Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices

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bell_flower
That woman has some huge balls, and not in a good way. I definitely get the feeling it does not matter what her husband says--you know she's going to be asking his relatives for money. The one commenter who told her she should feel perfectly entitled to do that is giving her TERRIBLE advice.

This is tangentially related but MY GAWD there are some greedy Breeders on the dating scene who are just looking for dumb women to finance themselves and their brats.

These women need to wake the fuck up and see what's happening but some of them write after they have made terrible mistakes already.

Here's one who hopefully hasn't taken the plunge with this loser.

He's a divorced dud of 55 and he is dating a 35 year old woman. He just took out a second mortgage on his home. He has children in their late 20's. He's paying off his student loans, as well as his kids' student loans. (Why TF aren't his kids paying off their own student loans?)

He wants this woman to move in with him and help him pay off his mortgage. If something happens to him, the house goes to his kids and his kids only. He's not willing to compromise on this at all. He wants the GF to move in and pay down the house, which will take 10 to 15 years, and then they can sell the house and buy one "together."

I know the Moneyist must be so frustrated reading these emails day in and day out. At least in this one he blunty tells her: Paying for his house should NOT be part of your retirement plan.

He also tells her to "remain financially independent." I don't know why she is considering this otherwise, except she's a 35 year old single Mom and she's desperate for Dick.

Here's one where the idiot Moo Co-signed for her "boyfriends" mortgage and her name isn't even on the deed.

She wrote:

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He put me in his will so the house goes to me in the event that he passes. I would be responsible for paying off the house, and any extra money would go to his brother. I am not on the deed for the house. Would this make it messy if he passes?

These women have to stop falling in the Dick sand. They need to start thinking with their BRAINS.

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Let's make mountains out of molehills, shall we?
I need advice Also trigger warning talks of miscarriages and self harm.

I (29yr) told my husband (38yr) that I would not be spending any time with him and his family for Mother’s Day this year.

So in November 2023 I found out that I was pregnant unfortunately December 2023 the week away from Christmas I had lost our baby. I had gone to the hospital because I had started to bleed and they were doing some tests and ultrasounds and that was the first time I heard my baby’s heart. Later, when test came back and everything we found out that the baby’s heart was failing, and that’s why my body miscarried. Ever since the miscarriage, I really haven’t been the same. I’ve been talking to my therapist, but nothing really seems to help the emptiness and helps the heartache the night feel inside my husband knows that I’ve been having a hard time with this. I’ve gone back to my old ways of cutting which I did tell my therapist about and I agreed to talk about medication possibly I’ve been using different coping mechanisms like the rubber band trick or journaling.

The second week in January I had talked to my husband about maybe taking a trip for our birthday month he’s born May 5 and I’m born May 21 so there’s a week in between our birthdays I thought maybe he and I could go away and take our mind off of everything that’s been happening here. He agreed to think about it just yesterday he had mentioned it to me and told me that he wants to know where we would go and to brainstorm some ideas and maybe we can start planning. I got excited I love to travel and this morning I was looking up different places I have five or six different tabs open on my computer. When he came home from work, we spoke, and I told him that I did some research he was happy and willing to see, but when he saw the dates that I was looking at, he stopped in his tracks and looked at me and said we can’t go away that week (May 10th - May 14th) I asked him why not and he had brought up, that the Sunday in between those days is Mother’s Day, and do I really want to spend Mother’s Day away from his family and my own. Honestly, I didn’t even think about Mother’s Day seeing as I’m not one and everything that has to do with babies and expecting others triggers me really easily right now. I told him that I wasn’t going to be spending Mother’s Day with my mom either for a plethora of reasons.

My mom and I aren’t that close. She left me when I was 17 and I had to take care of my two younger sisters go to high school make dinners and lunches. It was a rough time in my life and she’s just recently came back into my life asking for another chance we’re not exactly close I’m respectful, but I am wary about her.

