"Hurray I'm registered!"(use this thread to introduce yourself)
Posted by zeropop
Here I am!  up March 14, 2012 |
I'm more of a lurker than a poster, usually (hence the username), but I thought, why not register.
I'm in my mid-20's and have always vaguely thought that I didn't want children, but this was brought to a head in the last couple of years as some (not many, but some) of my friends have started reproducing. This caused me to search my own feelings on the matter and go "Hell no, not for me." I have not tried to get sterilized, but it is one of my life goals that I hope to accomplish in the next few years.
Some of my reasons, roughly in order, are: extreme, extreme, extreme revulsion of pregnancy/childbirth, mental health issues that I struggle with and don't want to pass on, and love of money (which I don't have much of, so especially need to hold onto what I do have). My family and friends are mostly supportive of my CFness, so I am lucky in that.
I have been lurking for quite a while, especially because the forum loads very quickly and well on my phone so I can check it first thing in the morning when I get up.
I'm in my mid-20's and have always vaguely thought that I didn't want children, but this was brought to a head in the last couple of years as some (not many, but some) of my friends have started reproducing. This caused me to search my own feelings on the matter and go "Hell no, not for me." I have not tried to get sterilized, but it is one of my life goals that I hope to accomplish in the next few years.
Some of my reasons, roughly in order, are: extreme, extreme, extreme revulsion of pregnancy/childbirth, mental health issues that I struggle with and don't want to pass on, and love of money (which I don't have much of, so especially need to hold onto what I do have). My family and friends are mostly supportive of my CFness, so I am lucky in that.
I have been lurking for quite a while, especially because the forum loads very quickly and well on my phone so I can check it first thing in the morning when I get up.
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Glad I'm not the only one who checks Bratfree on my phone immediately after awakening and before actually getting out of bed. 
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michaela
"A child will make two dishes at an entertainment for friends, and when the family dines alone, the fore or hind quarter will make a reasonable dish, and seasoned with a little pepper or salt, will be very good boiled on the fourth day, especially in winter." -Jonathan Swift, A Modest Proposal
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michaela
"A child will make two dishes at an entertainment for friends, and when the family dines alone, the fore or hind quarter will make a reasonable dish, and seasoned with a little pepper or salt, will be very good boiled on the fourth day, especially in winter." -Jonathan Swift, A Modest Proposal
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michaela
Glad I'm not the only one who checks Bratfree on my phone immediately after awakening and before actually getting out of bed.
Nope, that's how I start my day and motivate myself to get up.
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spook
You might want to invest in a t-shirt or three that you have custome made with sayings like" NO - WE DON"T WANT KIDS!", etc. I have found that a good t-shirt either kills a lot of potential convos, or it can make them happen (I've made some pretty funny ones over the years, but the shops come and go due to no money in it.)
Thats a damn good idea. And thanks you guys for the warm welcome.
Hello everyone! I had an account here years ago, but cant remember my username or email,so had to start from scratch. still havent changed my views on being happily and proudly childfree. and welcome to all the newbies welcome everybody :jump nice to see more members on my age range!
we're doing a favor to our parentswink finally we stop the vicious cycle, LOL
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kids?nothanks
Parents ruin their life so their kids can have a better life. And those kids will then ruin their life so that the third generation can also ruin their life by having kids... how sad.
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we're doing a favor to our parents
wink finally we stop the vicious cycle, LOLQuote
felisdomestica
welcome everybody :jump nice to see more members on my age range!Quote
kids?nothanks
Parents ruin their life so their kids can have a better life. And those kids will then ruin their life so that the third generation can also ruin their life by having kids... how sad.
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we're doing a favor to our parents
Hello everyone again!
That was always one of my lines of thinking: finally I'm stopping the vicious cycle of miserable brat-slavery.
Hi all! New member here! Well, I joined a year or so back, right before the board went down. During that time, I sort of forgot about the board and forgot about it. Then when I remembered about it (and it was finally back up), my account got deleted and I've been lazy about creating a new one 'til now. So, I've just been lurking for awhile, enjoying all of your posts.
