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Since it kinda falls into the same category as BM and the regretful ones, posting some very recent gems from r/stepparunts. This r/has over 60K members, not surprisingly. These posts are specific to childless women who are willing to put up with being stepparunts, so they are especially dumb.
Not one of them seems to be appreciated by the duhs, and all of them seem to be used instead. I've known very few duhs who have divorced and not beelined it out to date and remarry, and we have good evidence as to why this is with these examples. I guess it is better to remarry and force the new wife to be a parunt, give him sex and take care of him and keep his reputation intact instead of just being a deadbeat duh. We can only hope women become smarter than this and it becomes a movement of sorts to avoid dating and marrying duhs. If men can warn against the danger of dating/marrying single moos (which they most certainly do), why should it be any different for women to warn against the danger of dating/marrying single duhs? What is with this level of hypocrisy?
What I've not seen yet are any posts with men who are being taken advantage of by moos so that the moos won't be revealed as deadbeat moos. I don't know if it is because I'm not even halfway through the first page of posts or if men are smarter than that.
Unfortunately, the vast majority of recent posts seem to be from childless females. They could walk away at any time, and at least one appears to be doing that. Hopefully the others will do the same before they become inpig:
https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/13v40iz/boundaries_for_nonscheduled_visits/
Childless step-parent is upset that her Memorial Day holiday alone with husband (duh) was cancelled by the original mahm.
Of course the minute the idea was brought up to the duh about the brat being there on mahm's day he caved and encouraged the brat to be there.The moo is all about her day of freedom from the brat but she is decent enough to have a "guilt face" when she drops off the brat.
https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/13uctfa/on_the_issue_of_rent/
This one is another stupid childless woman, who is now a step-parunt. The shit duh expects her to pay 50% of rent even though he is the homeowner and the one with the brat.
If she doesn't leave, he will completely take advantage of her, dump his brat on her, have sex with her and expect her to cover half of the bills.
I bet he expects her to be a housekeeper, bratsitter, cook and of course to give him sex.
https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/13uzh39/is_it_normal_for_my_partner_to_go_spend_time/
This one is yet another stupid childless woman, who is now a step-parent. She needs solitude and wishes the duh would leave and take his teen brats out and about for a day or so each week.
He refuses to do so and often tries to get HER to expand her plans to include the teen brats while he has alone time.
Apparently, it has become a thing and tries to turn every situation into an opportunity
for him to be alone and for her to mind the two teen brats. He pretty much refuses to leave the house with the two brats unless his wife is there.
https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/13v5vgl/does_bm_get_to_see_my_taxes_if_i_marry_my_so/
This (presumably) bratless woman wants to know if she marries a man with brats, will her income be taken into consideration towards brat support? And she admits that the mahm is trying to constantly get more money out of him. Knowing this, why get married? Why not just date so that she never has to have any concerns about this kind of nonsense? Mahms can't attempt to eject funds out of a girlfriend, so why step out of this role in the first place?
Better yet, why date a duh who has so much freaking baggage in the first place?
What would stop him from quitting his job once he is married to her? And if he does this, how would she handle the mahm nagging her for money?
https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/13udp4n/husband_didnt_come_home/
This one doesn't state if she is childless or not but it is implied. The duh had her drop him off at his friend's place at 7 p.m. and stayed out all night instead of for a few hours as they agreed and refused to acknowledge any of her texts for the entire night. You can guess who was left watching the brats. Apparently, this isn't the first time this has happened. When pressed, she admits he likely has a drinking problem. Later on in the thread she admits she is "the breadwinner". WTAH? Why on earth would she stick around for this nonsense?
Others on the thread are saying their dads were alcoholics and did this exact same thing.
Someone else on the thread had their husband go out for a ride on his motorbike and proceed to vanish for the night and called his best friend to find out he was crashed out on his couch. The ass came home the next day at 5 p.m.
Since she is posting on step parunts at least some of the brats are his.
https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/13u082q/day_2_of_8_with_sd12_and_sds_bff/
This childless one married a duh who only sees his brat on school holidays and summer. Apparently this contact alone is enough to make the duh go into an anxiety spiral. And let's just guess who ends up doing the majority of the parunting when the dotter arrives, because I doubt it is him.
Guess who decided to dump her BFF on them this year for one week without asking permission and had already purchased another plane ticket? Of course, duh is spineless and didn't tell the mahm no.
Now the childless woman is stuck with two adhd brats even though she states outright she isn't a "brat" person. Apparently the adults in this situation (including the mahm and grand mahm, the duh, and the step-parunt) have been fighting about this situation for days on end and are all stressed out and taking it out on each other and trying to control each other. Meanwhile, there are four people in a two-bedroom house for one week.
https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/13txjtq/i_can_change_plans_but_wont_tell_you_theres_a/
This childless one married a duh whose ex uses every opportunity with his dotter to show up late to pick her up and if they stand their ground, she punishes them by giving them less time with the brat. Moo punishes the brat if duh doesn't fall into place and bad mouths him to step dotter.
https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/13tjy5q/in_case_anybody_is_on_the_fence_about_dating/
This childless one just got a text from the duh she is dating telling her “I’m sick of this being a you vs her situation because there is not one. It’s only what’s best for (daughter) when I consider things.”
