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Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices

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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 09, 2021
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LoveToLurk
Moo: Tags her post with the “Give it to me straight” flair.

Also Moo: Deletes her post when other commenters give it to her straight.

Be careful what you wish for moo!
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 09, 2021
Heh, "BM". That's a good name for it.

Here's a looong thread of moos rebelling against kreative names, started by a moo with a kreative name, although once she finally reveals it, it's not that kreative.

https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/pk2efv/psa_please_dont_misspell_your_kids_fucking_name/
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 09, 2021
Looks like another gentle discipline Moo. Brat is being horrible in school, losing recess and getting sent to the principal a lot and Moo is just "at a loss" over what to do now. Clearly loss of privileges and time outs are not fucking working. Place your bets, do you think she's tried slapping the little fucker? Judging by her post history, the kid at his current age of five is absolutely no different behaviorally than he was at age three.

Of course "he can be such a good kid" because isn't that always the case? "He's such a little sweetheart with a heart of gold, except for when he's a defiant and uncontrollably violent asshole 99.9% of the time!" Then she'll act completely shocked when he gets suspended.

She better get this shit under control because if the brat isn't afraid of consequences, he has absolutely no reason to listen and that's gonna go from being mildly inconvenient to really fucking bad the older he gets. I'm amazed a self-made autism diagnosis like ODD hasn't been proposed yet.

https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/pky21a/discipline_problems_in_school/

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My 5 year old is only in school two weeks. Every day I've either been told by his teachers that he's being defiant and disruptive cause he won't do what he's told. Or I'm being told by him that he's on orange/red in school for not doing what he's told. They have a behaviour traffic light system.

But today was the worst. I have the teacher pull me aside at pick up and tell me that my son basically spent the day throwing a tantrum, he even hit other kids. He got sent to talk to the principal twice, missed out on yard time, he just refused to do anything he was told. I'm at a complete loss what to do. We do time outs, he loses privileges like screen time and treats at home.

Try to teach him how to behave and listen to adults in charge and do what he's told. But nothing is sticking. I'm so worried I'm going to get told by the school that he's too disruptive. I'm sooo fed up with his behaviour but nothing we do seems to make even the tiniest difference. And he can be such a good kid as well, hugs, snuggles, helping when I'm doing things. I'm just so lost with him
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 09, 2021
These people are idiots. Your kid will rule your life or you will rule your kid’s life. Take your pick and the latter is the only sane way to live.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 10, 2021
has she ever tried kicking his fugly ass through his fugly teeth??

frankly he should be in with the speds.

two cents ¢¢

CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!

people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong

Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children.

A laugh can be a very powerful thing. Sometimes in life it's the only weapon we have. Roger Rabbit

Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.

People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke

Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 11, 2021
1. Kid can sense that Mom's at a loss. He knows he has the upper hand and will not give that up easily. Never let them know you're at the end of your rope, Mom.

2. If it were my classroom I would be consulting the school psych. Sounds like the kid has always had the upper hand and Mom won't be much use. School should plan accordingly.

3. This sounds like a nitpick but really isn't: "I worry that I'm going to get told by the school that he's too disruptive". Her phrasing tells me she doesn't grasp that he already IS. That's what the teachers and administration are saying. This situation has likely been in the making for five years.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 11, 2021
I think Moo knows the kid is too disruptive, but she just doesn't want the school to come out and say it to her face because then she'll have to do something about it, even though Nothing WorksTM.

This shit is what happens when you put forth minimal effort with your kids before throwing them in school where there are expectations, consequences and structure. I was kind of the same at that age. I was parented very poorly and inconsistently, never punished, never socialized and was never expected to behave for the first five years of my life. Then I was shoved into kindergarten. Going from doing whatever I wanted without consequence all the time to being told what to do and being expected to listen was a disaster and I was an absolute monster.

I would do shit like steal from the classroom and then deny it even when confronted with proof, hit classmates for no reason other than I felt like it, hid under my desk and screamed when even the tiniest thing didn't go my way, called my teacher every name in the book to her face when she told me no (oh, but my mother had no idea where I learned to talk like that bemused eye roll). My kindergarten class had two teachers and I was too much for them both. I was in the principal's office every single day and I know my mother was told they thought I was autistic because of my behavior. I wasn't - I just didn't want to be in school. But that's what happens when you let a child turn into a feral ape by being a shit parent and then try to civilize them. I honest to god don't know how I grew out of this behavior because it sure wasn't due to improved parenting.