Anyhow, I am a 22 year old woman who lives in Arizona. I've known I was child-free (even if I didn't know there was a term at the time) since I was 11 years old. I remember right around the exact time, too. I was in a play at the time (I was really big into theatre for years and am starting to get back into it), and one of the cast member's mom brought the baby brother (he had to be no more than 6 months) to almost every rehearsal. She would breastfeed him (at least she had the decency to cover up with something - but still, not something I wanted to see at that age), sing him songs and pretty much babystalk all the other parents who were there waiting for their kids. I started to get really annoyed with this women and how she acted, while most of the other people thought she and the baby were just so wonderful. I didn't get what was "OMG SO SPECIAL!!1!" about this. After that, I started to realize that I felt that way about most babies, toddlers, children, etc. Plus babies and toddlers are noisy, messy, and smelly, and children and teenagers can have the worst attitudes and rude behavior (hey, I hated teenagers acting like that when I was that age). Plus I learned what REALLY happens when are pregnant and give birth (not just you grow a baby in your uterus for 9 months and you push it out of your vagina and everything is fine - I mean the tearing, the pooping, etc.). Why you would want to subject yourself to that, I have no idea.
Moving on....
I live with my mom and several pets (7 cats and 4 dogs). It's actually quite a good living arrangement. Only in the last year so have I been getting over some mental health issues (another reason for me not to breed), and my mom is pretty awesome. She fully supports me in being child free, and is definitely what I would consider a parent and not a breeder. My grandparents on her side totally support me to. Don't know about my dad or his side, don't care to, cut them out of my life after my parents got a divorce some years ago and I found out how toxic a person he really is.
Well, sorry for the novel
ongue2, but just wanted to give you some info as to who I am!
(Oh, and as a follow up to baby-stalking stage mom: I thought we had seen the last of her after that show, but 3 or so years later I was in a production of something else; when I saw that the daughter had auditioned and was going to be in the show, I secretly blew a gasket. I knew mom would be up to her attention-whoring ways. She didn't have baby this time, as he was probably right around 4, but she still tried to become BFF's with any parent who would pay attention to her. I wonder if she's still attention-whoring today [maybe a late 40's miracle baby?] or daughter has taken over the reins and produced the first grandsprog. Unfortunately, the daughter was like a mini-me of mom.)
Anyhow, I am a 22 year old woman who lives in Arizona. I've known I was child-free (even if I didn't know there was a term at the time) since I was 11 years old. I remember right around the exact time, too. I was in a play at the time (I was really big into theatre for years and am starting to get back into it), and one of the cast member's mom brought the baby brother (he had to be no more than 6 months) to almost every rehearsal. She would breastfeed him (at least she had the decency to cover up with something - but still, not something I wanted to see at that age), sing him songs and pretty much babystalk all the other parents who were there waiting for their kids. I started to get really annoyed with this women and how she acted, while most of the other people thought she and the baby were just so wonderful. I didn't get what was "OMG SO SPECIAL!!1!" about this. After that, I started to realize that I felt that way about most babies, toddlers, children, etc. Plus babies and toddlers are noisy, messy, and smelly, and children and teenagers can have the worst attitudes and rude behavior (hey, I hated teenagers acting like that when I was that age). Plus I learned what REALLY happens when are pregnant and give birth (not just you grow a baby in your uterus for 9 months and you push it out of your vagina and everything is fine - I mean the tearing, the pooping, etc.). Why you would want to subject yourself to that, I have no idea.
Moving on....
I live with my mom and several pets (7 cats and 4 dogs). It's actually quite a good living arrangement. Only in the last year so have I been getting over some mental health issues (another reason for me not to breed), and my mom is pretty awesome. She fully supports me in being child free, and is definitely what I would consider a parent and not a breeder. My grandparents on her side totally support me to. Don't know about my dad or his side, don't care to, cut them out of my life after my parents got a divorce some years ago and I found out how toxic a person he really is.