Hopefully she gets a clue and dumps his ass, because it is going to be his way or the highway, period. What she may not realize is that he has actually done her a huge favor in his honesty. Most duhs wait until the deal is sealed to be this forthright. He must be thoroughly convinced she'll stick around. If she dumps him, he won't likely be this forthcoming ever again to a woman he is dating.
https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/13tt0ph/bf_and_kid_have_moved_in_before_i_am_ready/
This childless one let her new boyfriend and his brat move in with her, after he became unemployed. She thinks things are moving too fast.
She is saying he has a pattern of unemployment and doesn't want to discuss his finances with her.
He rents from his parents, who are likely sick of renting to a dead beat. More and more of their crap is now at her house. People are commenting he is a hobosexual and is trying to establish residency so that she cannot kick him out.
https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/13tbkew/moving_out_ventadvice/
This childless woman has been with duh for 6 years and lately things are tense. The brat lives with them.
She has decided to not renew the lease. Duh is complaining that without her he cannot afford a lease and she is screwing him.
At least this one has woke up and is no longer willing to be mooched off of and she didn't marry or become inpig by him. Too bad she wasted six years of her young life wrangling his brat and putting up with his guilt trips.
I have no pity for these childless women who choose to date, live with, or marry duhs. They let themselves get into this situation by getting involved with these wastes of testerone so they have only themselves to blame for this.
They need to extricate themselves from these toxic relationships if they want any freedom or financial security because these duhs are exploiting them for childcare and money. If they choose to stay then oh well.
I am so glad this won't ever be me.
OMFG, I had to grab this gem from the IRIHC page on FB before the original writer tries to snatch it back.
Asian woman, who says she's in a country where women who don't marry are shunned, had kids and is BITTERLY jealous of a young CF woman in her office, whom she proceeds to HARASS.
This bitter bitch needs to be called out and I'm surprised at how many people are NOT doing it. If she were a man, she would be rightfully called out, but she's just a Moo and of course all the apologists are wading in and telling her how sorry they are for her. WTF? My sympathies lie with the target of her endless harassment.
Incidentally I was cheering inside for how the target is putting this Bitter co-worker in her place but SHIT, what a shame she has to in the first place. This is just the kind of crap that CF women endure in the workplace.
I truly hope this Moo gets hit by a bus and/or stops harassing this sensible, 30-something woman who is too smart to ruin her life with crotch nuggets.
I added the paragraphs and made some editorial corrections. Seriously, why are parunts incapable of writing paragraphs and using punctuation? And I added some observations of my own.
Asian woman, who says she's in a country where women who don't marry are shunned, had kids and is BITTERLY jealous of a young CF woman in her office, whom she proceeds to HARASS.
This bitter bitch needs to be called out and I'm surprised at how many people are NOT doing it. If she were a man, she would be rightfully called out, but she's just a Moo and of course all the apologists are wading in and telling her how sorry they are for her. WTF? My sympathies lie with the target of her endless harassment.
Incidentally I was cheering inside for how the target is putting this Bitter co-worker in her place but SHIT, what a shame she has to in the first place. This is just the kind of crap that CF women endure in the workplace.
I truly hope this Moo gets hit by a bus and/or stops harassing this sensible, 30-something woman who is too smart to ruin her life with crotch nuggets.
I added the paragraphs and made some editorial corrections. Seriously, why are parunts incapable of writing paragraphs and using punctuation? And I added some observations of my own.
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I come from an Asian country where every woman is obligated to get married before 30 years old or people will view her as some sort of leftover. So I got married at the age of 30, which was a very close call. So close to being called a ‘spinster’.
Do I love this man? Of course not, but as long as he can provide for me, there should be no issue. Who needs love in a relationship anyways? I was wrong.
Everytime that man touches me, with his physically unfit body (fermented drinks/alcohol beer belly) I feel so disgusted. I can’t orgasm because his belly is just rubbing off me so during sex,it’s more him than me. The last time I had an orgasm was when I was doing “it” by myself. I thought being with a man would heighten my sexual experience, but my husband is as clueless as an empty log. Miracles do happen since without enjoying every time he touches me we now have two kids.
These kids don’t respect me at all. They’re both boys. I try to teach them empathy and to be soft but their father figure who always thinks “he’s an Alpha” always feeds them crap like “when you grow up find a woman who can care for you” and his definition of care is me being a slave. He pretends to not know how to do the dishes, he gets all the recipes wrong whenever it’s his time to cook just so I can take over but before he met me he was doing just fine.
Every time I ask him to sweep the floor, he says “isn’t that what girls are born to do? girls are better doing that, we men we give money that’s enough”. He doesn’t hold my hand even when crossing the road. I have my baby on the left while holding his big brother on the right.
I’m miserable. I am so miserable there’s this young girl at my office, an intern, she’s young, vibrant, full of energy, lively, and annoyingly smart. I project so much of my insecurities onto her because I am jealous of her. I always convince her “you should find a man to marry, marriage makes us women happier” but surprisingly she said “not in the 21st century Ma’am, not anymore”.
