Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices

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We had been drinking and we were having sex. We were going at it for like an hour and I was starting to get sore and tired. I told him I wanted to be done for the night and he got PISSED. He's been complaining lately that I don't do enough work in the bedroom and I need to make him cum more. So he tried to get me to keep going and I did but I still wanted to stop. He started freaking out. I told him I wanted to leave the room and he shouted GO. I ran into my oldest son's room (oldest son wasn't home). I heard my husband smashing things and calling me a stupid bitch. After he went downstairs, I looked and all my candles were smashed. I barely slept I was shaking so bad.

He's still mad this morning. He thinks he's the victim and that he's totally in the right. Am I crazy? Is this abusive? I called my sister and she said just to give him some space and we can work it out. I don't think I Wana work it out though. I can't imagine ever having sex with him again. Am I overreacting? I need advice.

Edit: thank you everyone, I know I haven't responded to many comments but I have read them all. My sister is coming over while my husband is at work to give me some support. I'm going to make a plan and start working towards it. He already texted me saying sorry that he called me a bitch...no mention of anything else and I know when he gets home it will all just get brushed under the rug. I can't do it anymore though. Thank you Bromos

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twocents
of course assuming the story is true. but given the increasing number of these 'dump and run' cows trying to get away from their 'angels' argues otherwise. at least it ended up biting this sow in the ass

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Peace
This guy/man baby is a giant POS. Apparently, it's her job to fuck him as long as he chooses. It's her job to make him cum as much as he wants. She should just buy her husband a plastic blow up doll and be done with him.

And he smashes up her candles just because.

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Thank you to everyone who commented on my last post. To hear so many of you validate my perspective really helped open my eyes to the situation. My marriage has been abusive for some time and I've decided to make a plan to leave.

My sister came over the day after everything happened so I wouldn't be alone when m husband came home from work. When he first came home, he was still trying to play the victim. He pulled me into his office and tried to get ME to apologize. That didn't work so he upped the ante and told me that he NEEDS me to "swallow". Honestly, I was so fucking horrified by what he was saying that all I could keep saying was no, I'm not doing that. Then he told me that I'm "running away from myself" and that this is something every man is going to demand of me. I told him then I'd never be with him or any other man then and I left the room. After that, he realized I wasn't backing down so the lovebombing started. My sister was there the whole time and I think that's why he didn't escalate more.

Things are "back to normal" now but I've been reaching out to the domestic violence hotline to get help with making a safety plan. The wait times are crazy so I haven't connected with anyone yet but I will keep calling until I do.

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twocents
this just occured to me.. it is almost impossible to make ends meet (depending on job) on just one salary. It gets worse for someone who can only do min wage. And as such it seems the powers that be have manipulated things so that it requires 2 (or more) people just to maintain a shitty roof over ones head. In a way they are guaranteeing domestic violence by making independence impossible. Same thing with the child care. There was a time min wage was a living wage. People could live.. very simply but they could survive. Then women got part time jobs...and it wasn't long before prices went up so now the woman had to work full time...more often. To the point now you HAVE to work 2 jobs... how long before they start dipping into the child market... but of course that has happened elsewhere..

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stepmoo
My (F27) partner (M33) had let me go visit my new baby nephew and sister for 4 days by myself during winter break and he had mentioned that he'd be going on a trip with just his three boys (M8, M10, M12) some day as well. We operate a buisness together and I have my own full-time job as well.

Anyway my partner and his sister planned a surprise birthday party for their mom over the summer in another state, so he'll need me to take a week off my job and I'll have to run the buisness while he's gone for him. He planned to do this party for his mom as well as go to amusement parks and other vacation plans with his boys while he was there. This is all fine with me but now I'm learning that he has invited his exwife and their other two kids (M5, F7; they have 5 all together) to join them as well. My partner told me because he can't fly with his boys without their birth certificates and the only way for this trip to work would be if "they all go" (meaning his exwife and all the kids, "his family"). I can't go because someone has to run the buisness.

The birthday party won't be a kid event but my partner and his Ex wife would be attending. This bothered me, cause I had wished we could have gone together. My partner told me he knew this was all gonna be a problem with me, and that I don't let him spend time with his kids but that's not my issue. My issue is with him going to the birthday party with his Ex wife. He told me they aren't going together but that she is invited and would just be there as well. I have yet to even meet much of his extended family and they all probably don't even know that they both had a divorce. It's just weird to me. I feel hurt by it all, excluded and as if I don't matter.