Parents seem to think they just have to put up with their awful kids until it's time to enroll them and then it's the teachers' jobs to fix their broken behavior.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 12, 2021
A Moo posted in breakingmom about how her toddler drowned in the famblee pool after her seven-year-old kid allegedly left the door open and Junior escaped. The kid eventually died from the damage caused by drowning. It sucks that happened, but given the circumstances, it was probably for the best because of the high likelihood the kid would have wound up profoundly disabled had it lived.

In another sub, Moo comes out and says she's desperately itching to make a replacement babby. Oh, but a new loaf totally would NOT replace her dead kid according to her. Mmhmm right, that why you want your uterus filled a week after your kid died.

I'm sorry her kid died, but this woman sounds like she just wants a cute baby to cuddle because she's "supposed to have a baby in her arms." And you know she's got this perfect image of who her dead kid would have become built up in her head and if she makes a new kid, she's going to be resentful toward the new kid if it doesn't match the image of her dream baby. And dog help that new kid if it dares come out with a penis because it's supposed to be a replacement for a dead female child.

She really should wait for the pain of the loss to become a little less fresh before rushing into making a new brat, but we all know how well Moos do with logic. I know people do odd things while grieving, but you should not make a baby to fix your grief because band-aid babies never do their jobs.

https://old.reddit.com/r/ttcafterloss/comments/ovf8jc/11monthold_daughter_died_from_drowning_feeling/

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Hi everyone,

I feel awful typing this. My beautiful, healthy eleven-month-old daughter drowned to death. It was a tragic accident and there is more in my post history about what happened if you want to look. It happened last week.

I would give anything to have her back, except my seven-year-old, but that’s obviously not possible. I’m grieving and in pain, but that has come with a feeling that I can’t shake, that I want to be pregnant immediately. I hadn’t wanted more biological children before, because I was so happy with my two girls. But apart from losing her, I no longer have two living children, and I know I want at least one more.

To add to the complication, I have precancerous cells in my cervix. It’s being monitored through yearly Pap smears. If I get cancer, it might mean a hysterectomy or having part of my cervix removed.

I want to honor my baby’s memory, and I feel responsible for her death. I sometimes question if I deserve to have another child. I know maternal grief can be bad for a developing baby as well. But I just can’t stop feeling like there’s supposed to be a baby in my arms and while that baby would never replace my daughter, having two living children as I had always intended would help me heal.

I don’t just want validation and justification. I want to make sure I do right by my children, including my older one.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 12, 2021
I hope this lady gets the help she needs for living with that loss. I hope someone's keeping an eye on the older daughter, too, as she has some issues to work through as well.

The way the grieving mother puts it just screams that she wants things just to snap back to normal, when actually "normal" will be different now. She has to work on that.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 12, 2021
Retard's husband doesn't pull out (occurs with her consent) because they had no condoms, but it's totally ok guys because see she's not that fertile. eye rolling smiley Dumbass is so pregnant that expired pignasty tests gave a positive result (update is in comments).

How do grown ass women not understand that going totally bareback "just once" is all it takes? If you are "one and done" and still fuck with no protection at all, you are not "one and done" - you are trying to conceive. Then they go all surprised Pikachu when the pee stick shows two lines. Maybe Moo ought to abstain since she clearly doesn't know how babies are made.

She can always hope for a miscarriage, which I'm sure she'd be grateful for so she doesn't have to make a decision, but she'd still bawl all over one of the dead fetus subs for udder pats. I know Duh is at fault too for agreeing to fuck and dump a load in his prize heifer, but she is the one who allowed it to happen, start to finish. Could've said no, could've done handjobs and oral, could've done anal - there's other ways to enjoy sexy time if you're all out of rubbers.

https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/pmyxrj/please_send_me_your_not_pregnant_vibes/

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I'm posting from a throwaway because my husband knows my main account. I need to confirm this before I approach it with him.

I'm one and done with my 4 year old for the time being. In a perfect world I'd have more kids, but there's a whole list of reasons why that isn't a good idea right now. As you would probably expect this type of story to start, of course there was 1 time last month where we were out of condoms and he didn't pull out (I consented so it wasn't anything malicious). I'm not super fertile to begin with, so I didn't worry too much like the dumbass I am.