As for his mother, she is a nice enough lady when she wants to be and I understand that she’s from a different generation so when she says things that sound backwards as for his mother she is a nice enough lady when she wants to be and I understand that she’s from a different generation so sometimes when she says things that sound backwards I just kind of give her a pass.

I told him that I really don’t want to be spending Mother’s Day at all with anyone. I’ve been a dog mom for as long as I can remember with my dog and unfortunately, mil doesn’t quite see me as a real mom even though I do feel like I am, but that’s a point for another day.

I told him don’t worry about it. It’s fine we don’t have to go on the trip. He gave two suggestions that wouldn’t work. The first suggestion is that we go from the Monday after Mother’s Day weekend until Thursday of that following week which wouldn’t work because quite frankly, I’ve never missed spending a birthday with my nephew, or my niece they mean the world to me, and especially now through this time, they’ve meant even more to me than I can ever explain. I told him that I wouldn’t want to miss my birthday without my nephew and my niece then he offered why don’t we go in June I don’t want to go in June the places that were looking at in June will be too hot to enjoy, and I’d rather do it in the spring where it’s, not all the way hot yet but it’s not so cold that we won’t enjoy it either plus June is our anniversary month and we had already told agreed that we were going to go down to Atlantic City for our anniversary. I told him to forget the whole thing, and that I no longer want to go. I also told him that I will not be going to see his mother on Mother’s Day even though it’s months away, I can guarantee that. he looked at me rolled, his eyes, turned over and fell asleep on the couch while I went into the kitchen to clean some dishes.

Am I the asshole for this I can’t help but feel the way I am feeling and on top of everything I just don’t wanna be around people who are either going to ignore the fact that I was a mother even for a short time, and still am one to my dog. I don’t know let me know what you think. I’m looking for genuine advice, please.

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I am almost 60 and my wife is in her mid-50’s. Our twins are almost 10. Because we had children late in life, my wife hasn’t worked in a decade. Our house is almost paid off — it’s worth around $400,000 — and I have $500,000 in my 401(k), and another $250,000 in various stocks and mutual funds. My wife does not have any retirement accounts.

I plan to retire at 67. My concern is not only having to support my wife when I retire, but also our children who will be entering their junior year of high school. We do not have a 529 plan for the twins. I have not seen any articles or advice columns for older parents like ourselves and what to do when you’re at retirement age, yet still have children at home.

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bell_flower
Here's another gem from the Moneyist

60 year old male Geezer Breeder with ten year old twins wants to retire in seven years. His Wifey is in her mid-50's. (Do I detect there was an IVF situation, because if you do the math, that means Wifey was pregnasty at age 45 with these twins.)

Wifey hasn't worked in a decade and she has ZERO retirement savings. The male Geezer Breeder "plans" to retire at age 67 when his children are juniors in high school. He has pretty healthy retirement savings, but in addition to Wifey having zero, these two haven't contributed a single cent toward college, nor have they contributed to a 529 plan.

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bell_flower

ETA: Obviously I don't have kids, but even if I did, I could never put myself in the position that Wifey is in: mid-50's, hasn't worked in 10 years, zero retirement savings? How does she sleep at night? She's essentially what my mom used to call "One man away from Welfare."

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u/Littlewildfinch
My husband’s grandparents have not been doing well so I’ve been encouraging him to visit before one loses their memory. I was the one encouraging for months to visit. Turns out him and the kids were going and I found out a week away. It stung a little bit because I felt left out of the family, it felt different than him just going. But he needs his mother to pay so I tell him how I feel and he apologizes. Now it turns out his siblings, their spouses, and my step kids all went. I was not invited. The first whole day on the trip out of state and grandma got Disneyland tickets. I’m just bewildered. She knew how I felt left out, how poor we are and behind on bills, yet this trip is turning into a true vacation.

