to as this psychologist is covered cost wise by a government plan thing that I'm under here in Australia and my health insurance covers the rest of the cost. So I can't exactly go find another one that easily either.
Don't ask, DEMAND a new therapist, and make it explicitly clear WHY you are rejecting this therapist. It doesn't matter how the costs are being covered, you deserve to have a compatible therapist. And be very, very clear with any new therapist you get that the subject is NOT up for debate, or you will complain about them. Sometimes you just have to advocate for yourself really hard, and waiting for a new therapist who's more compatible for you will be worth the wait. When I was undergoing therapy a few years ago, I told them explicitly that I need an LGFT-friendly therapist with a fairly liberal mindset. This was a state-funded program and I got who I asked for. Never even asked me about my CF stance or anything, but I knew if it came up, she wouldn't bingo me (and I think she was CF as well). Be clear about the kind of person you need to speak with for therapy, because the purpose is to help you overcome stress, anxiety, and other issues, NOT to try and alter who you are as a person. Best of luck to you. I feel the utmost sympathy for you.
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Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread October 30, 2013 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 721 |
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Heard today out of some old bag, how my life will be empty without children and that most people once they reach middle age regret it.
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Don't even ask me how I ended up in this conversation with her.. I promptly told her to get fucked and walked off . The old dear almost had a heart attack on the spot.
Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread October 30, 2013 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 721 |
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There is no way that using proper BC the RIGHTway wouldn't work. Double..or triple up. Thre are things to do if you don't use BC.. or if there is a BC failure. If you want to be CF you WILL be CF. That is such a stupid bingo... that ... 'they just 'happen'.
Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread October 30, 2013 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 721 |
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Good way to make money is make bets with everyone about when you'll have kids. Of course when you don't breed when the other side of the bet says you will, they'll have some convenient reason as to why they can't pay you ever.
Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread October 30, 2013 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 721 |
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The bingo I've gotten was,
"Well, what if your brother has a kid and you get attached to it? That happened with So-and-So."
Well, if that kid happens to have four feet and a tail then it's possible. But if we're talking loaves here, no thanks.
What has getting 'attached' to your brother's kid got to do with having one of your own? That is a stupid comment. So.. you get 'attached' to a neice or nephew... big whoop. Doesn't mean you want one of your own. These bingoers are really scrapin' the bottom of the barrel for these things.
Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread October 30, 2013 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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Heard today out of some old bag, how my life will be empty without children and that most people once they reach middle age regret it.
Just so you know, I just turned 64 and I don't regret being childfree one single bit. Part of the reason I'm on Bratfree is to support you younger people, so that you know you made the right decision.
Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread November 01, 2013 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 1,227 |
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Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread November 05, 2013 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 579 |
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My wife got bingoed by a friends wife. She has quite a few years on my wife and I and this woman, SIL and my wife were having a conversation and kids came up. The SIL has two out of control daughters (9 months and 4 years) and my wife was asked if she was going to have kids. My wife said no and my friend's wife asked "are you sure" and my wife (drawing on her experience with the nieces) said "definitely". With that answer the SIL gave my wife a strange look and said "yeah you just like riling up my kids then giving them back to me". When I heard this story from my wife she told me the story but added what she was thinking which was "yeah I don't even like doing that".
I'm glad my wife refrained from telling them about my vasectomy because I would like to announce it at a totally inappropriate time... like over Xmas dinner which is coming up because the SIL insists on having the entire family over for Xmas so it can build more memories for her kids. Shoot me now.
Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread November 05, 2013 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 7,757 |
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. Shoot me now.
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Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread November 05, 2013 |
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It's true that even if you use BC religiously, you can still get knocked up. (I got knocked up in '75 when I was using both The Pill and the infamous Dalkon Shield IUD.) That's what abortion is for, and that's why I'm 64 and still CF. I not only talk the talk, I've walked the walk.
And reading this thread has made me count my blessings. After decades of being bingo-ed by everyone from my parents to total strangers on a train, at last I look too old to still be fertile. It's a done deal, and my face says so. It's really liberating! Hang in there, young people, there is light at the end of the tunnel!
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Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread November 14, 2013 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 2,176 |
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" Now you'll need to have five since you're an only daughter."
FIVE??? :goggle she's gone off the deep end!
Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread November 14, 2013 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 2,176 |
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" Now you'll need to have five since you're an only daughter."
FIVE??? :goggle she's gone off the deep end!
These people seem to think we're nothing more than twat croissant ovens instead of human beings....geez! eyes2
(FTR, my moo used to be like this, too...until I had my tubal.)
seriously!
and what does being an only daughter have to do with anything? It's not like that's milenascarlet's fault!
Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread November 14, 2013 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 579 |
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" Now you'll need to have five since you're an only daughter."
FIVE??? :goggle she's gone off the deep end!
These people seem to think we're nothing more than twat croissant ovens instead of human beings....geez! eyes2
(FTR, my moo used to be like this, too...until I had my tubal.)
seriously!
and what does being an only daughter have to do with anything? It's not like that's milenascarlet's fault!
I'm an only daughter, too. eyes2 My moo bugged me for years about getting married and having kyds just because SHE did it, and that's what women are supposed to do! Being the only daughter didn't really help much...
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Re: The "I got bingo-ed" thread November 18, 2013 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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Had the strangest thing said to me recently I'm not if it even counts as a bingo but an acquaintance of my mothers was apparently asking her about when am I going to breed and my mum defended me.
But when I came to visit later that evening this woman was still there and she said to me "you know, you may choose not to have kids, but your still part of the human race wether you like or not." Wtf I mean talk about about being screwed up....I had no idea what to make of that one!