The thought that I have to stay behind and work while he goes on vacation with "his family" makes me sad. I wish we all got to go. I wish I didn't have to use PTO for my job just so I can help my partner in taking not only his kids but his exwife on vacation basically. I'm not even sure she is paying for anything. She's probably so excited I won't even be there... am I crazy? How could he think that this wouldn't bother me?

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Ketchup
Jesus Christ lady, he's got five kids and you're giving up your PTO/doing free work for him??? And you're asking if YOU are the crazy one? I mean maybe, yeah, you're nuts to stick around in this situation! I guarantee if the situation was reversed, he wouldn't be putting up with this.

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Throwaway because I'm ashamed.I'm at a loss of what to do and still kinda in shock.

It's finally starting to feel like spring here and I went out on a walk with DD (9) and DS (3).

This guy about my age was walking a beautiful golden retriever down the sidewalk in our direction and asked me and my kids if we wanted to pet his dog.

He saw that DS was shy and hiding behind me, he had his dog lay down and showed my son not to be scared and how to pet him. In the middle of this, my DD, with no warning, kicks the dog HARD right in the face while he's lying on the ground and wagging his tail. Like you could hear the kick connect, it was square on. The dog immediately jumps up, whimpers and hides behind the guy. He picks up his dog, gives me the worst death glare and promptly crosses the street and comforts his dog who I could still hear crying across the street. Honestly lucky the dog didn't bite anyone, it would of been totally justified.

I just kinda stood there in shock for a minute, completely frozen, trying to figure out what happened. Pretty sure this is a part of jealously thing my daughter has whenever my son gets ANY attention, especially from strangers. She NEEDS the attention to be on her. And well, I guess she succeeded. The interaction between the man and her little brother was over and the attention was indeed back on her.

What the f*** do I do? I asked her why she kicked the dog and she just says "I don't know.". Show KNOWS not to hit anyone or animals. I mean if she was 5 that was one thing, but she's 9, almost 10. I'm honestly disgusted, ashamed and feel sick to my stomach and can't even look at her right now. I sent her to her room and am just processing it waiting for DH to come home from work.

I have no idea how to handle this. She's been asking for a dog for years, too, and that obviously is never going to happen. I guess if ther's one positive to take away I know that for sure that's a bad idea... What do I do??? How do I handle this?

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Cambion
Animal abuse warning ahead. Moo's she-brat hauls off and kicks a stranger's dog in the face because her younger brother was getting attention instead of her. When asked why she did this, she just says "I don't know." The brat isn't an impulsive toddler either - she is fucking NINE years old - waaaaaay old enough to know better.

Little cunt is lucky all the dog owner did was pick up his dog and leave. Some people's pets are their babies and would have beaten her abusive ass into a fine paste. Not to mention the physical and mental damage the kick could have done to the dog, which the owner will now need to pay for. Thankfully, lots and lots of people are recommending therapy instead of "kids will be kids", and of course at least one dolt suggests "AuTiSm DuRrRrR."

There is no good reason for a child old enough to have a period to kick a harmless dog in the head, barring some kind of past trauma with dogs, which does not sound like the case. It sounds like the parents are planning to handle this shit ASAP, but what the hell kind of pre-teen girl is jealous of the attention a toddler gets? I guarantee this is not the first time she has done abusive things, but it may be the first time she abused someone outside the family and Moo can't just sweep it under the rug because she's not just going to outgrow the behavior.

https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/u4hw4u/daugter_kicked_a_dog_in_the_face/

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Throwaway because I'm ashamed.I'm at a loss of what to do and still kinda in shock.

It's finally starting to feel like spring here and I went out on a walk with DD (9) and DS (3).

This guy about my age was walking a beautiful golden retriever down the sidewalk in our direction and asked me and my kids if we wanted to pet his dog.

He saw that DS was shy and hiding behind me, he had his dog lay down and showed my son not to be scared and how to pet him. In the middle of this, my DD, with no warning, kicks the dog HARD right in the face while he's lying on the ground and wagging his tail. Like you could hear the kick connect, it was square on. The dog immediately jumps up, whimpers and hides behind the guy. He picks up his dog, gives me the worst death glare and promptly crosses the street and comforts his dog who I could still hear crying across the street. Honestly lucky the dog didn't bite anyone, it would of been totally justified.