This is how I felt growing up. Not invited or close with anyone. I’m just repeating it with a new family. I could not imagine leaving a spouse with an empty kitchen with no groceries, unpaid bills, and taking my mother up on a fun day trip. I dedicated years of my life to his parenting plan, supporting him, and providing the opportunity for custody rights, yet here I am. I am feeling guilty for buying half and half. While they are eating out and vacationing without me. I just wouldn’t do this to him. I would ask my mother to do Disneyland next trip with my spouse. Or even ask for her to help with our car payment we will be missing this month. But glad they are having fun? I am at a loss on how a family is really suppose to be and what I deserve.

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Successful_Dot2813
I got him 50/50 by being available.

You have been used.

I still pay my own bills. He covers rent. I cover utilities.

Does he do shopping, cleaning, cooking for his kids?

He crashed my paid off car and we are down to my new car with a payment I'm covering

You ARE being used.

they are eating out and vacationing without me...while I don’t have groceries

Your husband is on holiday with those he loves and cares for. His mother is providing a holiday for those she considers family.

You need to think about these things, very carefully.

Are you loved? Respected? Valued?

You come across as stressed, financially and emotionally.

Take the time away from them to think. To plan. Is this all your life is supposed to be? In 5, 10, 15 years time, people treating you like this will NOT be any kinder. The children are learning your place in this family.

Care for yourself. Rescue yourself. Love yourself.

Please.

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Da Man is keeping us down!

It keeps getting harder and harder just to be able to afford to live and there's pretty much nothing you can do about it.

My husband got a job a few years ago in a factory that used to be considered one of the best jobs you could get, factory-wise, around here. For decades, they were very selective about who they hired. It was one of those places where you basically had to know someone who worked there to be able to get hired on. Compared to the many other factories around here, they had excellent benefits, the work wasn't that difficult, they offered bonuses and lots of incentives and they paid more than many jobs that required degrees.

My husband had an application in for years before he finally got hired on. When he did, we were both so thrilled and hopeful. We thought that we were finally going to be able to make a better life, that we weren't going to struggle every single day over simple things like gas money or being able to give the kids ice cream money for school everyday. We were finally going to be able to afford to take the kids on vacation and we'd eventually be able to buy a home that wasn't way too small for our family and falling apart around us.

Instead, it's like nothing at all has changed. We're still struggling to keep the power on, to keep food in the house. We rarely go anywhere other than my husband going back and forth to work, taking the kids to school and picking them up and going to the grocery store. And none of those places are more than 2 miles from our house...which is still too small and still falling apart around us.

I'm just sick of it. And it makes me so angry that there's nothing I can do about any of it. I have so much regret for the mistakes that i made in my late teens and early 20s because those choices set my life on this trajectory and now there's no changing it. I think about all of the things that I would love to be able to do or the type of life that I really wish I had, things that my younger, more arrogant self just could not understand or appreciate and I think "If I just would have done this one thing differently, my life could very well be completely different." And everyday just goes by faster than the one before. The years keep flying by. My kids are growing up in the blink of an eye. I'm to the age now where I understand realistically that I'm likely never going to have those things. Any hope I had of giving my kids even a normal middle-class childhood is pretty much gone and I'm going to be sitting in what's left of this house until the day I die.

It's all just so hopeless; not my individual situation but the fact that the majority of the world has it just as bad, if not worse. I find myself looking around and thinking "Surely, this can't be all there is. I only have this one single life and this is what I did with it and now that I'm old enough to really appreciate the gravity of that, there's nothing that I can do to really change it in a big, meaningful way.

I know this all sounds really dark. I promise I don't spend my days depressed, crying in the dark over my regrets. I do spend my days mostly doing things that I enjoy. I do what I can to find purpose and happiness and meaning in my life. Over the past year or 2, I've started taking better care of myself– exercising daily, eating better, connecting with nature, trying to be a better mother, wife, daughter; just trying my best to be a better person, in general.