I've been waiting for my period which isn't super regular, but I have a pretty good idea of the range of my cycle length and can typically tell when it's about to start. My boobs get sore, I have trouble sleeping, and I get really hot all the time. It's been about 5 or 6 days since I started feeling the usual symptoms, and I've been expecting it any day now. Started to worry a little bit after 4 days, but then rationalized it as sometimes it's just late.

Today I decided to pee on a stick. Why not right? I grab my first response box and realize it's empty. Damn. I dig around and find some wondfos that expired in 2019. I'm figuring I'll just use those until I can get some new tests to give myself peace of mind. Well, there's no peace to be had. Those suckers were positive. Like, very very positive.

Now I'm panic googling and read that you're more likely to get a false negative than a false positive from an expired test. Seriously?

I'm waiting on a delivery with some new tests, but holy shit. Please please please send me all the shark week vibes.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 15, 2021
Why is she panic Googling?

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I'm one and done with my 4 year old for the time being.....
In a perfect world I'd have more kids, but there's a whole list of reasons why that isn't a good idea right now.....
As you would probably expect this type of story to start, of course there was 1 time last month where we were out of condoms and he didn't pull out (I consented so it wasn't anything malicious)......

And why is she posting on a throwaway claiming the results aren't confirmed? She has taken pregnasty tests...does the Pope need to confirm the obvious?

I have no idea whether or not she wants this baybee which makes me feel bad for the unborn kid....it seems that there is a list of reasons why now isn't a good time.

Why does she identify as one and done temporarily? One and done means no more brats, period. She could say she wants another baybee in the distant future. Then again that would make her sound like a moron because they aren't taking precautions to prevent a pignasty that she is claiming she doesn't want now. And the old "I'm not THAT fertile...." has preceded so many baybee births!
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 17, 2021
Apparently the Moo who relied on "I'm not very fertile, teehee" and got pregnant decided to switch on her brain and scheduled an abortion. Hopefully she sticks to her plan and doesn't have a last minute change of heart because "waaaaah I can't kill my baybee!"

Place your bets that Moo will be so full of remorse after the abortion that she will start trying to conceive on purpose, with or without telling Duh about it. But for the time being, she seems to have her head screwed back on and is making a rational, responsible decision instead of thinking with her uterus.

https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/pp54mi/how_to_come_to_terms_with_the_hardest_choice/

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First, I wanted to say thank you so much to everyone for their support. I honestly didn't think my post would get much attention, and I was absolutely overwhelmed by the amount of kindness you all showed me. It's made a difficult time a little bit easier, and I'm really grateful for that.

I told my husband, and he reacted better than I thought he would. He was upset, like I was, that we were irresponsible and allowed this to happen. We've talked about it a lot over the last few days, and while it's doable we're both very worried about covid and what things will be like in a year with a newborn to worry about too. Part of me does want the baby, like I must be meant to have 2 if I got pregnant again, but the larger part of me doesn't see how we can make it work in our current situation. I keep trying to visualize our life with a new baby added in, and I can't see it.

If we were in a good position to sell our house to move into a larger place then I'd feel much better about it, but the reality is that we won't be able to do that for a few years. Our school system isn't great, and we can't afford private school. We have debt, and I'm already worried about college for one kid, let alone two. Plus the newborn phase is my least favorite. I had PPA/PPD with my son which makes me worry that I wouldn't be the best mom I can be if I were to have another. How can I bring another child into this world with all these uncertainties? Is it right to have another baby with already limited resources? There's so much responsibility involved with having two kids, and I'm over here barely keeping my head above water trying to make sure my one kid turns out okay. I feel like I'm barely a good parent as it is.

At this point I've booked an appointment for a medical termination that I'll be doing at home. I'm thankful to live in a place that has at least some options. The appointment is Friday morning so I still have some time if I change my mind.

The cons outweigh the pros, no matter how nice the pros may be. Wanting a baby just isn't enough if I'm not certain that I can provide a good life for both the baby and my son. It doesn't feel fair to either of them to risk a shitty upbringing. I don't even like the idea of losing free time or sleep, but I'm still so sad for what could be. So many people around me are announcing pregnancies which makes it even worse. Some are having their second and third. I admire them so much. I wish I had their confidence and ability to handle it. If only things were a little different, a little better. This whole situation sucks, and I hate it. Thanks for letting me have a place to write my feelings down and vent.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 17, 2021
Moo asking if there are any other pigged-up heifers in their late forties present in the sub. One of them claims that having children at a reproductively older age helps keep a woman young and healthy for longer because she will have to spend so much time running after sproggen. Haha whut, nothing ages you worse than children! They age and sicken you from the inside out with fuckloads of constant stress and sleep deprivation.

