The "I got bingo-ed" thread

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blackpearl
This week i'm joining a conference where mostly MA and PhD students participate and i managed to get bingoed twice already! Yesterday we went with students and teachers at a cocktail party after the presentations. Most of us there don't know each other so we started talking and asking questions to get to know each other better. Note that none of the students there had kids.

Bingo 1: A girl asked me if i am married (upon seeing my ring) and immediately asks if i have kids. I said no. She then added the most annoying "not yet" and started smiling. I just raised my eyebrow and went on eating without saying anything. I noticed that she got a bit taken aback by my coldness but dropped the subject.

Bingo 2: We were at the local student house and this colleague of mine (we did the same MA) asks me pointing at a loaf at a table nearby: " so are you going to have one of those?" I said no and mentioned sterilization. He then got so restless, threw his hands in the air "no no no blackpearl, you are so young, you cannot decide that now!!" I got a bit angry and asked him why is he so fucking interested in my reproductive plans. He was a bit amazed at my reaction and added "ok, just stop, i was teasing you." Mhm...really? Because it didn't seem teasing to me.

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elaphe_guttata
Was heartily bingoed at my favorite used bookstore today. Not heartily as in excessively, but as I was bingoed and that lady had a great deal of enthusiasm and emphasis behind it. It was kind of creepy.
I don't know what we were talking about (books obviously, just forget about what books) and somewhere it came along the line that I don't want children.

Lady: Oh you say that NOW, but you're SO young! Wait until you're thirty and those hormones start kicking, oh man, then hormones will make you SURE you want a baby and you'll have them!
me: actually I plan on getting sterilized once I have health insurance and can afford it.
Lady: Ohhhhh don't do that! You don't want to do that!
Me: Yes I do. I've never wanted children, even when I was young.
Lady: Well that's because you haven't had the hormones change yet! Don't worry they will!
Me: If they do, and I'm that desperate, then I'll adopt.
Lady: You'll make a GREAT mother.


Mind you all of this was punctuated with elaborate hand gestures on her part.
What makes people think we're automatically going to be great mothers? Is it my excellent taste in scifi/fantasy books? Clearly.

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chevygirl54
I think it's pretty funny that they think I would be a good mother. How do they know I am not going to leave the loaf at a rest stop somewhere in the middle of Montana?

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starvingauthor
I recently got hit with the "No one is born a parent" line when a guy I went to school with found out I am never having kids.

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elaphe_guttata
Was heartily bingoed at my favorite used bookstore today. Not heartily as in excessively, but as I was bingoed and that lady had a great deal of enthusiasm and emphasis behind it. It was kind of creepy.
I don't know what we were talking about (books obviously, just forget about what books) and somewhere it came along the line that I don't want children.

Lady: Oh you say that NOW, but you're SO young! Wait until you're thirty and those hormones start kicking, oh man, then hormones will make you SURE you want a baby and you'll have them!
me: actually I plan on getting sterilized once I have health insurance and can afford it.
Lady: Ohhhhh don't do that! You don't want to do that!
Me: Yes I do. I've never wanted children, even when I was young.
Lady: Well that's because you haven't had the hormones change yet! Don't worry they will!
Me: If they do, and I'm that desperate, then I'll adopt.
Lady: You'll make a GREAT mother.

Mind you all of this was punctuated with elaborate hand gestures on her part.
What makes people think we're automatically going to be great mothers? Is it my excellent taste in scifi/fantasy books? Clearly.

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elaphe_guttata
Was heartily bingoed at my favorite used bookstore today. Not heartily as in excessively, but as I was bingoed and that lady had a great deal of enthusiasm and emphasis behind it. It was kind of creepy.
I don't know what we were talking about (books obviously, just forget about what books) and somewhere it came along the line that I don't want children.

Lady: Oh you say that NOW, but you're SO young! Wait until you're thirty and those hormones start kicking, oh man, then hormones will make you SURE you want a baby and you'll have them!
me: actually I plan on getting sterilized once I have health insurance and can afford it.
Lady: Ohhhhh don't do that! You don't want to do that!
Me: Yes I do. I've never wanted children, even when I was young.
Lady: Well that's because you haven't had the hormones change yet! Don't worry they will!
Me: If they do, and I'm that desperate, then I'll adopt.
Lady: You'll make a GREAT mother.

Mind you all of this was punctuated with elaborate hand gestures on her part.
What makes people think we're automatically going to be great mothers? Is it my excellent taste in scifi/fantasy books? Clearly.

what the hell with that pushy attitude?

I don't get "you are going to be a great mom" bingo either. if I ever had a child, it would be raised by a nanny then sent to boarding school. it will be the ultimate trophy child.