I know I am lucky in so many ways and I am truly grateful for that. It just makes me angry that corrupt, inept governments and capitalist greed get to affect my life in such huge and lasting ways. I hate that the whole world and the lives of everyone in it are at the mercy of a system designed to keep people like me stuck exactly where I am. I wish that there was something real and meaningful that I could do about it, some real way to make change. Unfortunately, the options for doing that are limited, if not nonexistent, which I guess is why I settled for coming on here and bitching about my sad little life and my immense regret due to my poor life choices to you guys...in other words, taking a few minutes to scream into the void while feeling sorry for myself.

I'll go ahead and apologize that it took me typing this whole thing out before I realized I'm basically just throwing myself a little pity party with this post...Oh well. I'm still gonna post it cause I don't want it to feel like anymore of a waste of time than it does already...so...cheers, I guess

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Reasonable person
I agree that it’s getting harder to afford to live, but you are not helpless. You say that you made bad choices in your teens and early 20s which affected the trajectory of your life. Then you blame capitalist greed and inept government for your predicament. Which is it? While I have my issues with our government as well, I don’t think we’re helpless to change our lives for the better.

Do you work? If not, getting a job could certainly improve your finances. No skills? Try community college or online programs. My mom unexpectedly found herself single and self-supporting after 20+ years of being a SAHM. She got a job in retail, and took word processing and bookkeeping classes at community college. Then she got a job as an office manager. She put all those years of scheduling, managing 4 kids, and household budgeting to use. She took accounting classes, worked hard and was a great employee. She got promoted. After awhile she found an even better job with a different employer. It took awhile, but she improved her life. It’s never too late.

ETA: I made mostly good decisions in my teens and 20s (one bad decision in my choice of a spouse). I’m older now and my life didn’t turn out as I expected either. It’s been much harder than I thought it would be. But that’s on me. I should’ve taken more risks in my career, budgeted better (the little things add up), saved more, etc. I’m reminding myself that even at my age, it’s not too late to make some changes.

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whine whine whine
You ask which is the cause for my predicament, my decisions or the system...it's both and so much more. Our lives are the result of an innumerable number of choices and circumstances that all come together to bring us exactly where we are in this very moment. Some we have some control over, others we don't. For example, my childhood made it much more likely that I would make the choices that I did back then. I was a dumb kid who didn't fully understand the consequences of those choices, but I'm still the one that made them...circumstance and choice.

My husband works 12 hour swing shifts...4 days on, 4 days off and at least 1 over time day a week. He's making right at $23/hr right now. He's either working or sleeping. Literally everything else falls on me. Sure, I could take some online classes, but what for? I live in rural SW Virginia in an itty bitty town with 1 stop light. There aren't a whole lot of career options around here. What kind of job could I get that would allow me to work around a schedule like my husband's and still allow me the time to care for a household with 5 kids and that would pay enough to actually make it worth it? How long would it take for me to complete the education needed to even do that job? With 5 kids, it's already hard giving each one the one on one time that they need and deserve. How would it affect them if I no longer had the time to give them even that much? Say I did find a career that fit all of that, how would I pay for the classes? How would my husband and I balance both of us getting back and forth to work with 1 vehicle? Sure, there are cheaper used ones out there, but how would I buy it and get it on the road when I can't even afford a gallon of milk?

I grew up with a single mother and 2 siblings, as well. My mom had to bust her ass, but she was able to keep the bills paid and to buy us everything we needed and even most of the things we wanted. She worked in a factory much like the one my husband works in now. That's the whole point of my post. Even just a few years ago, a job like the one my husband has was enough for a family to be able to live a fairly comfortable life. Sure, you may not be able to to afford a huge house and luxury vehicles, but you made enough to pay your bills, take care of your family's needs and even have enough left over to build a little savings. In just a few short years, since the pandemic, that is no longer the case. Inflation and the cost of living are so high now that the same exact job no longer affords you anywhere close to the same amount of comfort.

