"Feh, I feel like it's a major issue because it just breeds conflict between the two. It's not a perfect comparison by far, but I've mentioned Jerry Falwell. His extremism breeds a lot of resentment from agnostics (of which I am one)."
HA! Then you can probably imagine what it does to us atheists. His ilk fill me with an almost homicidal rage that can only be suppressed by ranting about religion shoving assholes with my friends, or virtually. I won't go any further with that.
"A lot of parents are sort of guilty until proven innocent with me, and I think the blame for that lies in no small part with the more obnoxious parents--the extremists on that side."
And this is why I try to draw a distinct line between breeder and parent in my rantings.
"I would actually be okay with your scenario of someone finding your site, reading the warning, and proceeding. When I talked about my own research experiences, I intended to use that idea to back up the notion that moderation is a better catalyst for change. But as the board is right now, if someone shows up to read it, it's not as if they aren't warned pretty quickly."
I don't think the purpose of this site is to change anything, it's not like we're organizing, or doing much beyond our own mental masturbation.
"The referrals seem like a different story because visitors don't get linked to the warning page. They get linked to a page full of insults flung at them. Yes, a bigger person would just walk away, but a bigger CF person would shrug off obnoxious parents and live their lives. We're all defensive and we all have those urges to rant or stick up for ourselves. So, a blogger gets a link, feels insulted, and conflict ensues, and the social fallout is pretty much always detrimental. That's my complaint."
I might add here that not everyone on the internet is savvy of how the internets work, I did not know how referrals worked, and I did not know that folks didn't get a warning. I'd also add that you've stated a fact of life, people feel slighted, defend themselves and the other party gets cheesed off that someone isn't in total agreement. However, do I seek out folks with bad opinions of me? No, I don't need that. If I'm eavesdropping on someone who then talks smack about me, do I crap all over their lawn? I might think about it, I might tell my friends, but I won't actually do it...unless massive amounts of alcohol, or money, are involved. FYI, I'll crap any lawn for at least $100.
"Of course I wish that this sort of ranting just didn't show its nasty face on the Internet. I think it IS nasty, and my saying so isn't going to surprise anyone. But if that were my only complaint, I wouldn't be here."
Free speech baby, even if you don't agree with it. It is the most amazing right we have. I don't agree with Jerry Falwell, and given the chance I would kick his ass or at least yell equally offensive things a him for the rest of his life (isn't he dead yet?). He has the right to spew his stupid bile and I think that's glorious. because as a result, I have the right to call him an Evil Mother Fucker, and can only dream of telling him to his face because I don't want to change anything about him, I just want to make him cry.
"I'm not so ambitious as to think I can convince a rant board to self-destruct just because I think it's base to express social frustration in that way."
I've got some bad news for you sunshine...and it's more than Pink isn't well. Humans are base. Humans are animals. Nicey nice is facade that crumbles pretty quickly after a couple weeks without power, when the economy collapses, when the bombs start falling, when a hurricane wipes out your entire city or GW puts us all into camps for our "safety". Sure, I'm crabbing away on a board to faceless people I do not know, but you know what? I'm super nice to the annoying volunteer at my office who doesn't know when to stop talking, I'm sweet as pie to my coworker who is "sick" every Friday, and I'm friendly as hell to the mother with an armload of bags trying to get through a door. And to me, a person who grew up in the real world without the internets, that's what matters most.
"Gosh, hey, maybe extremism IS kind of counterproductive!" Well ... lovely."
I am fanatical in my hatred of fanatics, it doesn't make sense but that's how I swing.
"It truly is the one commonality that every designation of humans you can think of has, there's at least one asshole."
--Me