I just kinda stood there in shock for a minute, completely frozen, trying to figure out what happened. Pretty sure this is a part of jealously thing my daughter has whenever my son gets ANY attention, especially from strangers. She NEEDS the attention to be on her. And well, I guess she succeeded. The interaction between the man and her little brother was over and the attention was indeed back on her.

What the f*** do I do? I asked her why she kicked the dog and she just says "I don't know.". Show KNOWS not to hit anyone or animals. I mean if she was 5 that was one thing, but she's 9, almost 10. I'm honestly disgusted, ashamed and feel sick to my stomach and can't even look at her right now. I sent her to her room and am just processing it waiting for DH to come home from work.

I have no idea how to handle this. She's been asking for a dog for years, too, and that obviously is never going to happen. I guess if ther's one positive to take away I know that for sure that's a bad idea... What do I do??? How do I handle this?

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misskitty
She and Dad seem more like PNBs. They're not going to spoil the brat by giving her the dog she wants. Mom made an update that Dad is looking for the owner so they can compensate for the vet bills. The commenters are suggesting therapy, but I think they'd be wasting their money. She'll treat therapy like most people treat church - behave just fine for the hour that she has the therapist's attention and then go back to her nasty ways for the rest of the week. The only thing that might stop her is someone returning the assault or having her institutionalized.

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Peace
This gem is from r/stepparents, another sub filled with remorse, regret and abuse.

https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/u3fcib/vacation_with_step_kids_and_ex_wife_without_me/

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Cambion
Animal abuse warning ahead. Moo's she-brat hauls off and kicks a stranger's dog in the face because her younger brother was getting attention instead of her. When asked why she did this, she just says "I don't know." The brat isn't an impulsive toddler either - she is fucking NINE years old - waaaaaay old enough to know better.

Little cunt is lucky all the dog owner did was pick up his dog and leave. Some people's pets are their babies and would have beaten her abusive ass into a fine paste. Not to mention the physical and mental damage the kick could have done to the dog, which the owner will now need to pay for. Thankfully, lots and lots of people are recommending therapy instead of "kids will be kids", and of course at least one dolt suggests "AuTiSm DuRrRrR."

There is no good reason for a child old enough to have a period to kick a harmless dog in the head, barring some kind of past trauma with dogs, which does not sound like the case. It sounds like the parents are planning to handle this shit ASAP, but what the hell kind of pre-teen girl is jealous of the attention a toddler gets? I guarantee this is not the first time she has done abusive things, but it may be the first time she abused someone outside the family and Moo can't just sweep it under the rug because she's not just going to outgrow the behavior.

https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/u4hw4u/daugter_kicked_a_dog_in_the_face/

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Throwaway because I'm ashamed.I'm at a loss of what to do and still kinda in shock.

It's finally starting to feel like spring here and I went out on a walk with DD (9) and DS (3).

This guy about my age was walking a beautiful golden retriever down the sidewalk in our direction and asked me and my kids if we wanted to pet his dog.

He saw that DS was shy and hiding behind me, he had his dog lay down and showed my son not to be scared and how to pet him. In the middle of this, my DD, with no warning, kicks the dog HARD right in the face while he's lying on the ground and wagging his tail. Like you could hear the kick connect, it was square on. The dog immediately jumps up, whimpers and hides behind the guy. He picks up his dog, gives me the worst death glare and promptly crosses the street and comforts his dog who I could still hear crying across the street. Honestly lucky the dog didn't bite anyone, it would of been totally justified.

I just kinda stood there in shock for a minute, completely frozen, trying to figure out what happened. Pretty sure this is a part of jealously thing my daughter has whenever my son gets ANY attention, especially from strangers. She NEEDS the attention to be on her. And well, I guess she succeeded. The interaction between the man and her little brother was over and the attention was indeed back on her.

What the f*** do I do? I asked her why she kicked the dog and she just says "I don't know.". Show KNOWS not to hit anyone or animals. I mean if she was 5 that was one thing, but she's 9, almost 10. I'm honestly disgusted, ashamed and feel sick to my stomach and can't even look at her right now. I sent her to her room and am just processing it waiting for DH to come home from work.