My aunt crapped out an unplanned loaf when she was pushing 50 and good GOD her face looks like someone dragged an X-acto blade down it repeatedly and let it heal. She was a beautiful lady before spawning and now she looks like a paper bag that someone crumpled up and tried to smooth back out. But yeah no, having brats when you're near 50 keeps you young! eye rolling smiley

Also, lots of Moos bitching about having "geriatric pregnancy" listed in their medical histories because they were older than 35 at the time of pignasty. I don't think they understand that this is not done to be mean, but just that the idjit is spawning outside of the ideal reproductive age window - you know, when there's a smaller chance of fetus loss and complications.

https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/ppj34c/any_other_pregnant_moms_in_their_late_40s_out/

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It took me till I was 41 to meet my husband, and I didn't want to jump in and have kids before the relationship was stable (was career focused and bad relationships before husband). Started IVF treatments at 42.5, got married at 44, and had our son a couple months before turning 45. I am insanely in love with my son. My husband and I have always wanted a second, and last year there were two failed attempts through IVF (both more devastating that we had planned for), and decided that we would give it one more try (one final embryo on ice) and if it didn't work, we would be happy that we tried everything.

I had an embryo transfer on Aug 30th and am officially 4 weeks pregnant and now having SO many mixed emotions (combined happiness and fear). Like I am 47 years old. WTF am I thinking???? How will I manage sleepless nights again, how will I get through that first year, how will this impact our son, how will pregnancy affect my body this time etc., etc. On and on the worries go. I know they will dissipate, and there is no going back at this point, but I don't know any other women who've had children in their late 40's. I know celebrities do this, but they are also filthy rich and can hire nannies for sleepless nights.

Any other bromos out there who have done something similar? What was your experience like?

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My husband’s sister did it and she had the worst pregnancy with some hyperemesis, but she is doing fabulously with her baby now. I think having kids at an older age keeps you young and healthy longer because you have to keep up with them. You can do it!
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 17, 2021
I was shocked at how responsible and encouraging the responses to abortion moo were. There's another thread on there about texas that is shockingly pro choice.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 17, 2021
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Moo asking if there are any other pigged-up heifers in their late forties present in the sub. One of them claims that having children at a reproductively older age helps keep a woman young and healthy for longer because she will have to spend so much time running after sproggen. Haha whut, nothing ages you worse than children! They age and sicken you from the inside out with fuckloads of constant stress and sleep deprivation.

I guess in their world there is no such thing as simple exercise to keep a person feeling youthful and healthy. They insist on chasing a brat. The caloric expenditure may be the same but exercise is going to be much less stressful than brat wrangling. A brat doesn't die if a person exercising fails to hit a timed goal but a brat could die if moo is chasing it and it runs out into traffic before she can catch it.

And exercise does fuck all when a moo indulges in takeout while sitting on her phone or fakebook for hours on end lamenting about how bizzy she is. I see those delivery cars every time I'm outside exercising and they are mostly delivering to parunts. I know this because of the kiddie toys everywhere, the brats outside their house screaming, and the duh who stays outside in a lawn chair to avoid interacting with his famblee who constantly interrupt his alone time. Also the screaming banshee brats that can be heard blocks away from the inside of their house/apartment. I can imagine how their neighbors feel.

Not to mention, the lack of a bunch of unhealthy coping mechanisms lots of bizzy moos enjoy: recreational drugs-AKA moo's little helper, restaurant or fast food cuz moo is always bizzy, less money problems because brats are expensive and childfree don't have to impress a bunch of unhappy moos by buying things they approve of, expensive vacations to escape the brats. Then we have push presents, numerous baybee showers, barfdays, huge holiday gift grabs, etc. And let's not forget the gift grabs for constant milestones that used to be non-events: graduation from every grade, barf day parties meant to impress even for 1 year old baybeez, and so on. Parunting, it is a true fountain of youth!
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 20, 2021
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I would give anything to have her back, except my seven-year-old

Wow. And to hell with the kids' father/her husband, I guess.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 22, 2021
Plus, exercising is a totally voluntary activity and you can choose what kind you want to do. Brat wrangling is more a matter of you have to do it and the severity of it will depend on a ton of factors, like a tard versus a non-tard.