(if you're in your late teens or 20s, the hormones should have started to make you want baybeeeessssss!!! prime childbearing time!!! no need to wait for the 30s)

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fade_to_pale
I like how when they go on and on, or THEY'RE so exasperated and personally insulted by our choices, they like to turn around and make US into the assholes for responding the way they practically beg us to.

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elaphe_guttata
Was heartily bingoed at my favorite used bookstore today. Not heartily as in excessively, but as I was bingoed and that lady had a great deal of enthusiasm and emphasis behind it. It was kind of creepy.
I don't know what we were talking about (books obviously, just forget about what books) and somewhere it came along the line that I don't want children.

Lady: Oh you say that NOW, but you're SO young! Wait until you're thirty and those hormones start kicking, oh man, then hormones will make you SURE you want a baby and you'll have them!
me: actually I plan on getting sterilized once I have health insurance and can afford it.
Lady: Ohhhhh don't do that! You don't want to do that!
Me: Yes I do. I've never wanted children, even when I was young.
Lady: Well that's because you haven't had the hormones change yet! Don't worry they will!
Me: If they do, and I'm that desperate, then I'll adopt.
Lady: You'll make a GREAT mother.

Mind you all of this was punctuated with elaborate hand gestures on her part.
What makes people think we're automatically going to be great mothers? Is it my excellent taste in scifi/fantasy books? Clearly.

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blackpearl
Just an update about the guy who bingoed me lately with "you`re so young, you cannot decide that now". A friend emailed me and said that he got upset because i got angry. Now WTF? You ask me about my reproductive choices and pester me because you don`t like the answer and then still it`s YOU who get upset?? And why does a friend has do write me on his behalf?Sheesh!

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chevygirl54

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blackpearl
Just an update about the guy who bingoed me lately with "you`re so young, you cannot decide that now". A friend emailed me and said that he got upset because i got angry. Now WTF? You ask me about my reproductive choices and pester me because you don`t like the answer and then still it`s YOU who get upset?? And why does a friend has do write me on his behalf?Sheesh!

Oh, honestly. Who cares if he got upset? He was rude and intrusive, and you had every right to be angry.

I am kind of curious why your friend has to act as go between here, maybe the guy doesn't have the balls to confront you again?

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blackpearl

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chevygirl54

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blackpearl
Just an update about the guy who bingoed me lately with "you`re so young, you cannot decide that now". A friend emailed me and said that he got upset because i got angry. Now WTF? You ask me about my reproductive choices and pester me because you don`t like the answer and then still it`s YOU who get upset?? And why does a friend has do write me on his behalf?Sheesh!

Oh, honestly. Who cares if he got upset? He was rude and intrusive, and you had every right to be angry.

I am kind of curious why your friend has to act as go between here, maybe the guy doesn't have the balls to confront you again?

Apparently he hasn't got the balls because he could have contacted me by himself. No need for a second party. And it still amazes aroume that i post quite many things about CFdom on FB. He sees what i post because sometimes he leaves me comments or likes at random things so it's not about blocking or anything. I mean either he does not pay attention to those CF things or he doesn't take me serioulsy. And it happened a while ago with other 2 persons from my FB list. They bingo me regardless of the fact that they know about my status but that happens IRL, on FB they never have the guts to comment anything when i post smth CF.

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yurble
Recently I got an assumption about CF people which was more amusing than offensive.

Person: How many children do you have?
Me: Zero.
Person: How many pets do you have?

I'm one of those CFers who can answer with symmetry by saying "Zero" to the second question as well, but I was amused about the way the conversation went.

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Smiling_Varla
I assume she meant it in the vein of, "My God, you don't even have kid substitutes?! How weird!" At that point, I politely changed the subject. She was quite young and didn't persist with the topic, so I figured I'd give her a pass. Still, I don't appreciate the awkward feeling I tend to get during such an exchange.

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Smiling_Varla
I assume she meant it in the vein of, "My God, you don't even have kid substitutes?! How weird!" At that point, I politely changed the subject. She was quite young and didn't persist with the topic, so I figured I'd give her a pass. Still, I don't appreciate the awkward feeling I tend to get during such an exchange.

"HOW DARE YOU BE DIFFERENT!!! THIS CONFUSES ME!!"

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starlady
There ya have it! People being different confuse the masses. I have actually seen people get very upset about people not following the lifescript. I rememeber some woman when I was in my 30's who I had told that dh and I were not having kids. She looked at me and her face actually turned red. She said something like "Oh my dear, you HAVE to have BAYBEES. What will everyone think?"
Well... I don't really CARE what they think lady. It's fun to be different. LOL (I didn't say that because I was so shocked by her (almost) anger at me.)