I have no idea how to handle this. She's been asking for a dog for years, too, and that obviously is never going to happen. I guess if ther's one positive to take away I know that for sure that's a bad idea... What do I do??? How do I handle this?

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I live on the top floor (3/3)of an apartment building. I have a 10 month old baby. She cries, as do most babies. My husband and I have been trying to get her to go to sleep between 7&8pm. Normally we are pretty good at getting her to sleep but tonight was one of those nights. She screamed and cried for almost 3 hours and was completely inconsolable. Well, the people that live directly below us started banging on the walls after our daughter had thrown her binky & my iPhone on the ground.

I get it, it’s quiet hours but I can’t control when my baby does and doesn’t cry. On top of that, they knocked on our door two weeks ago to tell us to be quiet when it was six in the afternoon. Quiet hours are 9pm-8am. We hear their dogs every single night (some nights the dogs barking will wake up our baby), yet we don’t complain or pound the walls. We I’m in an apartment. We understand that people and their pets are going to make noise. Honestly, I would be concerned if I never heard any of my neighbors.

What should we do?? Should I go down there and confront them? Should I file a complaint with the main office? I know they don’t like the sound of a crying baby but a lot of the time there’s nothing we can do to calm her down when she’s having an overly tired breakdown!

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15 months ago I had my first baby. By had, i mean she was stuck in my pelvis (4 hours pushing for nothing) and it was recommended by the delivering OB to deliver her with forceps because he was “really good at it.” Even though I was told forceps are no longer used, knew nothing of the risks, and was told nothing of the risks. It caused a severe tear that wasn’t repaired correctly and so I had daily fecal leakage that nothing helped. I sprinted for a year visiting doctors and pts and trying everything and it just never got better. I couldn’t change it because the muscle was never reconnected. All the doctors said “they don’t do surgery to fix this unless you’re fully pooping yourself.” Because apparently a lot of times it isn’t successful. Even if things are anatomically put back together, they are just too permanently broken and never work the same again. But I couldn’t stop wondering about the surgery. I knew if I didn’t try something, I would have to get a colostomy bag in 10 years because this wasn’t a livable. I’m 28 years old.

But I heard about this surgeon in another part of the country that people travel from all over the world to go see. If anyone could fix it he could. And I decided to risk it and try. The surgery went well anatomically but the leaking was still there at first. Then I got an infection. I lived in terror every day of something breaking or of having a BM. Around 3 weeks after, I noticed the leaking had stopped. I started to hope like I hadn’t dare hope in fucking 15 months.

I was told it was okay to try lifting my daughter at 6 weeks post op. She’s 25 pounds. I checked with another surgeon to make sure and they also said it was ok. I tried 4 times and the next time I had a bowel movement it felt different. 1-2 days after I started leaking again. I never lifted her again but it’s now been a week and I’m still leaking. I haven’t changed anything else, other than my period is approaching in a few days. It almost feels like prolapse in there. What if 1 day of lifting her caused it? Even though the doctors said it was okay. And they probably won’t have any answers for me. Why did it get better now it’s worse ? Shrug

I feel like I can’t breathe and my world is collapsing. I don’t want this life anymore. I don’t want this body. I’m tired of doctors. I’m tired of them not telling me the whole story. I’m tired of being stupid enough to believe in them. I’m tired. I just am done.

I don’t have any mom friends. I can’t relate to any moms because what happened to me happens to fucking 3% of women. They talk about breastfeeding and they’re extra stretch marks and I don’t share because I can’t even imagine a world in which those things are all that matters. No one wants to hear my story. So I am more alone. And more shame. All I feel around other moms is how abnormal I am.

And then I fucking read shit from body positive postpartum people: “your body isn’t broken, it’s just different. It’s not damaged.” NO IT FUCKING IS. My butthole is literally broken and I didn’t even know that was possible. Because no doctor actually did their job and gave me good enough care. My situation was not an emergency, there were many red flags that were just missed. My repair surgeon was appalled at the repair details in my birth notes and , after looking at my anatomy, appalled that no one ever even suggested a c section to me at any point (narrow pelvis and small vagina and mom and grandma had HORRIFIC births). I could have had a c section. The doctor just thought he was soooo good at forceps. Fuck you.

Anyways I just don’t want this life anymore. And it’s my body so there’s no escape. I’m alone. It’s been 15 months since my daughters birth and I’m stilll trapped in the fucking delivery room.