You say "just work harder", but the whole time everyone is trying to work harder, the price to just keep living keeps going up. When is it going to be enough? How hard am I going to have to work until I'm finally able to reliably make more money than I need to spend to care for myself and my family? Used to, a single parent could take care of their family if they had a decent job, like my mom and your mother both did. Now, it would take both parents having a job like that to provide the same kind of life. So that's already double the work for the same amount of reward.

This is what inept governments and capitalist greed have done to this country. And they won't stop until there are enough of us to make them stop.

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Here we go
I get your frustration, but most actual poor people I know are actually struggling to not get evicted from where they rent and supporting a family with children on a single mom income. It may not seem like enough to you but having a house of your own, falling apart or not, is a PRIVILEGE. Having children is also a choice, and everyone knows how expensive they are before making that decision. Your kids have a roof over their head and food on the table. Not having daily ice cream money to buy after school never killed anybody. Count your blessings.

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A glimmer of truth, but check the first line. I guess she just wanted to marry a guy who made more money.
Actually, I don't really regret not furthering my education more than I already have. When I think about what the perfect life would be like, I don't picture having a bunch of money. I fantasize about having freedom. I love my kids more than anything, but I do think about what my life would be like if I hadn't gotten married, if I hadn't had kids so very young, if all I had to worry about was myself, if I didn't have to constantly worry about the consequences of bringing these innocent little souls into a world where all day, everyday I see all of the ways that I fail to give them everything they deserve and all of the ways that it could negatively impact their futures. I'd give anything to have the perspective and the wisdom that I have now back then when I was just a dumb kid who mistakenly believed she was grown.

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"My tight pussy is ruining our marriage, what should I do?"
To start this of our (me 24F & husband 26M) sex life was amazing. It was everything I could've ever hoped for. Slow and steady or hot and heavy...but there is a major shift.

For context, we've been married for 2 years now and I had our son 6 monts ago via C-section..so 'she' is all good BUT we noticed afterwards that things are different down there. EXTREMELY THIGHT! So tight that he struggles to get it in and when he does its very painful for me. I have cried twice now during sex because of it and it's caused me to not want to do it as well because it hurts so bad.

Now our problem...my husband is dealing with a lot of frustration lately and the only way he claims he can get it out is though rough sex (365days type of shit). I complied to both times he needed it and secretly cried during and after and bled both times for a whole week which is unnatural for me(side note, I don't get periods anymore because of the type of birth contol I'm on).

We've had proper chats about the whole situation and I explained to him that I'm put off of sex because of it(the tightness and aggression). He said he respects my decision because it is my body and he doesn't want to hurt me and instead had his 'personal time' and said he will wait until I'm ready again...and it was fine..

Until 3days ago, we were lying in bed having our usual chat and I apologized to him again for not being "a good wife" when it comes to sex. Usually when we talk about the topic and I apologize, he always responds in a caring way and ensures me that he loves me even without the sex...that night he didn't, he replied coldly with "I would lie if I said it was okay".

Side note: Before you say "oh well you can help him with a BJ or HJ"...we've tried it and he says it still doesn't get his frustration out. He wants to be aggressive with me almost in a way of punishment and says when we have sex he struggles to hold back the aggression.

That broke me because I want to help, i want to be there for his needs but he has scared me into not having sex and due to the tight situation.

I can't even look at him anymore because all i can see is that aggressive sex crazy side and I've noticed today that I'm starting to resent him for it. What should I do?

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First of all, thank you to everyone who commented, I really appreciate the support!

After reading your comments, I have booked an appointment with my GYNO who delivered our baby to have a look at whats up. All this time I thought it was just one of those things that will go away over time..but you definitely proved me wrong so we're checking that out.

As for my husband, I ended up showing him some of your comments and he agrees that he needs to see someone about it. That gyming, working out, etc. won't help and that its more a mental issue.