I am even more shocked to find out she doesn’t even date a man, but a woman? impossible. but her woman girlfriend comes to visit her at the office every lunch hour, brings her packed lunches, she sent her flowers too. I saw the delivery guy. This makes me more jealous because I am with a man, who is the ‘default’ gender to date but even with that I’m not happy. I don’t know how two women can have sex but she told me she can orgasm every time? (Editor's note: hahahahahahahaha way to rub it in and you go, Girl!)
I was furious. Even the same sex people are happy, no wonder many dislike same sex people because a lot of people are not in love so they are jealous to see people in love no matter what sexuality.
I try to make conversations to her about how wonderful my kids are when in reality they are little rascals who I want to spank, but I can’t. Surprisingly the young woman in my office only says “ok great for you, not for me”.
I get more jealous of her when she told me about how she travels solo every year… I asked her “a woman? traveling solo? that’s not safe; you should find a man”. I know I’m being toxic but I’m so glad younger generation nowadays don’t think like we used to and I low-key am happy for them. (Editor's note: go sell that to someone else, Moo because it sounds like you are an obnoxious broken record.)
She has a great body, she has great group of friends who go out every Friday night for great drinks, but I tried convincing her “okay, you’re not going to do all that when you’re 30 or 40, you should plan on getting married and have kids”.
I think she’s gotten irritated (ya think?) and she said “my life doesn’t belong to any men and I don’t want to serve men or even kids, I wake up peacefully, I sleep peacefully, my house is clean, my dog is happy and I eat at luxury places every Sunday, now why would I give that up just so my vagina can look beat up and I have peeing issues? Women are much more educated nowadays, we know children don’t bring us joy”.
Ed's note: I'm not even a lesbian, and this woman sounds so awesome, I would probably fuck her if I met her in real life. The retorts are FABULOUS.
Once I tried saying to her “so you’re a crazy cat lady?” she said “but my dog’s expenses cost more than your kid’s mediocre life”. That one was on me, definitely. I can’t believe people use this as an insult when caring for animals is better than caring for a husband like mine with my kids. Kids who are also not very smart. Her dog can do tricks at least.
She struts around because she doesn’t have to deal with kids vomit, mundane sex life.. her car is her own car too, I am using my husband’s car and I have to beg for 50 dollar every time to buy groceries.
She has now moved to another department, she got promoted. I am still just a woman who hasn’t been promoted, (Gee I wonder why?) a pathetic wife with pathetic husband and my kids trash my house. My advice to all the young ladies out there, please always choose yourself. It’s okay to choose yourself. Time has changed very much. Sex isn’t everything. Marriage isn’t everything.
I have to go through this to figure it out. How I convince myself with these single child free women is “hey, at least I’m married”. I wear the marriage status like a badge of honor because honestly I’m nobody without it.. Take out my “Mrs”. Really I am nobody… I even make my whole personality about being married because that’s how I feel better…”
I learned that women mooing and lowing over not getting the desired gender in a child has a name: gender grief, or gender disappointment. The point of this discussion is Moo found out she was five months gone and has been vaping the whole time, but then also a mention of how sad she is she's not getting the girl she wanted when this is going to be her final loaf.
Other heifers chime in about their disappointment in not getting a child with the preferred genitals. And how they wish so bad they got the boy or girl they wanted, but they just wound up with a third boy or fourth girl and were so upset and disappointed about it... bu oh, they don't love that less than ideal child any less.
And Moo should be free to grieve the imaginary child that will never be. That sounds mentally unhealthy to me.
https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/14ge6rn/im_a_terrible_mother/
Other heifers chime in about their disappointment in not getting a child with the preferred genitals. And how they wish so bad they got the boy or girl they wanted, but they just wound up with a third boy or fourth girl and were so upset and disappointed about it... bu oh, they don't love that less than ideal child any less.
And Moo should be free to grieve the imaginary child that will never be. That sounds mentally unhealthy to me.https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/14ge6rn/im_a_terrible_mother/
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So I just found out I’m pregnant the weekend before Memorial Day. I took a test 3 months ago and another 2 months ago and they were both negative, so I thought my period was just extremely irregular. I went to my first app today- and I’m 20 weeks 2 days. Up until I got a positive a few weeks ago I’ve been smoking. I haven’t had many cigarettes but I vaped like… a lot. And it turns out I was pregnant all along but getting negatives.
Ans if that’s not bad enough? This is baby number 3, and the final one. I have 2 boys and had my heart set on a girl since it’ll be our last, and wouldn’t you know, it’s a boy. Obviously I love this kid to death the same as I do my other 2 boys, but when I opened the gender envelope (I had them put it seperate bc my bf was at work until I got to work with him) I literally just walked out of the car and cried in the bathroom. And I feel terrible about it. I don’t love this baby any less because he’s a boy or any less at all matter of fact, but the fact I’ll never has a girl apparently crushed my heart. Oh and the stress of finding out I’m not only pregnant but half way through within weeks is sending my anxiety. I feel like the worst mom ever
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