And if minding sprogs is such good exercise, why are so many Moos the size of fucking refrigerators? If tottering around after a kid saying "don't touch that" and "no" and "stop it" every 5 seconds was such a stellar workout, these Moos would be in peak physical condition. If mommying was such good exercise, it would have been made into a workout video and sold to Moos. If brat minding was such great physical activity, having babies would be recommended to lardasses because it would be good exercise.

So either chasing kids doesn't keep you young after all, or these Moos aren't doing as much parenting as they let on. Gonna say it's probably both.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 22, 2021
Moron who "just stumbled into" having kids because it was "the right time" to start a family. Yeah, she's right she should have thought more about making this decision before making it, and while I think it's good that she has been honest with herself and everyone else about how little she enjoys parenthood, it doesn't change the fact that her kids are probably going to grow up messed up from her total inability to be a parent.

Why can these women not fucking think? How do you stumble into parenthood? It's not like it's a goddamn tiger trap that you don't know is there until you fall in and impale yourself. Having sex, especially unprotected or poorly protected sex - often results in pregnancy. Staying pregnant means you give birth and keeping the resulting child makes you a parent. This isn't some big secret, so why do Moos always act like it is?

Hopefully Moo is saving up for therapy for her kids because it sounds like they're gonna need it, between her intentionally spending as little time as possible with them to telling them to go away. That shit will mess a kid up - they won't care that Moo was too stupid to not breed, all they'll know is Mommy doesn't love them. Don't have fucking kids if you don't want to take care of them! What a trainwreck.

https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/pt64ye/toxic_mom/

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I’m one of “those Moms” that shouldn’t have had children. I chose to have my children, but most of that decision was made by external life circumstances - it was “the right time” to start a family is the primary reason we did it. As far as desire to have children it was my husband that really wanted a family - I wanted him. So we had children. To be clear, I didn’t HAVE kids to keep him. We just kind of stumbled into it. I was always reluctant.

Unfortunately what I discovered AFTER having them is that I don’t have a nurturing bone in my body. I hate to play. Noise shorts out my neurological circuitry. I have about a half hour of conversation in me per day and then I’m cooked. Basically, all the “soft skills” you need to be an amazing mother - I don’t have ANY of those. I know I chose to have them so I regularly chew myself out internally to suck it up, and live up to the responsibilities that I created. I know it’s not their fault that I didn’t think this through - and I do love them! I’m just NOT a good Mom. I’m not a consistent provider of the emotional things kids need to thrive. I fake it, but it’s exhausting and my kids aren’t stupid - they can feel something is off.

To add to the BS, I also find motherhood thankless, exhausting and tedious. You haven’t well broken your body and spirit to provide one thing before they demand another. Mothering requires what feels like super-human emotional endurance to provide. And unfortunately for me I’m just one of those people that doesn’t have those qualities naturally. So I’m a little lost. Fantastically depressed about it. Starting to think that my family would be better off without me.

Can anyone relate to this? Is there any way to develop these qualities so that my girls have a positive experience of their childhood even if I am not naturally well-suited to the job?

I’ve tried a lot of therapy, but generally they just seem to think that I’m being too hard on myself. But I’m not. My kids show me “toxic mom” tiktoks. They tiptoe around me like I’m some sort of time bomb (and I sometimes am, so I get it). I get angry very very easily. I am always telling them to go away. I take every opportunity I can to be outside of their presence and they are old enough now pick up on it and to understand that all moms aren’t like this.

Is there anyway to turn this around? Has anyone started out has a mom with these kind of problems and found a way to improve yourself and the experience of your children? I don’t want to hurt them. I don’t want them to have lifelong emotional problems because they had the misfortune of getting a mom who couldn’t figure her shit out before she had them.
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September 23, 2021
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Moron who "just stumbled into" having kids because it was "the right time" to start a family.