At the moment he's being very respectful of my personal space and asks for permission to enter the room when I'm changing, showering...you get the point. And also asking first if he can hold me in bed or touch me in any way. Your comments really made him rethink everything and I'm appreciating the space.

Lastly, I'm also going to see a therapist about this mental struggle I'm in "not being a good enough wife" and hopefully get myself out of that mentality. I know I'm a good mom to our son and a good partner that ensures a roof over our heads and food on the table...but it's the sex aspect that's got me all mixed up but your comments have helped me understand it's not ALL my fault.

Edit: For those of you who are saying, "Wow, magically fixed within a day! LMAO" I didn't say it's FIXED. After we talked, we set immediate boundaries to stop things from escalating further until we get professional help. He's backing off and respecting the boundaries after seeing your comments because he feels ashamed of the way he's been going about this.

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Hormones are there and I'm like "hmmmmm how about a second baby". My smart brain knows this is a shitty idea for the usual reasons, being the ginormous amount of rent, childcare waiting lists now reaching 2 years, the fact there is no fucking village, we already don't know how we are going to do it with one and I barely made it alive out of the postpartum depression of the first round. I'm still sleep deprived because despite being nearly two, number one has decided that 5am was an optimal start hour no matter what.

I won't ever have a chance at another pregnancy (I was depressed with my first and also covid, yay), I barely remember number one's baby days because I was so fucking depressed. I'd like him to grow up with a sibling and to have a table with more than 3 people sitting around it. I was part of a big family and so was my husband (3 and 4 kids respectively).

I really feel like a failure because I can't mom more than one kid. I can tell myself that I've been diagnosed autistic so one child is hard enough, that I have physical issues so it's already a miracle I'm still in a decent shape after one, my mental health deserves to be prioritised over having another kid. And I still feel that nagging feeling of "maybe another".

Can anyone offer some help?

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I regret that I'm going to be a Dud.
“A woman is pregnant with my child. She has 2 kids of her own. Said her and I aren’t going to make a unit (as I offered), we will co-parent separately because readjusting to a unit setting is change that her and her kids (7,8) “don’t want”. She want her ex husband to have permission to walk into our house (cause his kids are here), and other things that don’t work for me. She hasn’t spoken to me in 4 months now (she is now 7months pregnant). I reached out and talked to her father. While I consider myself a good person and all my role models are fathers who stayed around their children, I’m having zero interest in playing any role there. I have a past with her and she selfishly runs and hides from difficult situations as she is doing now. I’m wandering if I’m missing something here. Why is a woman doing this? And also I feel absolutely nothing towards this child. The whole thing just sounds like my role in life isn’t meant to be played here.”

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I've had serious mental health issues for a while but have been more stable and healthy (no suicide attempts in 10 years) and I'm really proud of that but I realized after this weekend my kids trigger my ptsd, I'm in therapy, take meds, have a supportive partner etc. but the way kids demand attention, need me no matter what mood I'm in or what I need to be well so I just dissociate and power through, with tears running down my cheeks, just have to bare it. It feels like torture sometimes.

I have two under 5 and one on the way. It feels like too much and the kids don't understand so if course they just wine and cry more. They are good kids and well behaved at school and daycare but goddammit the lack of sleep is awful. I haven't slept 8 hours at night in 5 years. I am highly sensitive so maybe it's just the overstimulation that kills me, but I don't get how people say having kids was the best thing that ever happened to them Yada yadda, I feel like to be a decent mom I have to kill all of my own personal needs, boundaries, desires. I'm 34 yo, I think some younger moms grow up with their kids so maybe that's why they feel so bonded? Just venting.

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but the way kids demand attention, need me no matter what mood I'm in or what I need to be well so I just dissociate and power through, with tears running down my cheeks, just have to bare it. It feels like torture sometimes.

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mr. neptune
Don't worry she may not make it to be a therapist at all.