Well, sorry for the novel
ongue2, but just wanted to give you some info as to who I am! (Oh, and as a follow up to baby-stalking stage mom: I thought we had seen the last of her after that show, but 3 or so years later I was in a production of something else; when I saw that the daughter had auditioned and was going to be in the show, I secretly blew a gasket. I knew mom would be up to her attention-whoring ways. She didn't have baby this time, as he was probably right around 4, but she still tried to become BFF's with any parent who would pay attention to her. I wonder if she's still attention-whoring today [maybe a late 40's miracle baby?] or daughter has taken over the reins and produced the first grandsprog. Unfortunately, the daughter was like a mini-me of mom.)
Hi everyone!
I'm a 39 year old single female in PA. I think I've always known that I didn't want children, but will admit to a stretch in my 20's that I thought that I had to follow the lifescript, find a man and pop out some kids. Even though every time I thought about it, I knew I'd never be happy having to chase after brats for 18+ years. Thanks to the internet, I've found that there are a lot of people out there like me that don't want kids and it's alright not to have them. I think of the things I've done and realize that I wouldn't have had those experiences had I pushed out some kids.
Another thing that led to my not wanting kids is the fact that my father's side of the family really, really, really needs some chlorine in the gene pool. I'm not saying that just because I don't like that side of the family, but more for the fact that as the generations go on, there are more and more health problems manifesting themselves. I do come from a small town of people that never leave, so the pool is getting shallower and shallower as the years go on. I don't live in that area anymore, but I've got those small town genes in me. I've got my own health problems to deal with, I don't have to worry about someone else's.
Lately it seems like every single person I know is pushing out the kids. I can't tell you how many people I blocked on facebook because I'm sick of every freaking post being about the pregnancy or babby taking a dump after his first meal at a buffet.
Okay, that last one was my half-sister that I never really talk talk to (but that's another story). "Bratleigh took a poop in his diaper on the way home from his first trip to the buffet place after eating dinner with Gram and Pap." Really? Why the hell would you post that? It's not cute, it's freaking disgusting. ::brbl <--that is a great emoticon!
Ugg, I can go on and on. But that's not to becoming in a welcome post. Now I'm off to read.
I'm a 39 year old single female in PA. I think I've always known that I didn't want children, but will admit to a stretch in my 20's that I thought that I had to follow the lifescript, find a man and pop out some kids. Even though every time I thought about it, I knew I'd never be happy having to chase after brats for 18+ years. Thanks to the internet, I've found that there are a lot of people out there like me that don't want kids and it's alright not to have them. I think of the things I've done and realize that I wouldn't have had those experiences had I pushed out some kids.
Another thing that led to my not wanting kids is the fact that my father's side of the family really, really, really needs some chlorine in the gene pool. I'm not saying that just because I don't like that side of the family, but more for the fact that as the generations go on, there are more and more health problems manifesting themselves. I do come from a small town of people that never leave, so the pool is getting shallower and shallower as the years go on. I don't live in that area anymore, but I've got those small town genes in me. I've got my own health problems to deal with, I don't have to worry about someone else's.
Lately it seems like every single person I know is pushing out the kids. I can't tell you how many people I blocked on facebook because I'm sick of every freaking post being about the pregnancy or babby taking a dump after his first meal at a buffet.
Okay, that last one was my half-sister that I never really talk talk to (but that's another story). "Bratleigh took a poop in his diaper on the way home from his first trip to the buffet place after eating dinner with Gram and Pap." Really? Why the hell would you post that? It's not cute, it's freaking disgusting. ::brbl <--that is a great emoticon!
Ugg, I can go on and on. But that's not to becoming in a welcome post. Now I'm off to read.
Hello-
I am a 32 year old female from the Seattle area, home of the public breastfeeding brigade I have known I did not want children from a fairly young age, and am one of the few people I know who has no interest in children, and finds them tedious and revolting. I am married and now that I am in my 30s people keep asking when we are going to have kids (bleah) - we already have 2 cats and that is enough for me I have been lurking at this site for about a year and thought I would finally register
I am a 32 year old female from the Seattle area, home of the public breastfeeding brigade
I have known I did not want children from a fairly young age, and am one of the few people I know who has no interest in children, and finds them tedious and revolting. I am married and now that I am in my 30s people keep asking when we are going to have kids (bleah) - we already have 2 cats and that is enough for me I have been lurking at this site for about a year and thought I would finally register
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