I don't understand why so many parunts think they have to parunt in a certain way that doesn't work for them. They'd be much better off if they were honest with their kids and themselves and said "no" to things they don't enjoy. Then again, this may result in lots of kids being put up for adoption. I guess if their thought process is "kids are required for me to be accepted by society" that it makes sense that they also think "there are very specific things I must do to be a good parent even if I hate every minute of it so that I will be accepted by society." There are so many people who think parents must do very specific things and most of them would be much happier (along with their families) if they were more realistic with their concept of parenting. How are the brats going to learn boundaries? She admits she is a failure so why not try something different?

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cuckoo for cocoa puffs moo

I get angry very very easily. I am always telling them to go away.

First off, she had more than one even though she was reluctant about having brats.
Her brats are old enough to play her videos. If she is fried after 30 minutes of talking with them then why doesn't she limit the talk time to 30 minutes? And brats that are that old can likely entertain themselves since she hates playing with them. If she wants more time with them than 30 minutes a day she could always suggest activities she enjoys. Or she could follow in the grand tradition of what most parents can afford it do: overload them with activities to reduce any possible interaction with them.

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Cambion
It's not like it's a goddamn tiger trap that you don't know is there until you fall in and impale yourself. Having sex, especially unprotected or poorly protected sex - often results in pregnancy.

This is hilarious!
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 23, 2021
proving once again that breeder placenta brains are just that. they don't have any. she knew she didn't want any, just bent and broke to please all the dead and rotting fish out there (It takes a live fish to swim against the stream)... her kids are ALREADY traumatized. so mommy dearest acting is not working at all. would they be better off if she left? hell yeah... but I'll bet duhddy won't like that a bit but I would enjoy watching the kids get dumped on him. although I'm sure he'll find a babysitter with benefits in short order, how invested he is with the kids..

two cents ¢¢

CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!

people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong

Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children.

A laugh can be a very powerful thing. Sometimes in life it's the only weapon we have. Roger Rabbit

Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.

People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke

Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 23, 2021
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I don’t have a nurturing bone in my body. I hate to play. Noise shorts out my neurological circuitry. I have about a half hour of conversation in me per day and then I’m cooked.

Damn, that sounds like a summary of my mother. (The difference is my mom is an extrovert. She doesn't mind talking to adults but she cannot stand to interact with children.) Her litany throughout my childhood was "motherhood is one long interruption," presumably from other things she wished she could be doing. I cut her some slack, however, because she was born in the 1930s and came of age in the late 40s and 50s. Birth control was not plentiful/reliable and women did not have many other options.

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To add to the BS, I also find motherhood thankless, exhausting and tedious.

This information is available to anyone with a pair of eyes and a semi-functioning brain.

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As far as desire to have children it was my husband that really wanted a family - I wanted him. So we had children. To be clear, I didn’t HAVE kids to keep him.

It sure as Hell sounds as if she had kids to keep him. And BTW, where is he when she's telling the kids to go away? He could be playing with them if he wanted them so badly.

Females like this confound me. I figured out a long time ago that I don't like being interrupted and I need giant blocks of alone/quiet time to stay sane. (My husband and I share these traits.) This is something that is not compatible with children.

Why do women think they don't have the prerogative to live the way they want to? If they don't want kids, they need to just stay single and/or wait to find someone who feels the same way. Earth won't fall off its axis if they are not wed and bred by age XX.

Having some balls to stand up for your life means: 1. you don't have kids to feel guilty about and 2. you'll be happier with your gobs of alone/decompression time per day.

Here we go again:

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I know it’s not their fault that I didn’t think this through - and I do love them! I’m just NOT a good Mom. I’m not a consistent provider of the emotional things kids need to thrive. I fake it, but it’s exhausting and my kids aren’t stupid - they can feel something is off.

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My kids show me “toxic mom” tiktoks. They tiptoe around me like I’m some sort of time bomb (and I sometimes am, so I get it). I get angry very very easily. I am always telling them to go away. I take every opportunity I can to be outside of their presence and they are old enough now pick up on it and to understand that all moms aren’t like this.

Of course they know--those poor kids.

This got me thinking: I'm sure some of us here have had the experience of watching a relationship sour and being with someone who does not love you and wants you gone on some level. Or we've worked with someone that we cannot stand the sight of or vice versa.

So wouldn't it be TONS OF FUN to grow up with that as your mom? And feel unwanted for years? There is no divorce for children. Again, poor kids. I do not particularly enjoy being around small children, but damn--they deserve a lot better than someone who can hardly stand to be around them.