How is she going to be raising 3 kids and go to graduate school? Some university will accept her because they want her money but then she will have huge student loan debt to deal with. How will she write papers, do research, go to class, go to her clinical experience with all those kids?

I have heard people brag about how they work full time and go to school full time and get straight A's. I would later find out that those people were lying. I tried to work and attend college and it turned out to be a disaster. I would find myself too tired to even open a textbook after working all day.

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Cambion
People need to get something through their damn heads when they consider breeding: kids DO NOT CARE about your feelings or your needs. All they care about is ME ME ME. Maybe they will acquire empathy and a shred of selflessness as they get a little older, but typically they are always selfish little assholes and do nothing but take while giving nothing in return. If you cannot handle putting your needs, your health, your boundaries, your desires and your emotions on the back burner indefinitely, do not reproduce.

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My boyfriend and I just recently separated and I am 38 weeks pregnant. We separated bc he is an alcoholic. He is extremely mad at me and has gone one day with saying he wants nothing to do with me and our soon to be born son to now saying he is pursuing the legal route to try and get more than 50/50 custody. He also said he is moving 3 hours away from me and that he can legally do this bc obviously nothing has been filed yet bc our son isn't born yet. I have so many questions but the main ones are is it possible for him to get 50/50 custody or more while living 3 hours away from me and it involving a breastfed infant? Also, being that he is an alcoholic and has never cared for an infant/child in his life I am terrified of him being alone with him so is there a way for these things to be taken into consideration in court when dealing with custody?

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To give some detail. I'm just finding out, he told me it was something weighing on his heart. Our baby is 4 and it happened when L.o was a few months. She did it without his knowledge when he went to the bathroom. MIL never wanted us together and never really liked me. When I told her I was pregnant she told me I should abort with child. She kept trying to convince my S.o that our baby wasn't his. He told her there's no doubt and to leave said subject alone. She is a bit uppity but cordial type of woman. I've always tried to get along with her but the overbearing, nit picking, insulting nice nasty attitude has always rubbed me the wrong way.

She's tried to pull us apart every chance she got anytime we would argue. She's the type that always wants her son around and to go everywhere with her. She doesn't like that we text alot or talk on the phone so much. The amount of possessiveness she has on him is cringe, because he's an adult. You would think a 25 year old could make his own decisions without his mom trying to have a hand in everything. When the test proved our child was his she brushed it off and if anything was annoyed. He was upset and told her she shouldve just left it tf alone.

I dont understand how someone with health problems would have room to be this vile. This lady pretends to be this upstanding woman but really she is a cowardly ass snake. I kind of feel that way about S.o for holding this secret and never properly standing up to his mom. So here I am 3 years later and I feel violated. Disgusted with her, heartbroken, and just Exhausted! We have been playing nice for so long and this feels like the last straw. I've been feeling depressed this is only making it worse and I feel sort of empty. I no longer want to be around her or have my children around her (we have 2 children btw).

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My husband and I both work full time. He makes significantly more money than I do. He feels that because he brings in more money and pays our mortgage and taxes that I should be responsible for all of the house hold chores.

I do all of the laundry, cooking, cleaning, errands and kid care. He does snow blow the driveway and mows the lawn ( I do take lawn mowing shifts too). I truly appreciate that our mortgage and taxes are taking care of, but keeping up with everything while working full time is overwhelming and I'm often exhausted and fall behind. When I do fall behind I'm met with comments from him like, "Maybe I should pay the mortgage as timely as you do the laundry" or that I take everything for granted and he can't count on me to get things done. He rarely picks up after himself and is reluctant to throw old things out. Am, I wrong for thinking that this isn't how a healthy marriage works? It's no longer 1950, I can't do this all on my own. If I didn't work full time than yes, I can see most of these tasks falling on me. Thank you for reading.

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bell_flower


So many young people are reading this crap on Reddit and launching into a hatred of Boomers. It's all the Boomers' fault, etc.