I hope one of those Moo Cows gives this woman some sensible advice: instead of paying tons of money for therapy, find someone who actually likes being around kids and playing with them and pay THAT PERSON to fix your life. Moo will get a break and the kids will be around someone who thinks they are great.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 24, 2021
breaking mom is banning users from "other forums" now. If their bot detects that you've participated in one of the banned forums, you're banned from posting on breaking mom. Guess what their #1 most banned forum is!

https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/pu5hb3/the_ban_bot_a_breakingmom_come_to_jesus_talk/

Anyhow, I just found this in the comments:
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The amount of dumbasses who label every single parent on the internet as an abusive narcissist for doing human things is TOO DAMN HIGH!

This is what nearly all these bitches do! They're always blaming other people for their problems, and it's usually their own mothers. I can't count the number of posts I've seen here blaming mom. And I suspect most of these "narcissistic parents" were responsible for nothing more than administering actual discipline.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
September 25, 2021
Haha, that's cute. I think there are FAR more narcissistic parents than childfree people because so many things about being a parent allow a narcissist to flex their muscles. They think so highly of themselves that they just HAVE TO make a little biological xerox copy. They then have a little captive victim they can mentally abuse 24/7 for 18+ years while telling everyone how horrible it is to raise such a difficult child. There is no reason to have a child that doesn't begin with, "I want" - how is that not narcissism?

Then those kids wind up one of two ways: they become narcissists themselves, or they wind up on r/raisedbynarcissists and/or in therapy. One of the MANY reasons I do not want to breed is because my mother is a narcissist and her mother was one, and even if i wanted kids, I would be too scared of fucking up a kid the way I was fucked up. Nope, the mindfuckery ends with me.

Maybe there's a reason people slap this label on parents? Like, ohh I don't know, maybe because it's at least partially true?
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
October 01, 2021
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Haha, that's cute. I think there are FAR more narcissistic parents than childfree people because so many things about being a parent allow a narcissist to flex their muscles. They think so highly of themselves that they just HAVE TO make a little biological xerox copy. They then have a little captive victim they can mentally abuse 24/7 for 18+ years while telling everyone how horrible it is to raise such a difficult child. There is no reason to have a child that doesn't begin with, "I want" - how is that not narcissism?

Then those kids wind up one of two ways: they become narcissists themselves, or they wind up on r/raisedbynarcissists and/or in therapy. One of the MANY reasons I do not want to breed is because my mother is a narcissist and her mother was one, and even if i wanted kids, I would be too scared of fucking up a kid the way I was fucked up. Nope, the mindfuckery ends with me.

Maybe there's a reason people slap this label on parents? Like, ohh I don't know, maybe because it's at least partially true?

The fact that you care and have empathy towards a non-existent being is proof you aren't a narcissist. It is really scary to think about how many parunts are narcissists. My favorite has always been "I want (of course it starts that way) to give my kid a better life than I had" or "I want to provide the great childhood to a kid that I didn't have." Because they always think they are somehow making the world better by merely existing, don't they?

The child didn't live the life of the parent, so providing a better childhood only satisfies the ego of the parunt. Or worse yet, this same child (the one who was born for the parunt to prove he/she is better than his/her parunts) tells the parunt he/she wishes to have a better life despite the fact that the parunt busts his/her ass to provide one.

I would venture to guess the parunts obsessed with their kids being their mini-mes tend to be narcissistic too?
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
October 01, 2021
I love that crap. So how would someone know they could provide their child with a better life than what they themselves had? You can't guarantee that. What they mean by this is they are still holding grudges against their own parents for real or perceived mistreatment and they will bring a whole ass human being into the world to do the exact opposite of that thing their parents did that they didn't like. That doesn't mean that kid will get a better upbringing.

Like the morons who were spanked as children who, in adulthood, will create a child just to not spank them to prove that you can raise a child without "violence." Then three or four years in, they're asking the internet why their child is a horrible bastard because they've done nothing effective "tried everything" and it's just plain not working. eye rolling smiley

Someone who was raised by a narcissist who wants to become a parent needs to get their own mental shit sorted out in therapy so their kids don't have to go to therapy because of them. Even if they don't become narcissists themselves, they still have a lot of emotional damage that needs to be repaired before they can successfully raise a small human.
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